What can I tell my friend???? HELP!!!!?

Question

I have a friend that needs my help. She recently was dumped by her boyfriend and she is still in love with him. He now has a girlfriend but they had a conversation where he tells her that he doesn't want to lose her, and still wants to be able to have sex with her since she was his first, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with her because right now it's not the best thing for them. He says that he still cares for her alot and might still be in love with her, but he doesn't want to accept it. I tried telling her what I thought of the situation and gave her my advice, but she is still destroyed. What can I tell her to do? She doesn't know whether she wants to continue this since she still loves him or leave him to have sex with the new girl. HELP!!!

Answer 1

ok first off sorry that your friend has to go through all this, I know your a really good friend to want to help her. Well if you love somebody, I mean truly love somebody, then yeah no matter what happens you'll always have feelings for them, whether you hide them or keep them apparent. Well of course he doesn't want to lose her and everything, but well the little poping in of the "sex" subject, kind of makes me believe that he's trying to make her his f*ck buddy. I mean I might be wrong, but well I know psychologically the first time you have sex, that person will always be on your mind, every time you have sex, you'll always draw back to the moment of your first. But well still it still doesn't add up why he would care so much about having sex with her, and not his new girlfriend. Hey he may just need some space and realization of what he lost.

ok well as to your friend, look just let her see a few things, one he claims to still love her and care about her. And yet he's with another girl, you can't just have that, if you have those two feelings, and they are pure and true, when you go on a "break", after you had your time, or during it, you never ever go and find somebody else. So well him being with a new girl. And then claiming he still cares, it's just not logical. You need her to realize that if he really does love her and care about her, then he would be single, and would talk it out with her, to try to fix whatever he feels is the reason why he can't be with her.

And well what I really want you to show your friend, is his little comment on how he claims he doesn't want to lose her, and that he still cares, but out of all that, it's not that he wants to talk to her more and see if things can be fixed, it's not that he's single and just needs some space, and most of all it's not even him mentioning that he wants more time with her to get to know her better. The only thing he did was claim he cares and loves her and wants to never lose her, but slipped in the "sex" part, and then claim he doesn't want a relationship from her. I mean ask her what she thinks that means, he wants sex but not a relationship. I'm completely sure she will conclude that he is just using her to be a player, and having her as a f*ck buddy and anything else. If she can't see that then just somehow either say to her that, that's how you feel, or somehow give her hints that, that's what he is secretly saying, but covering up with all those false lies about love and caring and not wanting to lose her and all.

After all that ask her if she wants to be used by him. If she really doesn't care that he only wants her as a f*ck buddy.

Personally I think she should find another guy, and just talk it out with you about how she feels, because she will really need a good friend like you to help her get through this tramatic experience before she can move on. And I know you will do an excellent job of helping her. She's very lucky to have a friend like you that cares.

Take care and Good Luck I hope you are able to let her see the truth.

Answer 2

hey listen, u may care for more that 1 person, but wen u r in true luv, then its just 1. ok, so i just think that the bf of ur friend only wants another gal to be screwed up. what the hell he is caring for, while having sex with another one. and try to make it very clear to ur friend, else her life will be ruined. forget him, n look 4 a nice person, who really loves her, her nature, n not her looks and 4 physical satisfaction.
take care n keep smiling 4ever

Answer 3

Tell her to forget about him, sure it its easier said than done, but she has to accept the fact that (and im not proud of saying it) but we'll say just about any kind of crap to get some....
not just that tell to stop seeing, or talking to him, cuz' if she is really still in love, shes not gonna be able to resist if he makes a pass at her, and trust me he will do it if he's got the chance

Answer 4

your friend needs to start making some serious decisions.
now
if the b/f isn't willing to talk her through and tell her the truth,(he ain't coming back) she needs you more than ever than, and will need you for awhile. make sure the path she chooses is free and clear and help her when you think she's making the wrong decisions. don't let her go down the spiral, ya know what i mean. alone time can be very beneficial to her and him, good luck with "your friend"

Answer 5

Such a TYPICAL man...For the love of God, please tell "your friend" that she deserves to more than just some loser dudes jump off! The fact that she is even considering it ESPECIALLY knowing that he has a new girlfriend means that your friend is trully lacking some self worth! Whose to even say that he's not sleeping with the new girl. They just broke up and he's with someone else already!!?? Come one! Guys love to have their cake and eat it too...don't let her be a pond in his game. Wrap him up. There is someone that will appreciate her body AND her mind!

Answer 6

listen closely girl. tell ur friend (especially if this is her first love) leave his as* alone. everyone goes through the bs of a relationship. but he wants his cake and eat it to. if she keeps giving in he'll keep doing what he's doing. if she leaves his as* alone he may think twice and come to her on bending knees u feel me. but she has to stop giving in cause theres no way i'd give up my gold snatch to a guy whose using me for just that. good luck sweetie

Answer 7

don't trust that person he is a coward as he don't want to accept the truth . if u really want to help ur friend u should just contact that boy and teach him a lesson
abt ur friend : u should give her some time to get out of all this,time makes a lot of difference

Answer 8

ask her to come out of him he is not the right person for her and if u really want to help her pls be on her side always keep her busy in some or other activity never leave her alone take her out with you, plan some outings party out with your friends. dont keep on discussing this issue even if she does tell her to talk something else. i know its not easy it will take time but i am sure she will definitely come out of him.

Answer 9

Tell her that while she is crying her ex is having fun with the other girl. He isn't good for her.There are other handsome guys and she is very pretty so she'll have many boyfriends.
You need to be with her and encourage her to another relationship. Good luck!!!

Answer 10

Hes an ***...you cant have it both ways.She needs time to heal from him .sex with him is not a good idea.hes tring to manipulate her by saying he still loves her & maybe they get back. no way .hes over her & keeping her on the side while he test the waters elsewhere.that is not fare to her.She needs to tell him too get lost!!!