even when the relationship they`re in is the best and they love 1 another...Why do people still stray?
2006-08-13 23:57:10 · 33 answers · asked by live-o 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
B/C some or most people want something different. They dont want the same thing all the time. It's just like a man that want a new toy all the time(what ever he's hobby's are) or a woman that wants a new purse. They just want something different. It's the same in a relationship. Some people are not this way( I am one of them) You should always be happy with what you have. You just have to keep the relationship new all the time even if it has been 5, 10 or 15 years together. I dont understand it either. Another reason is people always give the other person another chance, if they would stop that then I think it would slow down some. They know if they cheat there is a chance that they will take them back. People don't take relationship seriours any more. It's not like the older days when people stayed married until death. That dont happen anymore. You just have to stay faithful and hope that the person you find will do the same. People do change over time and what they wanted at 25 is not what they want at 35. You just hope you change together. I got married young at 20 and was married for 12 years and with this person for 15. We both changed and was not happy but she had to cheat. Dont know why one of us couldn't just say we were unhappy. But I learn alot from that. It made me a better person and I thought I was a pretty good person then. God throws changes at us all the time in life to make us what we are today. Everything happys for a reason. I know this b/c I meet the love of my life. I am so happy now. She is what I have always wanted. But if all of this didn't happen when it did I would have not meet her. We both were done the same way. We are getting married at the first of the year. I cant wait to spend the rest of my life with her. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck
2006-08-14 00:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh geez, u got a minute, haha, let start off by sayin that, its the thrill of not gettin caught. the hunt, the "do u still got it", the revenge, the hate, the evil within, the lust, the statisfaction, many, many reasons. Alcohol. Many times has that been a factor, but not an excuse, ppl made the choice. Not gettin it, so get it somewhere else? when the other person has made u sooo "horny" that u jus can not resist. Sometimes its jus plain about sex, not having to deal with the strings attached. Revenge, they did it to me, so my turn to make them feel hurt like i have been. Money. wish i had alot of that, ooops gettin off topic, not sure of example from money as i dont have enough. Um everyones doin it, i dont want to b the only one not. Got that special someone u dont want anymore, here u go "cheat" get rid of any relationship, even if still in relationship, trust will b gone, it will still b in the back of the person's mind of the one that has been cheated on, trust me not a good feelin. Stupity "oh man i shouldnt done that, now i feel low" um yeah so why u do it in the first place, hahahaahaha, so many reason, so many stories, personal and from friends, everyone has their reasons, some more weird than others not so, guess it depends on the situation......
2006-08-14 00:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by uni_freq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, people cheat on each other because they have forgotten how to put aside the everyday world and exist as one in a timeless space where nothing else matters but the senses. They bottle passion and desire up with anger, hurt, and heartache. All the little things which make up the down side of every relationship, married or not. One day you feel there is something missing and may be you are not looking for it, but suddenly there it stands before you offering you a chance to spark the flame doused long ago by familiarity.
I think, people usually cheat because there is a conflict between their physical and emotional desires. And they don't have sufficient morals to ignore what they want to do in favor of what's RIGHT to do.
2006-08-14 00:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by foniboki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly because of immaturity...
Or, they have been in a relationship so long, that they are "tired" of the same old thing.
Or, some pretty young thing, happen to give the old man, "the eye"...
Or, some young stud paid attention to her, and made her feel "young again"...
Too many reasons for straying, but it all comes down to a lack of a good foundation. If you have a good foundation and relationship with the LORD, you will not stray... (I am not referring to those who "play church", but, really believe, in the LORD)...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-08-14 00:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are factors that affect a relationship.. If the other party tends to stray, it only means that the person is not satisfied with his/her partner. S/He seeks to find the qualities that s/he is looking for to someone else..
2006-08-14 00:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by jio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if they say they love one another there is usually something missing in there life, they go looking for it somewhere or with someone else and when they find it, get it, take it, then its too late the harm has already been done.
Yes the grass is always greener, but always remember the saying "better the devil you know than the devil you don't"!
2006-08-14 00:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat on each other because there is something lacking ing in their relationship. 9 out of 10 times its the man that is cheating because he doesnt know how to please his girlfriend or wife and then she doesnt want to have sex because he isnt that good so he strays away to find it.
2006-08-14 00:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Robert N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because people are more primitive than we like to think. We are more controlled by animal instincts. And who can tell love from lust? The way we live today expecting to find true love that goes on forever is not compatible with our nature.
2006-08-14 00:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by lonely dancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz they can!! a lot of people want their cake & eat it, especially u men...if u think u might get away with something u do it!!
plus no matter how in love u r, the sexual side can get a bit boring & u want a change (im not speaking from personal feelings by the way! i would never cheat!) x x
2006-08-14 00:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by devine_gem22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why pple cheat? d answer is REASON pple cheat for one reason or the other,a whole lot of reason,in my present relationship now i ve everytin i want good guy dat gives me satisfication and they help me during financial hard time,and that truly loves me,so i dnt see any reason to cheat if am gettin the above,but i can cheat am not gettin any of the above,so my dear there always a reason why pple cheat.
2006-08-14 00:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋