I am a male in my late 20's. I dont understand why this is occurring to me now. I am attracted to females and been with a few. But my relationships do not last long. I tend to lose attention after awhile and unable to realize there emotion. The friends I grew up with started to tell me that im turning gay and I act gay for a years now. I do admit that I act childish alot of times...Now, I use and abuse drugs for over 8years now. For the past year numerous times being high I find myself late night looking at tv/ts porn on the internet than regreting it by the morning. Normally I would not do this and think its sick. And now Im paranoid. I've been going through these crazy intense mood phases. Is this deniel, phase, drugs, or just really gay?
2006-08-14 00:20:28 · 16 answers · asked by soulshot 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well let me note a few things:
You can't turn gay -- so if you are gay, you've been gay since puberty and in a way, before puberty.
You can hide from others and yourself.
Being childish has nothing to do with being gay.
Taking drugs is stupid, and while a slightly higher percentage of gay bois do take drugs, because they are afraid of what they are and they fight it and the drugs give them temporary surcease -- it is still stupid, and has nothing to do with being gay.
If you are looking at gay porn, and finding it more arousing than you ever found straight porn, it is possible that you are in fact gay and that your natural homosexuality is beginning to break through the barriers you built against it in response to social pressure. It is also possible that you are being paranoid. It is NOT possible that something like that is a phase though, you either are, or you aren't.
Don't worry either way. Get help for the stupid drug addiction. Release all your guilt, anxiety, fear and internalized hatred to the Universe and let yourself be what you are.
if you are straight, good. If you are gay, good. Stop judging yourself on such a stupid and superficial manner and be.
Peace.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
http://www.rebuff.org
2006-08-14 03:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, do you realize that Satan does exist and really loves to mess with people like you. First of all, turn off the crap, (porn). Get down on your knees and ask God to help you. If you do not know you are gay or not, you probably are not. Have you had gay sex with a man? Maybe you have not met the right girl? Do you go to church, get involved, read the Bible? If you don't, then start. I am not saying I am a judge and jury, only God knows that, but I am saying that you need help, and I mean from the Father. Please get into a church with single groups, and cleanse your mind and soul. You have too much time on your hands, and get out and volunteer with something. Look at the homeless, the needy, the hungry, and say, maybe I can help. Get out of yourself, and get into other worthy type of things to do. After you do these things, then after time passes, then ask yourself this question again. Please get off the dope, pot, or whatever you are taking, it will only mess up your thinking. Ditch those people who are telling you junk too, you have a mind, use it. Good luck.
2006-08-14 07:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being gay wont make you crazy and paranoid, thats from the drug use... how you are in relationships could be a direct result of mental damage from the drug use as well...
if you are gay then you would be sexually attracted to men, if you can look at a man and not get turned on or not picture yourself with him then it is unlikely that you are gay...
nothing wrong with being gay if you are but it definitly doesnt sound liek it... it sounds like years of drug use has taken its toll and you need better luck with your relationships... so the next girlfriend you get... treat her like she is your last chance... learn to fully appreciate being in a rel;ationship.. this will improve your personality and help you out greatly to keep a relationship...
as for looking at the porn at night... everyone is curious... you may just be very curious and thats fine, no problem there...
if you are really unsure then there is only one true way to find out anyhting about yourself... and that is to do it...
hope ive been some help to you.
2006-08-14 07:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by will t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only gay if you are attracted to men. Are you? If yes, you are gay, or at least bi.
It sounds like you just aren't interested in relationships right now. Perhaps you are more of a loner and don't really wish to get into a relationship. More likely, though, is that the drugs are dampening your sexual urges. Perhaps if you stopped abusing them, your sex drive would come back.
Give it time and don't get paranoid over it. It really doesn't matter. You shouldn't care what your friends call you.
2006-08-14 07:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by nondescript 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of gender dysphoria. Some children are born with it, while some children learn characteristics. It is when a child wants or is perceived to act or be the opposite gender. Many times a child with gender dysphoria is told it is gay. Being gay is a sexual attraction to same gender. I know ity seems hard to understand, but thinking yourself gay by entertaining maybes can cause you to consider this. If you was not sexually attracted to the same gender then you are not gay. You may have some gender dysphoria. You may have characteristics some people may think tells you are gay. If a child has a born gender dysphoria, they usually want to be the opposite sex, but if it is learned characteristics, often the child has no desire to be the opposite gender.
2006-08-14 14:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the drugs. They can induce certain types of mental problems which cause something resembling gender identity disorder (which is why they have to be so careful about evaluating people's mental condition when they present with symptoms of transsexuality, before they just recommend them for gender reassignment hormone treatments or surgery). I think this is especially likely in view of your having paranoid symptoms and mood swings. So I think you would do well to focus on getting off drugs, the gender thing may well then take care of itself.
2006-08-14 07:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , you are what you think , first there is no natural attraction towards men and to be frank you are taking drugs and are neither ready to commit yourself to any girl and now your body is reacting , it ok to be lost and then be in dillema , what you need to do is put your foot down and take a stand , coz you are only as gay as you think you are , if really wanna be a man then stand up kick the drugs ,ask your friends to shut up and find yourself a nice gal
all the best
2006-08-14 07:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by Success & Money 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YU urself can answer this question very well, rather than posting it here.
anyways, just by getting bored with girls does nt makes yu gay, you are gay, if yu get atracted towards men, yu admire them in physical fashion and get attracted by masculinity.
I am STRAIGHT TURNED GAY guy, and thats why telling you the truth, and m not ashamed of admitting to this fact. M proud am gay.
2006-08-14 07:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by desi_guy24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there really such a thing or are we all just sexual and society has forced us to become a label? We have all had thoughts of sexual situations that have excited us, but we know that society would frown upon such thoughts. Relax! Be yourself, and as long as you aren't causing another some harm, you'll be OK. OKAY?
2006-08-14 10:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by randyhuman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good chance you are gay, but until you get the drug abuse under control, you'll not discover anything about yourself. Get some help now!
2006-08-14 10:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋