what could be the cause of painful sex?

Question

everytime i have sex it hurts.. as if his penis is hitting off one of my organs.. its a bit weird and means i dont enjoy penetrative sex or put as much effort in as much as other things.. i also get period type cramps after sex. And i'm sure if it's related but i get those same pains during exercise and they can be so bad that i've had to stop before. Any help would be much appreciated!

Answer 1

What is dyspareunia?
Dyspareunia (say: "dis-par-oon-ya") is painful sexual intercourse for women. It can have many causes. It is important to talk to your doctor if you have this problem because there are effective treatments for many of the causes.

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There are a few reasons for painful sex.
Like excesses your muscles inside your sexual body do contract and will get tender and sore. But excessive pain needs to be looked at by your doctor.
There are too many reasons to put them all here but see the sites and YOUR DOCTOR.
Sex should not always be painful...not extremely painful.

AND Dear Do NOT listen to the MEN, do you see these blokes only answer is MORE LUBE AND FOREPLAY!
If it was their WILLIES that hurt they would be running to the nearst doctor!
So please listen to MOST of us ladies, see a doctor!

Answer 2

When it comes to painful sex in most cases it comes down to not enough sex [foreplay] prior to penetration, or not being emotionally ready, outside of that it is often down to psychological or physical health problems.

That said however with what you are describing it sounds obvious – and frankly I am very shocked that this was only mentioned the once – it sounds as though he is hitting your cervix when he is penetrating you. The cervix is the opening to your uterus, this is just at the top of your vaginal canal and is very sensitive – when you are fertile or menstruating your cervix will be softer, lower and more sensitive, so you may find it more painful to have sex around these times of your cycle.

This has nothing to do with size, it is to do with penetration, vaginas are on average around 3-4 inches relaxed, 5-6 inches when aroused – take into account then that the average penis length is around 5.5 inches long – so if the penetration is too deep the penis can be too big to fit into the vagina, also if not fully aroused this can make the situation worse. During sex in most positions the penis does not go all the way in, however positions such as girl-on-top it will go further in, thus meaning more likely to cause you pain.

In short, try different positions where the penetration is not as deep, or where you can control the depth of penetration a little better in case he gets carried away, of course he should be able to control himself, if he cannot then work on it together. Don't just put up with the pain either, as obvious as that seems the number of girls and women I have come across who seem to believe it is supposed to hurt or that they should suffer pain for their partners pleasure is shocking. The pain can also be pleasurable if you get it controlled in a way that isn't going to leave you unable to walk – I have been in this situation with a past partner, where literally I could hardly walk.

The pains you have after can be eased off in a similar way to menstrual cramps, drinking raspberry leaf tea or a hot water bottle on your stomach, even clarity sage rubbed into your stomach will help as well. The pains you get after exercising are likely to be cramps from lack of oxygen to your body, the pains are similar but not the same thing – although to be on the safe side it may be worth mentioning this to your doctor just in case.


Some general sites you may find useful;

http://www.sexwithoutpain.com
http://www.the-clitoris.com
http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/owtowow.html

Answer 3

their could be a number of factors that are causing this pain-
1. this size of his penis
2. you could be in the develpmental stage of endometriosis
3. you could have what they call p.i.d.(pelvic inflammatory disease0 dont worry nothing a few antibiotics wont clear up..

which in case can all be serious if you dont go get checked out....a pap smear will rule out anything harmful and at the same time can catch something before i t gets worst..i suffered from painful intercourse for years and painful periods and went and got checked and told me that i had mild dysplasyia..which is small cancer cells forming on my uterus..well long story short they got to it on time and i am now free of the long painful symptoms...we should not have any pain at all..GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

maybe your not getting turned on enough and as he slides his penis in you arnt wet enough which causes you discomfort.maybe telling him how it sometimes hurts will help as this will enable you to have more oral fun before you go for the whol sex.if u get turned on you produce a chemical which makes your vaginal waal moist .so you just have toi get the tap drippin and youll be on the way to nejoyable sex again.good look!!.: )

Answer 5

1st smoke a joint so u wont really care because ur too wranked off drugs
2nd go see a sex doctor!
3rd wear a condom!
4th take the tampon out that might help
5th alway always smoke a ciggreete after unless you cant
6th dont choke on the condom.
7th have fun

Answer 6

There's a few things, an inflammatory infection (nothing to do with v.d ) if you use a coil that can be painfully sometimes ovary cysts. You need to see a doctor who can sort your problem out. sometimes I find that when I'm due on its pain full,

Answer 7

It sounds like youre not relaxed enough and / or hes going in too deep. Try taking it REALLY slowly, lots of lube, see if that help

Answer 8

a million. first of all, how old r u? basically checking. while you evaluate that's no longer ideal habit for youthful visitors. 2. you need to work out somebody greater appropriate in this section than your accepted practitioner. this sounds heavily wack and you need to get this regarded at. no longer solid.

Answer 9

You could have a retroverted uterus. This would cause pain during intercourse. I know you've heard it before but go see a Gynnie and have this checked.

Answer 10

It sounds like he may be bashing against your cervix, try wiggling about a bit or changing positions