It's understandable that people hate girls who pretend to be bisexual just for attention, but some homosexual and heterosexuals just hate bisexuals completely because "they aren't completely straight or gay". I think that's ridiculous. Bisexuality is just another degree of sexual attraction. It doesn't make someone slutty or perverted. My boyfriend likes and embraces the fact that I'm bisexual, and while I'm sure he'd like to watch me kiss with another girl, that would most certainly not be the reason I'd do it. I'd do it for fun. Sexuality is all about enjoying yourself and figuring out what turns you on. Why are so many people against that? Are there any bisexual/bi-curious people out there who understand what I mean? Sorry if I seem like a hypocrite. XD
2006-08-14 01:50:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I agree with you! You aren't a hypocrite-you just know who you are. I have had many experiences with women, with and without men present, and they all were special!!! ;-) I just read some of you other answers and WOW!!! There are really some hostile people out there, aren't there? (i.e. the jerk who said bisexual women are disgusting must be a woman hater! you have to watch out for people like that cuz they have a screw loose!)
2006-08-14 07:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you seem like a hypocrite and your question is very legitimate.
I'm a lesbian, and I have friends of all sexual orientations. Straight, gay, lesbian, transgendered and bisexual.
The reason that you are having such a problem in the G/L community as a bisexual woman is because people are under the misapprehension that you've got your cake and get to "ahem" eat it too.
The G/L community has had to fight for so long to gain any kind of positive recognition, to gain any kind of tolerance and rights, that a lot of them look at bisexuals as riding on their coat tails...It's very annoying to them that you can be with a guy and have everything that society offers, but when you feel like it, you can be with a girl. When that doesn't work out, or your tired of being persecuted, you can go back to a guy.
I know that's not how it really is, but that's how some folks in the G/L community see it. They can't see past the fact that being bi is just another piece of the spectrum.
Don't worry about it so much. Make friends of all kinds, and let the haters do their own thing. Bisexuals have their own breed of prejudice to deal with, and it's a real shame that a lot of it comes from the gay and lesbian contingent. You'd think we'd know better.
2006-08-14 03:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem like a hypocrite. I know what you mean.
Just today I had to explain (yet again) about being bi. Someone said you had to have sex to know for sure, and I was like did you have sex before you knew you were straight or a lesbian. Sex doesn't tell you about your attractions or feelings, it's an act. Whatever.
And the "too straight for lesbian/gay people and too gay for the straight people" is something bisexuals have to deal with too often. It makes me mad too sometimes.
And Micheal you should really read the bi myths, you just tried to use a few. Bisexuals don't "have sex with whoever they want" anymore or less then anybody else. I am always faithful to the one I'm with, girl or guy.
Myth: Bisexual people have multiple partners and/or can’t have monogamous relationships.
Reality: Although some stereotypes assert that bisexual people can’t commit to relationships with one person because they’re always attracted to people of the other gender, bisexual people are no more or less likely to have multiple sexual partners than gay, lesbian and straight people.
Myth: Bisexuality is just a phase. “Bisexual” people will eventually wind up being either gay or straight.
Reality: Many people identify as bisexual for their entire lifetimes.
2006-08-14 03:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying and I'm sympathetic to a degree, but I guess I have a couple of things to share.
One, as a gay man, I know we often meet someone who is "bisexual" while he hasn't had an opposite sex partner in years. It's just a cover for these people. Yes, there are true bisexuals out there, and bisexuality is a true feeling for some just coming out, but some gay people do find it insulting when it's only a title to cover homosexuality, meaning that they think it's something to be ashamed of.
Secondly, sexuality is about more than fun. Sexuality is one of the ways, a major way, in which one expresses love to a special person. When you imply that bisexuality is a license to have sex with anybody you want, you have missed the point of the gift of sex. I'm not scolding here, just expressing an opinion.
2006-08-14 02:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually have met some bisexuals that were 50/50 . i'm bisexual and that i don't love 3somes does that recommend i'm a lot less bisexual . No i'm nevertheless in touch in male and ladies human beings . merely because i'm bisexaul does it recommend that I actually ought to have sex with a guy and a lady mutually . Or i could not be at liberty with someone of the same sex or the different sex .
2016-11-25 00:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound hypocritical, but a little confused, maybe. Would you be happy for your boyfriend to kiss another man passionately 'just for fun'? I suppose it's really about monogamy or not, as opposed to bisexuality or not. Would you forgive him for kissing another woman in the same way? If that were to bother you, then I think the issue is about an 'open' as opposed to a 'monogamous' relationship, rather than anything to do with your bisexuality. I think most people are just naturally distrustful of one-sided cheating in a relationship, be it straight, gay or bi. If the relationship is open on both sides, then fair enough. But to flirt and cheat on the grounds of the bi-sexuality of one partner seem iniquitous.
2006-08-14 01:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by inquisitor 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I've never had anyone HATE me because of my sexuality...and I've never hated anyone else because of theirs.
I do agree that there are young girls out there who act bi just for the attention or maybe even just to show defiance. However, if they have no qualms with kissing another girl, they may grow into adults who are open minded enough to accept others despite their sexual preferences. They may grow to find they are straight, bi, or even lesbian, but still respect the choices of others.
As for being accused of being slutty or perverted....
Never been accused of that either, although MANY straight laced missionary style people have that opinion.....LOL
Being bi has not only opened me up to the ocassional "kinkiness" of a 3 sum.....the erotic thrill it brought to me opened my mind up to being accepting enough to open other doors through which I could discover more "tabboo" practices.
Yes, It should be fun, it IS about what turns you on....
Some of us are turned on by missionary simpleton physical sex, and some of us are more into what our mind feels leading up to and during a particular act of a sexual nature....
Some of us will never reach beyond the boundaries of the bedsheets to find complete fullfillment...(because they THINK they already have it)
While a few of us explore our minds and find more doors to open that lead us down many hallways of intimacy together.
I have gotten to the point where I really don't care what someone thinks about the little they know about me.....
If someone takes the time to know ALL of me.........then maybe I'll care what thier opinion is......BUT....it still wouldn't change who I am OR what I like when it comes to my sexuality.
Just be truthful to yourself about who you are, and don't allow yourself to become socially phobic about other peoples opinions.
2006-08-14 02:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by FrEaKoNaLeAsH 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You hit the nail right on the head kid. I'm bisexual too, and its nice to see a person who knows the definition of it. I can totally relate, Lesbians and Gay Men absolutely hate us. Hypocrites, don't they understand that, that's what heteros do to them. When will all this hatered for things we don't understand go away. Ignorance really does breed fear.
2006-08-14 05:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Fairy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about how other people view your sexuality. Do what you feel comfortable with. If you want to be bisexual be that. Sex is about having fun and bringing pleasure to others and fulfilling your own sexual needs. Its your life live it you get the best of both worlds.
2006-08-14 02:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by stephen c 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
you seem not like a hypocrite but kind of disappointed. Kissing another girl... is that your idea of having sex?
Sex should be fun...sure, but doing sex just for fun is something else.
Sex without love is mutual masturbation. The idea about bi-sexuality wont be your last... cause you are concentrated only on yourself... and on the technical part of sex. Dear, you are swimming in your swollen ego. Orgasm, ecstasy is about physical and spiritual unity with your partner, not with your Ego.
There are people who lives and loves in a "trio". I would call them Bi-sexual. But you seem to me to have an overflow on hormones...
2006-08-14 02:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by zaraza 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋