I've been working for a lawyer for about 6 months now. My boss is 31 years old and his wife is 45. I know her because she comes in the office from time to time. Recently my boss has been making moves on me and I've told him off. He is now bringing girls in the office and he sometimes make me do out-of-the-office work like buying gifts for his girlfriends. His wife doesnt know. Should i tell her? What if she thinks that i'm after her husband? what if he lies about it and make it look like i'm exagerating? I didn't tell his wife about the moves he made on me because i thought that i might make matters worse and as soon as i told him off ge stopped, but he is still seeing other girls.
2006-08-14 00:04:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would stay out of it, his personal life is none of your business, if you don't like it there, work somewhere else...
2006-08-14 00:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a hard decision.. The best thing for his wife is if you told her.. It all depends on how well you know her, and how important this job is to you. If she is really nice to you, and you feel a certain connection or you feel you could tell her, then by all means you should, but the problem is that you might be facing losing your job.. but you sound like a good person, and I can imagine you are dealing with lots of guilt.. you could also write an anonymous letter and tell her that you can't tell her personally, but you would advise for her to be more suspicious and to find out for herself..
2006-08-14 00:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by verito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. Your job does not require you to but gifts for his floozies! B. go get yourself a mini tape recorder or set up a concealed video camera so you can get his obnoxious behavior on tape. then the next time he makes moves at you, you can tell him he can either back off, or you'll become a very rich woman because of his stupidity, and take his a** to court! You realize how many women put up with crap like that? and they don't have to?!!!
2006-08-14 00:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD for you to tell him off. this is sexual harassment. I don't feel it is your place to tell his wife. but I would tell your boss if he is going to play the Field that he needs to go and do his own gift buying. If he fires you for standing up for what is right, then take him to court, and then I would inform his wife if she was to ask, be honest with her at that point. You could also look for a better job.
Best to you, I know it can be exhausting working in that envirment keep up your morals, your a very good person.
2006-08-14 01:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would mind my own business. Getting involved in other people's love triangles can only bring trouble. If you can't take your employer's unacceptable behavior any longer, try and find a more suitable place to work.The way your boss acts, any girl with a smidgen of morality would quit this job.
2006-08-14 00:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would start looking for a new job ASAP. When the S**t hits the fan you could possibly get caught up in the mix. You shouldn't be doing his dirty work either. Get out as soon as possible. Good luck
2006-08-14 01:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel bad for her, but you have to leave it a lone. It is not your business to tell. Plus you can believe that you will be unemployed after that. You can always, not give him a warning when she calls and says that she is coming. Or you could possibly open the door for him to get caught. Accidentally sent one of his ladies gifts to his wifey.
2006-08-14 00:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're best friends with this woman it might be really hard to broach the subject.
All I can say is I would tell my boss that I won't be buying gifts for other women and I won't be lying for you either.
If she comes right out and asks you, you have to tell her the truth.
2006-08-14 00:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please concerntrate on your work. Don't ever try to announce this to her wife. If he gets to know you you are heading towards something he can sack you.
May be her wife knows he is a womaniser but, gives her what ever she needs.
2006-08-14 01:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his and her problem not yours,you just work for the jerk.Mind your business before you lose your job.
2006-08-14 00:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋