I feel really comfortable and happy with this doctor, yet my fiancee wants me to go to another doctor that is his brother's friend. I really think that this dcision is mine, but am I overreacting for not wanting to switch doctors? Or is he being too bossy and non understanding and caring towards me for not considering what I tell him?
2006-08-14 02:22:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
When your fiancee has to go through labor, he can decide which doctor to go to. Until then it is your decision. Besides, do you really want your brothers friend seeing your vagina?
2006-08-14 02:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by kungfumary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that this baby you're carrying is his child as well, you should both sit down and look at this from a calmer point of view. The key issues you should try to get to the bottom of are "what are each of your values?" Do you value your doctor because you know them? Care before? Takes your insurance? What two key values are driving your decision. It will be important for each of you to be able to articulate these values and listen carefully to the other. Try not to get defensive in the process. Maybe your fiancee's doctor has more experience or a great bedside manner. Find out, you have time if you are really only 9 weeks.
As a man with 4 kids, I would encourage your fiancee to deeply consider that a pregnancy and delivery is a hugely more intimate and participatory event for a woman than a man. During the actual delivery, while he can "coach" he is largely a spectator, and everything possible should be done to make you comfortable and effective in giving birth. That process starts with the choosing of the doctor.
2006-08-14 02:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by kre84him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a great doctor. In pregnancy, you want a great doctor, because he's like a guide from start to when your kid is 5. So whay change? What if you don't like the new guy? We had a bad doctor, I mean really bad. He'd ask during a stirrup exam how we'd be paying and got annoyed when we asked questions about stuff. It made everything, especially the birthing, a horrible experience.
Why does your fiance 'insist' you change? To make his brother happy? To save money?
Yes he's being a dick, and I absolutely insist you don't listen to him.
2006-08-14 02:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly you should feel comfortable. I mean, you don't want to be showing your cooch to someone you might see someday at a party.
Your fiancee may just think the guy he knows is a good doctor and want to see you get good care.
As long as you know your doctor is competent and feel comfortable stay with him. Talk to your fiancee and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't listen, you may want to reconsider the whole getting married thing.
2006-08-14 13:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is being too bossy and non understanding and caring towards you for not considering what you tell him. Your body, your health, your rights. It is imperative for yours and the baby's sake that you are able to see a doctor that you trust and in whom you are confident. Anything less is unacceptable. Telling a woman what doctor she can see and when borders on the control freak.
Best wishes on your pregnancy and congrats. Hope you stick with the doctor you feel the most assured with.
2006-08-14 02:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Endo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum medical doctors will see you round 8-9 weeks on your first appointment. in the adventure that they easily can't get you in earlier than a month ask that they contact you if there are any cancellations. you may also call them each day to work out if easily all of us has cancelled. go ahead and make your appointment in spite of the undeniable fact that, in the adventure that they get you in earlier tremendous! If no longer a minimum of you've an appointment scheduled.
2016-12-06 12:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your comfort with the doctor is much more important than his friendship with someone. I understand why he might feel as he does, but this isn't a battle he should be picking. Just tell him that you'll consider seeing someone else when your doctor isn't able to take care of you anymore.
2006-08-14 03:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by yellow_jellybeans_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is your call. Wait, your fiancee? He has no right to tell you what to do. He isn't even married to you yet. Do you trust him, or would you rather stay where you are. You are not overreacting, you're pregnant change doesn't make pregnant women feel too happy. You should listen to yourself.
2006-08-14 03:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by animallover435 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should just stick with the doctor you want. You're the one having the baby and you've already established a relationship with your present doctor which is very importatnt when you are pregnant. Hopefully he will understand and let you make the choice guilt free.
2006-08-14 04:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by East of Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the doctor is male, your fiancee is probably jealous. don't switch doctors. it's most important for YOU to feel comfortable with the doctor. you are the one that is being seen during the visits, not him. besides, why would he want someone that he knows seeing your vagina
2006-08-14 02:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by Bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋