Can you love your guy without being romantically drawn to him?
2006-08-14 01:47:02 · 20 answers · asked by hellsbells 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Romantic love, or the feeling of being "in love" can fade over time. The true test of the strength of a relationship is when that initial chemistry fades a bit, life gets routine, and there is still real love and respect in the relationship. Sexual passion will be stronger at some times than at others, or may dwindle altogether. My husband and I have been married 8 years and still consider ourselves to be in love with each other.
2006-08-14 02:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, NO, not all married women are "in-love" with their husbands.
That used to be the fact but that was many years ago. Only when truly in love would two get married. Not anymore.
Some women are married today for spouse security. To have a man around but not to be "in-love" with that spouse. Others marry because they see a "security deposit". Someone with money who can provide for their needs, but not to be "in-love".
A few women will marry because they really like their friend but are not "in-love". They hope that will change after they are married.
Last are a few who like the word "married" and have an emotional tie to the word, not the person. Such as "married to number 1", married to number 2, married to number 3, and so on.
The next part of your question is entirely different.
Yes, you can love your guy without being romantically drawn to him. A person can love their spouse or their guy for who he is, what he stands for, the type of person he is which covers all things such as temperament, emotions, accomplishments and security, yet romantically, there is an absence. Some are not able to provide that "romance".
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2006-08-14 10:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Some marry for security, fear of growing old without someone, money, respect, etc,. Woman (or Man) that chose these factors, "love" for this reason. These marriages can last a life time. There are people out there that don't believe in love. Some will never experience that wonderful "in love feeling" that is becoming rarer and rarer. Some will just settle for what they can get or where it might take them in life.. But that is a personal choice. Personally, I couldn't be with someone I didn't have that special love for. I know woman that fall in these categories, and their life's are not so bad. Taking that special love out of marriage and building around the other things, actually have benefits. They seem to fight less, because they don't care as much. They don't feel the need to be around each other when every little event comes alone, and as far as "indiscretion's," as long as they are done on a low profile, that doesn't even matter. They call these marriages, "marriages of convenient". As the saying goes, "to each, their own".
2006-08-14 09:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not always ongoing in a marriage for so many many reasons. Always it is sad if the journey was embarked on with hope. Why do couples not in love stay together, sometimes it is the better option for the children, or for financial reasons or simply because of the comfort zone it provides. Whether any of these reasons are right.........can only depend on the overall circumstances and the reasons for such a decision. You cannot ever simplify or generalize on such a topic. It is certainly more a topic that is aired these days. In years passed a lot of women hlearnt to survive in union where their love for their partner had died.....So yes you can be with a partner you are not romantically drawn to if that is the choice you make. Always we have free will and always choice even if we don't always feel like we believe it.
2006-08-14 09:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No all married woman are not in love with their husbands, only the lucky ones, and yes you can have a relationship without being romantically involved but I don't think you are in love with that person.
There is a big difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. You can love someone because they are a good person who treats you well and you can build a life with that person. Or you can truly be in love with someone, when this happens you are romantically drawn to that person.
2006-08-14 09:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all maried women are in love with their husband, sad to say. Some marry for money, so they won't be alone, to get out of the house. There are alot of other reasons to long to list. It is sad when a woman marries a man for anything but love. Then again men do the same thing too.
2006-08-14 08:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Becky H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can't speak for all women, but I'm very much in love with my husband. I love everything about him. I can say this though, he isn't the most romantic man that I have known. I have come to love this about him, because when he does do something out of the ordinary it is really special.
2006-08-14 08:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People usually fall in and out of love with their spouse several times during their lifetimes. Being in love is NOT what marriage is about. Maybe this should be taught in school. When two people are in love they may decide that they want to be "family" and marry. When they marry they have made a decision that they will PARTNER each other throughout their lives. This means that even when we don't feel passion (which is natural) we will be partners. When you are sick we will be partners. When you lose your job we will be partners. When you win the lottery we will be partners. The PARTNER concept and how to execute it is what most people do not understand when entering into marriage.
2006-08-14 09:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!!! Love is a choice--the other "stuff" is physiological/
We are not reomantic towards our children---we love them, most of us would lay down our lives for them, and it is not just "a feeling" that comes and goes. Romantic feelings fade and then the real stuff sticks. Do not despair--any couple that have been married for a long time will tell you, the physical attraction is not the glue that keeps them together! It is the friendship and the genuine love and concern for each others well being that sustains them!
2006-08-14 09:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been with my man for 10 1/2 years and been married 7 years this year and i as still in love with him and still romantically drawn (as you say) to him.
2006-08-14 08:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by brandi g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋