year relationship nine months ago and I know he is wanting to settle down and have kids (he is 31) after 3 months he is telling me he loves me and I am worried that he may just be saying it to push the settling down business I mean when I come out of my four year relationship i didn't date for a year after that and he is my first proper relationship since we split nearly two years ago. I wonder if he just thinks he loves me and doesn't really know. I did say from the get go that I wanted to take things slowly and to me this ain't taking things slowly. What do you guys think
2006-08-13 23:33:11 · 18 answers · asked by sultrysagittarius 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he does love you. Maybe you believe in love at first sight?
All you need to do is to talk to him! I'm sure he will understand. If he has just came out of a long relationship as well then i'm sure he will.
Hope this helped!
2006-08-13 23:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is what your feeling then definitely take things slowly.
Im not sure if Im reading right is your current boyfriend an old flame? Marriage and kids are big commitments not something to be taken lightly. If you feel a connection, can communicate with each other and you both enjoy each other's company and then enjoy the relationship most importantly tell your boyfriend how you feel if he does not respect you wanting to take things slowly then you need time out. Good Luck
2006-08-14 06:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by lou20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you guys should sit down and talk about why you guys are in the relationship and what you guys want from it. If you decided that you want to take things slow I think that you should remind him. Maybe this dude does really loves you and you are feeling abit overwhelmed by everything. Tell him that you are feeling abit unsure but this does not change your situation. Ask him to be honest about his feelings as you do not want to get hurt all because of a misunderstanding that you guys had. Well, the key really is to communicate and tell each other honestly and openly how you feel about each other. Let me know how it goes, Best of luck amigo
2006-08-14 06:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as though he is a bit overly keen and it may be the pain from the last relationship is leading him to say whatever he thinks u need to hear in order to risk losing you and starting all over again with someone else.
Talk to him and tell him that even though u like him very much it is too early to say if it is love!
2006-08-14 06:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by bishbashbosh11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule to say that you have to wait a year after a long relationship to date someone else seriously. If he says he loves you then he probably does, it doesn't sound like the feeling is mutual though
2006-08-14 06:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beware the rebound romance. Or as some call it, the transition person. Don't set yourself up to be hurt. In your relationship you handled yourself responsibly. You are responsible for your own happiness even if you have to be responsible for him. Don't allow him to rush you. I knew my ex for 2 mos when he asked me to marry him i told him to ask me after he had a clue who I was or what I am about. I put him off for a year and he still became my ex.
2006-08-14 06:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Beckie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a pretty insecure guy either that or he falls in love with every woman he meets so beware, he might fall out of love as quickly as he seems to fall in it, ... 3 month is no time.
2006-08-14 06:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by richiesown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't RUSH INTO ANYTHING....HE MAY WELL LOVE YOU AND THINK THAT YOU ARE THE ONE BUT IF YOU GIVE IT TIME THEN YOU WILL KNOW FOR SURE THAT HE'S NOT JUST ON THE REBOUND. YOUR STILL IN THE HONEYMOON STAGE SO AFTER A YEAR OR SO, IF YOUR STILL TOGETHER AND FEELING THE SAME THEN MAYBE THINK ABOUT SETTLING DOWN.
2006-08-14 06:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel amnd tell himn again that you want to take it slow and if he says he loves you then he will stand by you and he will wait for you when you are ready to commit to him, let him know and move on with him. if he keeps pushing just say its got to stop because he is hurting you more than he is loving you. someone who loves you will never hurt you. no one is worth your tears but the one who is will never make you cry.
take care
nicky
2006-08-14 06:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can tell you he loves you. Just don't run off and marry him after three months.
If it feels to fast, then maybe it is. Just tell him you want to make sure he's not on the rebound and you would like to take more time.
2006-08-14 06:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋