Let say your parents dont like the person you love and they want you to leave the person you love. You love your gf/bf so much that you cant leave him/her at all. You also love your family so much. But your family is so against your bf/gf because he/she is a different religion as you are. Who will you choose? Your love or your family? Please think wisely and give your answer. It might be very useful to some people. Thanks..
2006-08-14 02:38:01 · 15 answers · asked by sherin k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well,this situation is too sucks.because I know that there are so many people in this because of the diffrent religion.sometimes I ask to my family that if Iove the person who belongs other religion and culture what happens and they say never ever.but I know that the most important thing is how I love my b/f and he as well.I beleive our love I do not care what everbody says.of course everbody loves their family and I can not make a decısıon between them.an I know if they beleive that I really love hım they wıll let me to marry or make a relatıonshıp.but just you should express your real feelings.just follow your heart.they wıll understand you..
peace
2006-08-14 02:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by feel_the_fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation. Let me first tell you that it is an uphill battle you will be fighting, so be prepared. My family did not accept my now husband, then bf. I was disowned, ostracized and endured much abuse for my choice. I chose my husband. Whether he is the right or the wrong person for me was not relevant, but I wanted to make a statement to my family that they cannot dictate my life for me. After the dust settled, I realized that I had very little support, and people I had trusted had turned their backs on me. It has been a few years since that upheaval and most family members have come around...somewhat...there is still a lot of resentment. For me I have learned to become more independent and self-reliant, and I have also learned to care less about what people think of me.
Would I recommend anyone to go through what I did...No...but I know that I made the right choice for the survival of my spirit. If I lived my life to please other people or on other people's terms, I know I would end up miserable and suicidal.
2006-08-14 10:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. If you choose your gf or bf you had better be real sure of what you are doing. Your family is forever and bf/gf may come and go. It's your life , so you must do what is in your heart. You will have to live with your decision, for a long time.
2006-08-14 09:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you must ask yourself before anybody else. Honest to God type of deal. Where you stand in your religion. How deep are you in that religion. Becasue now God is involve. I am assuming religion = spiritual forces/matters. So it is now beyond the material realm. So where do you stand ?
Secondly, you must be clear is what you mean by love ? marriage is the union of 2 person in body, mind and soul. Soul mate if you will. If you have found such a person then it is what God has intended for you. And you are very bless to have found such a relationship.
Thirdly, If you are thinking of marriage, you must know, the wedding ceremony is but a graduation ceremony of courstship, becasue the real job comes after that. You must ask yourself now some manly question : What is you idea, defination of being a husband ? What does it mean in terms of finances, in terms of relationship, in terms of meaning. What is your idea of Father, of being a father ? Of having children ? How you would be a father ? What you will impart to your children ? Does your future wife share the same ideals and philosophy . If you have 2 different religion how is that going to help or hinder the objective of this marriage.
Fourthly, your parents have brought you up, they have sacrifice for you. They are God given too. So now presuming your Parents are God given, and your soul mate is God given, then you have to have faith and trust God for His timing. If both are from Him, timing must and will be from Him.
If you say I don't believe in God, and choose to do it your own way, then you have to like all things face whatever the consequences. God or no God, if its mean disharmony to blood relations or soul relations you must wait for harmony to appear. If there is bad blood , love or no love is no good.
2006-08-14 09:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must always pick your loved one. That is who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. If it turns out to be a mistake, then so be it, but it will be your mistake, not your family's. They need to let you make your own choice and you must choose that person who you wish to spend the rest of your time with. Hopefully, in time, the family will learn to accept your loved one. If not, move on, spend your life with your loved one and don't look back.
2006-08-14 09:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that would depend on if you plan on staying with this person you love. We are all individuals that can think and feel for ourselves, I personally would choose my love seeing how it is not my parents decision. I would respect the fact that my parents were honest with me and would hope that they would respect my decision and stand beside no matter what I choose. If they couldn't do that then I would tell them I'm sorry you feel the way you feel and would hope one day you would stand by me not against me.
2006-08-14 09:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by star110772000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally me, i would go with the loved one. your family is there to raise and love you. But the love of a person you love is something different. love is hard to find and when you do hold on to it. dont let a silly lil thing like different religion stand in the way of love and true happiness
2006-08-14 09:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you may need to call some "BLUFF" your family needs to understand how you feel about this girl and you need to understand that life is to short to not be happy. Your family may not speak to you or disown you, but then again it may take some time for tham seeing how serious you are about her and have respect for your decision. Either way it is your decision and ultimatly you are the one that will be affected by it the most. just remember that true love only comes around once.
2006-08-14 09:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to live iwth your family for the rest of your life. You have to choose the partner you think you will be able to love forever.
This is an example of religious hatred. It's not a positive thing.
2006-08-14 09:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your bf and it s only a matter of religion...i think you should check other things like; is he a good person? is he kind with you? is he hard working? do you think your relationship has future? do you see yourself married with him?...if the answers were yes...then go on with your relationship and explain your parents that you love him and that they would have to accept him or loose you.
If the answers were no then...break up with him
2006-08-14 09:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋