I don't know if I have enough self confidence in me?

Question

well... I know that I'm really shy. I try 2 get out there but it's not working. any tips 4 helping me be more confident?

Answer 1

i use to be that way until i found a really good friend that was very loud and fun! just try new things and maybe something will encourage you!

Answer 2

I have plenty of tips for you, but it is own you take them into hand. If you are are shy try to feel good when you want to. When you need to boost your self-esteem find three things that make you feel good.These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind.

Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.

2) Beat Self Consciousness

Self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...

a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.

b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:

find out if you like the other people in the situation
make others feel comfortable
find out some information
make business contacts
and so on...
It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and much more difficult if your attention is occupied by a task.

Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're all working toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficial information, it could be whatever you want it to be!

3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !

Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:

a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.

b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.

c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.

Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!

d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self confidence in a way that it stays built!

e) Learn how to develop your self confidence by following the tips from this site and the free Self Confidence Course and notice the small differences as they happen. Persevere and don't expect everything at once. Beating low self esteem is a wonderful thing, and it's much easier than you'd imagine.

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Answer 3

well, first of all, i do not know how shy you are. when you are facing your family, friends, do you feel uncomfortable? or just because you are nervous when you are facing strangers.
i guess that you are between 20 to 25 years old. you can try to go to public places and hang out with your friends more often. and before getting nervous, you can say to yourselves: well, i am grown and mature, so i can do this,nothing should be shy. if i do not do this, i will lose a lot. however, if i do it, i will win a lot

Answer 4

yes the secret is to pretend you are. Once people think you are then you will be.

Also do things that make you proud of the individual you are. Humanities/aid work made a huge difference to me.

all the best

Answer 5

Just ask yourself WHY are you so shy. Then you' ll see that it doens' t worth to be so timid towards other people. I used to be shy a few years back, but know I've completly changed!

Answer 6

Surround yourself with your good friends and people who believe in you. That way you'll feel more secure and more confident with them around. Find strength in numbers! To build up your own confidence, you have to find it in yourself. No one can find it for you.

Answer 7

Worry less about what people think of you. If your life doesn't turn out as good as you hoped it would be those people aren't going to feel sorry for you or try to make your life better.

Answer 8

hi
the big help 4 u is that u shoud stant infront of a mirror and talk to your self then try it by your family
after that you woud not be shy
sure!

Answer 9

start with small things and build up your confidence

Answer 10

play sports... it helps boost ur confidence... and u shud do this exercise where eday u stand infront of the mirror and tell urself 5 things about u thats so amazin... its wat lots of ppl do to boost confidence...