I need help with a guy!?

Question

Ok About 3 months ago I wrote this letter to one of my good friends telling him that I would really like to try dating him we are good together and the chemistry is there big time everyone sees it even his sisters see it. Now he acts like I never wrote the letter never said yes or no and I just don't know what to do any suggestions??

Answer 1

Firstly, brace yourself for the strong possibility that he doesn't think of you in that light. Don't ruin what seems to be a very good friendship on what others think, even if it includes his sister.

But yes, if you have very strong feelings for him, you should explore the possibility. Dont get your hopes high. It maybe that he just doesnt know how to respond.

On the plus point, you seem to be good friends, so it must be easy talking to him about anything. Go for it. In private, go and talk to him about the letter. Even if he says he never got any letter like that, just go ahead and talk to him boldly.

If he's not interested in that, chuck it, but make sure it doesn't hurt your friendship. Be open to possibilities in both directions.

Answer 2

If it's been 3 months and you haven't gotten a reply - it is certainly time to ask him about it. Do you know the letter was delivered to him?? Has he ever acknowledged getting the letter??

Keep it casual and try to meet in person if possible - but this can be done over the phone as well. Tell him you still want to be his friend but your curious if he's interested in more. If he won't give you a straight answer or says "No" then move on... his loss.

There still wouldn't be anything wrong with keeping the lines of communication open, but you also have to ask yourself, would you still be comfortable being his friend if he was dating another girl?? I guess that would determine how to keep things on your friendship level.

Chances are, if it's been this long, he probably isn't into you. But you never know... he could just not know how to say it, doesn't want to ruin your friendship, didn't get your letter, etc. So make a effort to see him or talk to him in person as soon as you can.

Best of luck, hon!!

Answer 3

Move on, as it seems that he is not much of a man to tell you himself that he does not have the same feelings for you. Or he just needs time to process the information. Give him time, he will soon come around. Or go up to him and ask him what he thinks of the letter and that he can be honest about as you are a big girl and can handle rejection. He will admire your courage and boldness and it will make him think twice. So, if you are desperate for an answer from him go up to him and ask him directly what does he think about that letter. Be sure not to pressurise him into a decision that he will later on regret. Let me know how it goes. Best of luck amigo

Answer 4

some guys like to make the first moves...seems to me you are rather young, by the content of your question. there is a major difference between good friends and romantic dating, as you know. You can confront him and ask if he received your letter and ask if he answered it and if so, you did not receive the answer...or you can more likely conclude he does not know how to answer you without hurting your feelings, and that he has no romantic interest in you. Just let things slide and see what develops...if anything...from his end...he knows how you feel and the next move if any is up to him. there is no need to confront him; there are plenty of fish in the sea. You do not specify ages, so again I must assume you are very young and relatively inexperienced in matters of the heart..time will take care of that. good luck.

Answer 5

As A Guy, I Would Say That He's Not Into You At All. You Should Look For Other Guys To Connect With, Cause Either He's Shy, Or Into Someone Else. Don't Waste Your Time On This Bloke..

Answer 6

sounds very familiar. I have been in a similar situation. Either the guy was only infatuated by you or now he has started feeling bored. While most people will suggest you to move on, I would personally advice to hold on and bring some enthu in your relationship by doing something new and attractive for him. Something to involve him. Since you took the first step, involve him into something common and wait for the day when he will actually come up to you and say the golden words.
If you are also reluctant to holding on to him; move on but remember, you spoil your own reputation.

Answer 7

there are two sides to a coin, maybe you feel the chemistry and see the sparks flying yet he doesn't feel them or he's playing the hard to get, really wants more attention.
confront him and tell him point blank coz there is no point in beating yo self up when yo not getting any response.
you need to know how he feels about you and the whole letter contents. hang on there girl
if he cant see it the way you do, someone else can

Answer 8

Ask him face to face in a private one on one setting "Do you remember that letter I wrote you?" Then follow it up with something like that you were sincere. Ask him if he had a chance to think about it. Found out if he is single currently. Ask him again about dating him. If he is willing, then so him how willing you are. Then it's on.

Answer 9

Invite him out to a quiet dinner. If you can't have a good conversation as friends, you probably won't be able to communicate in a relationship either. Good luck.

Answer 10

easy...check is he attached?no than try to communicate again..im sure u wan an answer n if u lost sight now how u face him on the streets next time..at least u try...if he is attached..u need to take a break backstage to face the facts..