2006-08-14 02:36:42 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ohh, ohh, go on the Mori Povich show.
2006-08-14 02:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by BuyTheSeaProperty 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Hey, u know ur boyfriend better than anyone, The question is are u guys ever going to be married?, Do you guys have a great relationship?, How would u feel had the shoe been on the other foot? If you really love him and feel bad abt what you did you should tell him other wise keep it to ur self till the day u die. Oh yeah u should never be misleading to anyone depending on how old the baby is he could already feel love for the child and it would hurt for him to know so far along. But if your pregnant tell him now so he will have a decision to make.
2006-08-14 03:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him the truth, and the whole truth. That doesn't mean every single detail. But if you tell him, and if he's worth keeping, he'll trust you all the more (once he gets over the shock). Believe me, there is nothing more hurtful than lying or keeping it from him. Tell him, he'll be understandably hurt and angry, but if he really cares for you and if he's worth being there for you, he'll eventually get over his own selfishness and help you through this hard time. It can only make your relationship stronger, even if that means he leaves you. At least you know that you aren't stuck with a scumbag who would abandon you on the first sign of trouble. And if he stays with you, then wow! He's a keeper! Don't let him out of your sight! lol. Good luck! And be strong!
2006-08-14 02:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by lotr_seom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW....I have so been there! It is a really tought situation to be in. Honesty is alwasy the best way.....just deal with it now, you will have to deal with it eventually, so the sooner the better! Dont contemplate, beat around the bush, or sit on this situation any further, it just gets worse! Take a deep breath & TELL HIM, HANDLE IT! What will be will be! I do however suggest telling him on a place where there are other people, if his reaction is something you cant handle at least there will be other people around. Maybe a park or something...you know where you will have privacy but you wont be secluded. Feel free to email me at if you want any further answers or if you just need advise.....I know how tough this is.
2006-08-14 02:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by nmaponte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should have told him from the beginning. I have a friend who went through it with 3 guys she slept with and none of them want anything to do with her. Now she is married and unhappy.
Be gentle in every way possible, don't get your family or friends involved because they will only make it worse, tell him in a semi private location if he is known to have a temper at least people are around but you don't want to make a scene either. Let him know you are sorry but don't keep saying it, he will get aggravated if you keep on. Be simple and be gentle.
2006-08-14 03:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by MomOf1boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and let him know you need to have a serious talk with him. If you are definitely sure its not his you need to tell him as soon as possible and explain to him how this happened. Even if you are not sure if it is his or not you need to let him know there is a possiblity that the child is not his. You also need to let the other guy know. Don't just keep leading your boyfriend to think the child is his. This is wrong. You just need to be honest. Just be prepared for him to get mad --- this may even end your relationship--- but if he finds out later and he will it will be worst. Good luck.
2006-08-14 02:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by mother of 5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow- there isn't going to be any easy way but he is better off knowing now than later. You just need to sit down and tell him you want to talk- SERIOUS! When you have his attention just simply tell him you would like him to do a DNA test because you aren't 100% sure. It will hurt him, for sure, and you have great courage to do it. But imagine how hurt he will be if later on down the road someone ELSE tells him!! Good luck and stay strong.
2006-08-14 02:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had reason to believe during the pregnancy the child was not his, you needed to address that before the birth. You did not say if the baby was born yet or not. I hope he is not attached to the child and you knew all along he was not dad. Just tell him it's unfair to the kid and him. GOOD LUCK you can't fix it so just deal with it, move on.
2006-08-14 03:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be sure and then tell him that the baby is not his. Stay a bit physically away from him, he might hit you (some men get incredibly jealous and get into a rage)
2006-08-14 02:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to see Jerry Springer, or Maury Povich. Maury usually gets the guy to agree to be the dad despite the paternity results.
2006-08-14 02:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by AussieGrrrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him but cry first. Not to sound bad but he's not going to know how to react and he might get angry, thinking that's how to handle the situation.
If you cry first and make him know that you love him and want the baby to be his (if you do), then he'll feel important to you and it might go easier. I would make him feel important if you wanna keep him.
Tell him how you found out, if you did professionally. If you didn't find out professionally, you'd better before you tell him.
2006-08-14 02:42:24 · answer #11 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋