What do you do when your other half tells you that they may be gay and are not sure if they want to be with you anymore as a married couple? They ask for time to figure it out, how much time do you give them? Is it just a phase?
2006-08-14 03:32:02 · 17 answers · asked by lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Holy ****. If they told you they were gay - then they are gay. Most people would just continue to lie to their spouse, at least you found one that wants to be honest with you. It is a shame they didn't let you in on this little secret before you were married.
This is one problem with our society - if we didn't force people to hide their sexuality, people wouldn't end up in your situation, because you would never have married him in the first place.
Remember this though: His sexuality isn't your fault. He obviously thought you'd be able to change him, which means he holds you in a high esteem. As painful as it may be however, let him go sweety. Hopefully this won't destroy your friendship as it will end your marriage. I'm sorry and will pray for you.
2006-08-14 03:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Forgiven 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When someone tell u that..is not a phase deep down they always know. I kiss a girl before but I'm not gay it was just to turn on a gay I liked. For fun. But is not what I want..I want a man..u know. If they tell u they think. You need to sit down breathe...make sure you don't feel like u turn them gay. They don't turn gay over night..Is obvious this person that marry u trust u a lot to tell u this. U must love them a lot to have marry that person, so if anything goes down like they are positive they are. Just support that person, they never meant to hurt you. They try but they rather be honest with u and tell u then to let you live a lie. Is how you take it. Weather you talk to them again after the storm or not they would understand.
2006-08-21 14:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my husband told me he was gay and didn't want to be with be anymore. I couldn't do anything but except it, and start preparing to live my life without him. I would not allow him any time to "figure it out" what he wants to do. If you think you want a man, then you don't want me. I will make the decision for him. Don't get me wrong, I would be very hurt and wish things could be different. But at the same time, I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want me.
2006-08-20 10:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by SpittinThaReal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My girl friend had a son from this man and they got married a year later she said people kept coming to her tellin her that her man was gay the way she figured it out the bedroom was dead and her told her all she wanted was sex and that he was nt down, and wanted her out of his life end this mess now meaning the marriage, she was hurt, she said he had fem ways but she did not pay attention to it until she got fed up and divorced him. he use girls as a front from his family.
2006-08-22 03:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpeachyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is unfortunate news for you but you WILL do better the second time around. Take it slow and be single for 20 to 50 years.
2006-08-21 17:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Battery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard of Terri McMillan...she's an author who wrote the book How Stella Got her Groove Back....it was based on her meeting her husband at her prime......well years and a marriage latter he left her because he was gay.....google the info and maybe you can email her to get some advice.
2006-08-22 03:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be a chicken & play video games like attempting to get her to interrupt up with you. I understand the desire to not injury & to purpose to ward off the scene. I additionally accept as true with he poster who says wait till after the vacations. you have long previous 7 years, what's some extra weeks at this factor? She has promised in front of her kinfolk & your finished community to love you & stand with the aid of you forever. that's confident to hit a lot of thoughts, some that isn't make experience to you, like she could be humiliated. Why? thoughts are not rational. each and every of the damaging thoughts & thinking she's stupid for not understanding will run with the aid of her, faster or later. as quickly as you have gotten your information out ot her, take your cues from her. you have had a lot of time to return to words with this. She has not. She has no administration or say right here. yet another factor that leads to many damaging thoughts. i'm very sorry on your subject & hers. i'm hoping there are not little ones. If there are, you & your spouse ought to seek for counselling on a thank you to superb destroy the information to them. teenagers tend to blame themselves whilst mum and dad divorce, in spite of the particular motives for the divorce. There might desire to be components of this woman you like & know a great deal to have married her interior the 1st place. bear in mind that. you recognize her extra suited than we do. Use your expertise of her to steer your words. enable her be offended, cry, regardless of. whilst she's waiting for the subsequent section, the conversing, you will know. do not push her. do not provide her fake desire like withdrawing & announcing you would be bi. Pulling the band help off directly & cleanly is the kindest pass right here. in case you have remained truthful, there is no rationalization why a friendship can't advance out of this down the line. in case you have been untrue, i could probable choose you keep that information to your self, however the certainty of the subject is that that's a wellness subject & she merits to correctly known, in simple terms possibly not as quickly as you tell her. till she asks. Be honest then.
2016-10-02 01:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had anyone tell me that but if they did, I'd give them the rest of their life to figure it out. If you don't know if you want to be with me, hell you don't even know what sex you want to be with, then you don't need to waste my time period
2006-08-22 02:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go sweety. Anyone who is selfish enough to come out after making a promise to their spouse to love till death do you part doesn't deserve to have time to think. bullshit, move on!
2006-08-21 13:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy S. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your sex life had been great, then there still a chance for your spouse to hold his/her feelings. Go take a counsel. Unless, your sex life have been a disaster lately, then you might consider loosing him/her.
2006-08-19 05:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by papadaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋