2006-08-14 01:12:44 · 19 answers · asked by ac2444 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
20 years ! he has to what choice does he have ?
2006-08-14 01:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by bash 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why does anyone masturbate? Why do, or did you masturbate? Does being married make masturbation off limites now? My wife masturbates/ Does it bother me? Nope. Masturbation is a base element of being humane. If someone in your life made you feel that masturbation is only for those that have no partners, they have done you an injustice. If you yourself so not masturbate, I would ask yourself why don't you? Is it because your sex drive does not make you want to, or is it because someone convinced you that it was wrong. If it was the later, you are missing out.
The 20 year hubby is masturbating because it feels good. It is a way to release sexual energy with no other related emotion or work. I'm not saying that he is choosing masturbation over his wife, I'm saying that sometimes it's just nice to release that sexual energy without anyone else being involved. The release is his and his only. He gets to think and feel anything he wants and bother no one. Don't worry about it unless masturbation over takes his normal sex life.
2006-08-14 08:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would u rather him masterbate or cheat????????.. .. Now the question is, is he doing this to substitute for his wife? meaning is his wife wanting to have sex but he's denying her to masterbate? If the wife is turning him down when he is wanting to make love to her, and he's relieving himself cause shes "not in the mood" then thats the wifes fault.. but if she's wanting to, but he does it instead of making love to his wife then theres a problem.. now if he's doing it when shes not home.. again.. he's feeling frisky, shes not around so he's taking care of it himself.. but if he's doing this...and having to use other means like porn, ect.. then he's emotionally cheating on his wife, because nothing good can ever come out of a any spouse having to use anything to arouse themselves other then their spouse, especially if the wife feels inferior to the women he's using in the mags or on the pc.. emotionally it can rip a marriage apart..
2006-08-14 08:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is a normal way of letting loose the pressure. Masturbation gives you the freedom to get it on when YOU want it... no waiting for someone else.
No struggles with a partner who doesn't want to do it when you want to, or who has a lower sex drive then you. You can have it when you want it, how you want it. You are NOT at the mercy of another person's schedule or desires.
Masturbation is an IMPORTANT part of a person's balanced sex life, male or female. So whether you are married one year or 20, it's still alright.
2006-08-14 09:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Release. That's it. Its quick ,easy, private and does not require negotiation or pleasing a partner. Its always good. There is never any problem with ED. My hand has never told me ( pick one or more) its to late, I'm to tired, I'm not in the mood,You've been drinking, I don't need it as much as you, warm me up first or not tonight I have a headache.
After 20 years this guy has a good idea of your mood and schedule. It is possible that he just wants to get his sperm count lowered without the issues. All guys that I know deal with things better without being backed up.
2006-08-14 08:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not understand the meaning of this. Is the question about a man masturbating even after married for 20 yrs? What is the problem? Masturbation is something and coitus is another!! Both can go together!!
2006-08-14 08:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men still does after that long Even shorter than that it is something they have done since they were younger. If you are having problem it could be he don't want to hurt you. You just never know It might just feel good to him and he don't want to bother you with it. Good Luck
2006-08-14 08:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Becky H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is a natural act. Even if he is in a healthy sexual relationship with his wife, he may still enjoy pleasuring himself on occassion. If it is a constant obsession, then he needs to seek counseling to overcome it.
2006-08-14 08:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ms understood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's either not getting enough sex from the wife, he's bored with the wife and is fantasizing about someone else, or he's being really nice and not bothering her.
2006-08-14 08:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
b/c he needs to......men and women have different sex drives....some women can go weeks w/o it and some can't.
Just like some men can go hours w/o it and some can't (all the men that i have been with need it like every 4-6 hours..like taking medicines or something)
As long as he is taking care of it himself...don't take it as a bad thing...NOW if he was letting some one else do it...then...you would have the problem.
2006-08-14 08:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋