my friend wants me to get some condoms for free from our local choice clinic for her but i think she should do it herself in case she wants to talk to them about anything else. the only thing is, her auntie works there so will her auntie be allowed to tell her mum anything she discusses with her?i dont know whether to be a good friend and get them for her or whether thats wrong.shes only 15 and i dont think she should even need them but im worried if i dont get them for her, she will have sex without them and if she gets pregnant i will fell guilty and responsable. please be mature!
2006-08-14 02:05:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You shouldn't feel guilty, she's the one who will be responsible if she gets pregnant. Be a good friend by sitting sown and talking it through with her, tell her your concerns (which are very mature, if you're the same age as her) If she still asks you to go to the clinic for her , go with her instead. Push her to go, maybe on a day she knows her aunt won't be there if she's scared about that. Or if there's one further out from where you live, then go to that one somehow.
On thinking a little further, I'm not sure her aunt will be allowed (by law) to talk about it. Then again, given your friend's age, she might inversely HAVE to talk to her parents.
2006-08-14 02:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by actor_girl_1986 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just go a head and get them for her, 15 is a little young for sex, but if she feels she's ready and that she wants to she's going to do it regardless of what anybody else says or thinks, but the up side is at least she wanting to have safe sex. If your not comfortable with going to the clinic and getting them then tell her to have the guy she's having sex with buy some condoms. And I don't believe her auntie is allowed to tell her mom anything about what they talk about at the clinic because of the privacy laws, and a relative is the next closest person to trust besides your parents as someone else said, but if she's really concerned she could still talk to her parents without actually telling them what they talked about just by bringing the subject up and her being 15 and getting to the age that teenagers start having sex and blah blah blah. But she doesn't have to include that they ever talked in the clinic.
2006-08-14 11:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure where you live but in the UK the age of consent is 16. If she sleeps with someone while she is under age, that person can be charged with statutory rape and put on the sex offenders register. If she fell pregnant it would not be your fault either, it would be her own stupidity, as would it be if she got an STD. She should go and discuss this herself with the clinic. It is a confidential service, so the staff are not supposed to tell anyone, however, as it is her aunt then she may decide it is for the best to tell the girls mother. At 15 this girl must take responsibility for her own sexual health, it is not up to you to get her birth control.
2006-08-14 09:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should get them for her. If she is asking you to get them for her, she is already considering having sex. She will do it even if you don't get them for her. Her aunt's employment at the clinic does put her in an awkward position. If it won't place you in an awkward position as well, getting them for her would be a kind thing to do. You are not responsible for her and giving her the condoms doesn't mean that you are condoning her sexual activity, it just means that if she does decide to engage, she will have some protection. Keep talking to her and expressing your concern about her embarking on a sexual journey prematurely. You are a good friend for giving serious thought to a matter that is really none of your concern. Good luck.
2006-08-14 09:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not get them for her. And here's why. If she thinks that she may be ready for sexual relations with someone, then she has to be mature enough to take responsibility for her actions. And that includes her own birth control. If she can't go to the local clinic for condoms, how will she ever handle everything else that comes along?
Now, with that said, 15 years of age is just way too young for sex. If you want to talk with your friend about this, I would encourage you to talk to her about the possibility of HIV/AIDS and STDs, along with the probability of pregnancy if she has sex. At 15, she is ill-equiped to handle any of this.
2006-08-14 09:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done her, for wanting to be responsible and sensible about birth control! And well done you, for wanting to be the best friend to her that you can!
I agree that she's too young but that isn't your call.
You need to let her know that you're worried, and why and suggest that she talks with her mum or goes to a different clinic, one where her aunt doesn't work but she should have the condoms if she's going to have sex.
Good Luck
2006-08-14 09:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Claudia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why your friend should not get them for herself. If she is afraid of getting caught she should be a lot more afraid of getting pregnant. I would go with her if I were you. That way she is not alone and does not need to feel so worried.
While I think you should tell her not to have sex, having unprotected sex is a truly ignorant thing to do. Either way just make sure she is using something and not just for the purposes of stopping pregnancy.
2006-08-14 09:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince her not have sex, she's only a child herself but do get her the condoms...otherwise she might end up getting pregnant. But do tell her that if she doesn't want to face the consequences of sex (pregnancy) since her boyfriend might use a condom incorrectly...then she shouldn't be having sex in the first place. Whatever she decides, get her the condoms because in the end, if she really wants to do it then she will.
2006-08-14 09:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants them you should get them for her.... at the end of the day the only reason she doesn't want to go is because of her aunt... the clinic would give them to her if she went. If there is no where else for her to get the you should do it for her... but also try and talk it through with her and pick up a few leaflets while you are there.
You coud tell her to go and see her doctor.GP's have to keep everything private and can advise her properly.
2006-08-14 09:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Helen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't tell your friend what to do or don't do. Also if she chooses to have unprotected sex and gets pregnant you cannot blame yourself because you didn't get the condoms for her. It's her choice, at least she is responsible enough to think of using a condom. If you're not going to get them, hopefully she will end up buying them.
2006-08-14 09:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by can2gone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋