my friend is not studying and he is failing all his papers in university and he knows he is ruining his life but he still keeps on gaming. As his best friend, i have tried to cheer on him and help him in any possible way but he still wouldn 't move.
should i give up? how do you motivate someone to work?
2006-08-14 02:40:59 · 9 answers · asked by Spidergurl 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
As a general rule, until someone hits their personal rock bottom and is ready for help, there isn't much you can do. They are making choices and will have consequences of those choices. (Or if you want to get biblical, you reap what you sow.)
2006-08-14 02:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by oklatom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to you are blue in the face and if they don't want to leave the games alone - they wont.
As a last resort, you can rip the game cord out of the wall and toss the system out of a 6th story window. Then slap him repeatedly.
Enough with the nice stuff.
2006-08-14 10:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by saphires77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how to be a good man!!! .. show some examples of people who have ruined their lifes .. OR if he thinks gaming is fun .. u show him some other way to be fun like do some sports in skool..
I can contact him .. and give him some advices if you want!!!
2006-08-14 09:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♫♥ÇHÅTHÜ®ÏKÃ♥♫♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are 2 ways to do it:
1) Negative enforcement
2) Positive enforcement
Negative Enforcement: Threaten to smash his computer if he fails his next paper.
Positive Enforcement: Promise to let him touch your breast if he passes his next paper.
2006-08-14 09:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by bacheeku 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use the gaming as a reward. Steal his joypad and give it back to him when he has completed his work. Give him a slap as well it helps to point things in the right direction.
2006-08-14 09:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend could just be lazy, but then again, he may be clinically depressed.
Contact your university's counseling service.
Perhaps when you tell him you have spoken to the counselors about him, he will realize there is reason for him to be concerned about himself.
However, if he refuses to help himself, there is nothing you can do.
2006-08-14 23:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by X 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to study with you one night on the classes you both take.
Any quizzes, tests, midterms coming up? You can study for them together and he'll see it's not too hard.
2006-08-14 09:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by That-BAM!-girl! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gotta get him away from gaming first, get him some stimuli of the opposite persuasion maybe, it might not help much but it's a start
2006-08-14 09:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by Auggie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't give up quite yet. Just tell him that you understand that the army, whereever you live, is still looking for recruits..
2006-08-14 09:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋