A few months ago i told my friend that her fiancee was after me, (which was true) and the sa bf would call be at awkward hours. i found a perfect oppotunity to tell her wen she said she wanted to break up with him, she was hurt and hated me. i was never interested in her man. now they are married and we simply aint friends anymore. was i wrong?
2006-08-14 02:25:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I dont think you were wrong. I think its understandable that she hates you even though its not your fault. She knows that deep down but will never admit it.
2006-08-14 02:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you weren't wrong because if it had continued and something happend then she still would have been hurt. No matter how you look at it she was going to be hurt, you just found the way to do it in the least harming way. Trust me, she will realize if he's really like that even if it takes getting a divorce. You did your part, and if she was any type of friend she would have took what you said into consideration before marrying him. Good luck
2006-08-14 09:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by TILAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wud love to know whether to tell u it was wrong or right...
But theres never wrong or right.
its your perception and ur fren's. Both of you look at the matter very differently.
the prob is, you sud have waited for a better opportunity. let her caught him doin it and stuff... not juz break it to her. any normal girl wudnt be able to take it. put urself in her situation. even if she said she wanted to break up, its a temporary reaction out of anger towards sumtin he did.
how sure were u dat her fiancee was interested in u? by calling u mayb he wanted to plan sumtin for his fiancee? who noes. did u jump into conclusion?
well.. enough said... it was the past. u cant possibly do anything to turn back time and rectify the complications or misunderstanding. either you wait for time to heal or u move on. shes sore. let her be. if shes ur true fren, she will come back. if shes not, den say goodbye.
you dont need to find out and ask the world who is wrong or right. eventhough its a comfort to you... just let it go.
2006-08-14 09:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by SxyDeViL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. How could that be wrong? You were being a good friend to let her know the truth and it WAS your business to tell her because this jerk was trying to get you involved.
She will find out that he is not a faithful husband. It's not your fault he's a pig. And she sounds like a silly woman who's looking at a lot of abusive years to come in this marriage.
2006-08-14 09:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling someone that there boyfriend is a cheater is always a gamble with a woman (even if it is true)
Some people (like me) would appreciate someone telling me before I got more vested and found out myself, but other people (like her) will deny to the end that someone they love would ever cheat on them, so you must be lying or you just want her man.
Unfortunately, she will get slapped in the face with his infidelity and she will probably be sorry that she did not listen to you. This may take years and years though so don't hold your breath until it happens.
2006-08-14 09:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i think you did the right thing. You my friend have just discovered who your real friends are. Yes you were right in saying what was on your mind and if she felt like breaking it off with him then she is a fool for staying and marrying someone she truely doesnt love!!
2006-08-14 09:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you wernt wrong as what you did took courage and guts.if you had not of told her and done something behind her back you would have something to be worried about.You have done a great thing for your friend and it may take some time before she sees for her self just what he is all about and then she will be wishing she had of listened to you in the first place so don't feel bad about it as you have been the honest one.
2006-08-14 09:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU WERE NOT WRONG! And if she is dumb enough to think that her man is worth getting married to, after hitting on her friend, then it's her loss....I would NEVER pick a man over my friend, friends are always there, but guys get what they want and leave....find a new friend....one who will trust you!
2006-08-14 09:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Angela T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing about that is that you can not tell some people nothing about their man or woman because it will be like you are the one that wrong and you not.So don't worry she will be back cause usually they will try it with some one else and she will find out what type of man he is.
2006-08-14 09:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should of asked yourself was is it worth my friendship with her . Situations like that usually have these outcomes the friend hates you, believes you but stays with the boyfrien ,who hates you which will in time kill your friendship anyway or leaves the creep. I was faced with the situation and she stayed with him and stayed friends with me but caught him cheating on three months later with someone. so we are still friends. Just be there for her when she needs you.
2006-08-14 09:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by lagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋