I'm a fosser child and I used to have a friend. He meant everything to me. He was even more then a friend to me. Anyway. About a week ago we got into a huge fight. He dumped me as a friend and said that he hates people with brown eyes. Which means that he hates me cause I have brown eyes. He sent me a message on hotmail yesterday and starting swearing at me and told me to not talk to him again. I sent a message back to him telling him to just leave me alone and get out of my life and everything. He sent me another message back today and said that if I don't shut the f*** up then he'll get people to go after me. I told him I don't care if he does or not but really I do. I care alot. I'm scared. What should I do. He threatened me. He called me ugly and everything. He really hurt me sooo much. No one knows how much he hurt me. My friends are still friends with him and they won't help me or anything. I need some good advice, please! What should I do?
2006-08-14 02:21:49 · 14 answers · asked by Kayla B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-08-14 02:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by dannym7500 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm...I'm sorry. That sounds a bit rough. Firstly, before I suggest anything, you need a bit of time to just sit with this. If he's going to go off on you like this, is he worth your time? That's for you to think about. If you decide he is, you're going have to initiate conversation first. It won't be easy, because he's going to be really angry still at first. Despite what he says in his IMs or anything else, you need to tell him how much he means to you and how much you want the friendship to continue. And you need to say this even if he's swearing at you. You yourself can't get angry when he is, because things will only get worse. Again, it's going to be hard at first, but it needs to be done if you care. Plus, I'm surprised that your friends aren't helping. Talk to them a bit more too. Finally, just grieve a bit as well. Being called ugly and prejudiced by (brown eyes...wow) must hurt when it comes from a friend. Hope I helped. Good luck.
2006-08-14 02:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by risingphoenix421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the best thing to do is to make new friends. I've done that more times than I can count. I would keep any email he sends (just in case there is trouble you have proof) and stop replying to him. Resist the temptation to drop to his level and if your friends don't want to defend you they are not worth having as friends.
This is probably not the answer you were looking for, but it is logical. There are 'clicks' that form among people and if you fall out with that click then you have to move on. If threats are made you should always treat it seriously whether or not you think it's real or idle. Make new friends is my advice and steer clear of those who won't back you up. They are more trouble than they're worth.
Take care and have a good day.
2006-08-14 02:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. Let him know you are just as serious with him as can be, unless you want to continue being friends with him. Then I would just give it time. Don't call him or anything. Act like life is so great and you can function without him. That will send him on a guilt trip and possibly make him wonder what the hell he's missing out on. Trust me if you sit there and worry you could be missing out on some new great people that could be better to you than anyone who's currently in your life. Lesson learned!
2006-08-14 02:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by TILAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, leave him alone. You're telling him he should leave you alone, but you have to start doing it yourself. Maybe it was only you who thought so highly of him, and not the other way around. Get on with your life, don't let him put you down and your life doesn't stop here because he's not your friend anymore. Say 'thanks' for realizing it now, not later in life when the disappointment would have been greater maybe. Pull yourself up, look in the mirror and feel good about your beautiful brown eyes :-)
2006-08-14 02:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by can2gone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can hurt u so much, I don't think that he's a good friend. Whatever the reason may be he should not act the way he does. My advice to u is to try to forget him and stay cool. Do not communicate with him. Keep away from him and let the things cool down.
2006-08-14 02:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell an adult about his threats. While he may not be serious about them and is lashing out in anger, you still shouldn't take that chance. From here on out, ignore any e mail or text message he might send you. If there is the option, block his e mail address from getting through to you. Don't talk about him to your friends or ask if he has been talking about you. Try not to put yourself in situations where you might have to see him or confront him. He most likely wants the attention you have been giving him by answering his e mails. People like that don't deserve to be your friend so do your best to move on.
2006-08-14 02:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that the fight that you both had must have hurt him really bad as well. Maybe you and him both need to take a break from each other until feelings have time to recover. When he's ready to talk he will....and if he doesnt then it's pretty obvious that ur friendship wasnt all that real to begin with. Make it a learning experience and he's just being mean to cover up his hurt feelings....space right now would be my answer.....good luck and keep ur chin up.
2006-08-14 02:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry girl.....that guy is such a looser...why do u want a looser as ur friend.....ive gone through worse things but it only made me stronger it may feel as if uve lost everything n u may never find a friend like him...but dont worry watevr happens happens for good so cheer up n ne problem drop in a line
2006-08-14 02:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by *Ri!i* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he hates someone cos of the colour of their eyes i would not want to be friends with someone so shallow. i know it is difficult but try and forget him as a friend cos he also sounds really abusive. if your friends do not stick by you then they are not worth been friends with. if he sends you anymore messages you must not reply to them. just delete it without reading it.
see if you can find some new friends who will treat you like real friends do.
i know that even if i had a fight wih my friends - they would never treat in that way.
good luck girl - my heart is with you!
2006-08-14 02:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stay away from him. If he'slike that to you then he isn't really your true friend. Real friends don't have the capability of saying such hurtful words. You can find real friends, just wait and see. Stay away from the wrong kind of people who don't really contribute to your growth as a person.
2006-08-14 02:28:40 · answer #11 · answered by vincentb88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋