Have you meet control freaks who want you to be or expect you to be certain way and if not they make your life impossible.
2006-08-14 03:17:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No other than parents.
2006-08-14 03:21:34 · update #1
People in society.
2006-08-14 03:21:50 · update #2
Naturally, the world has a huge variety of people with different characteristics.
People who are termed 'control freaks' I think prefer to get a strong, maybe too strong, grasp of the people in their life and around them. They could be just the way they are - born and lived like this without any inkling to open up the closed-up fist, to relax.
In some instances, these people can be the people that love you the most. Perhaps too over-protective at times, perhaps a certain expectation set in their head. It is complex, but there are many examples where we care or love someone too much. One could start expecting the other party to behave a certain way if their relationship is so tightly bonded, until he forgets that we all need our personal space at times.
Some people desire control over others because they themselves do not have a personal security unless they know that they can control others. Remember this, some people who show that they can control others are unable to have a personal focus. They may feel lonely, afraid, if they do not grasp on to people. Surprisingly, some of these control freaks are the ones that need a little more attention.
We all have our own way of how we want to live. No one should control us because we can think for ourselves. However, think through the above pointers about how we could be too loved, that we need our space, that some people who seemed the strongest are those that really need appreciation and attention.
2006-08-14 03:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by JT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I worked with a guy who retired last year, that was that way! I worked with him for ten years. It was his way or the highway. He would report you for no reason or some supposed trumped up charge that was only a figment of his imagination. He was always looking for a fault in you so he could "take it to the properly authorities", meaning usually that you were discriminating against him because he was American Indian.
All of us that worked with him tried to reason with him to no avail. I was always trying to get him to see that no one in this workplace was against him. Finally, I told him that he was his own worse enemy and a piece of work, no wonder he didn't have any friends and that the people who he went to lunch with didn't really like him anyways but just put up with him! I also told him that his family probably didn't like him either! I had been pushed that far to react, to his tirades, and react I did! But you know what, it didn't make me feel any better. Just sick and ill that I hand stooped to his level. From then on I didn't allow him to bait me like that any more and he went on to trouble someone else until he retired. (He died a year and a half after he retired).
2006-08-14 10:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seem to be a magnet for them. Must be a personality thing. Maybe I'd better take one of those test huh? At work, boyfriends, husbands... seems after they think they have you they start the thumb down routine. Anymore when I see that I runnnn the other way. By the way were you peeking? :-)
2006-08-14 10:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I worked with a few the one was really csazy she threw knifes around the kithchen of the restarant were I worked I can't beleive she got to keep working after that she suffured from a throid disorder
2006-08-14 10:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by lexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, yes. I've heard that I can be very controlling. Of course I don't look at it this way. I think of it more like gently pushing a person towards a way that I see fits them better.
My mother-in-law can be controlling. My husband is controlling. He's also stupid.
2006-08-14 10:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by shawonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of people are like that, and more often than not, they find their way into positions of authority. Learning how to be rude to someone that deserves it is a valuable life skill.
2006-08-14 10:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,i think we all meet people like that in our lives,but they hav help me become fiercely independent and i hav carved out my own personality fighting off these manipulators.
2006-08-14 10:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by knu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know them, but I learn to forgive and limit them.
2006-08-14 10:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by strong_beautifulqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is that you?
2006-08-14 10:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband......
2006-08-14 10:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋