my boyfriend of 3 months told me the other day that he loved me, this took me completely by surprise and I did

Question

not know what to say to him so I just kissed him and gave him a hug nothing has been mentioned since and I was wondering, isn't it a little soon to be saying I love you and can you really know that you love someone after only 3 months. From a guys point of view of would you feel if you said that to your g/f and she did not say it back? I don't want to upset him but I don't think I am in love with him yet so won't say it until I'm sure. Would it upset you if they did not say it back? And also should I have a talk to him about it and explain or should I just leave it until he brings it up if he does?

Answer 1

I would say that you do not say I love you to hear it said back to you, you say it because you want your partner to know how you feel. I have said this to my g/f recently and did not get a response, but the positive is that we are still seeing each other and she hasn't run for the hills.

As for is it too soon, no. I firmly believe that you know when you love someone, it can take a few days or a couple of years, there is no timetable to love.

Answer 2

I think those words should not be said unless meant; so I think you are right in not saying them. I also think your reaction is OK (I would have said "Thank you" too, but this is me, and that is you, and different reactions are normal).
I also think that it is possible that he may have fallen in love already. If he hasn't repeated it, or commented on it since, you may want to wait for an appropriate moment before explaining yourself to him - but tell him the truth I think you should. I mean, you are dating him, so you have _some_ liking for him, it is possible that it may grow into love; but a person doesn't know his feelings are returned reciprocally, he may act in certain ways that can irritate or upset you. Be gentle, but clear; and don't just blurt it out of the blue.

That's my 2 cents anyway; you know the situation much better. I knew I was in love with my (now ex) boyfriend in less than three months; I even deceived myself that he loved me back; I know I could have done differently and had a lot more fun and a lot less tension if I had been aware of how things are from the beginning. I do love him, and I would have liked it if we had both enjoyed our time together (not so short a time, of 5+ years...)

Greetings, and good luck!

Answer 3

don't say you love him untill you feel it. no point.
I had the situation couple years ago. I was seeing my neighbour, it was fantastic, spending a lot of time together, he even used to climb the wall to get to my bedroom( eh, it was such a romantic fun at the time:) . it lasted for about 6 months and then one night i told him "you know, I think I am falling in love with you" and he was simply taken aback. the reaction was not what I expected... and it all ended after a while.
the worst thing is when people react like as if something terrible happend when they hear you love them, when they got terrified as if you were saying " I want to marry you, have children with you and spend the rest of my life with you, I want you to be mine" you didn't, so it was ok.
wait for some time and if nothing changes inside your heart talk to him. there is just no other way.

Answer 4

hmmm it really is an somewhat confusing difficulty... in relation ships, some say it truly is continually suited to be associates for a good even as formerly goin into the relation deliver. ( less than particular circumstances) i have self assurance that's the problem the position you 2 were so close as associates that you to grew to grow to be and acted as "brother" "sister" and in uncomplicated words observed 1 yet another in that way, ( you pal has, no longer you) my suggestion is that you ought to have waited really longer formerly you advised her the way you sense, after she breaks up. too late now.. u merely ought to attend in case you imagine she truly has the same emotions then you definately might want to stay on the down low provide her more effective time then only a month

Answer 5

after the night before and this is a 1st date were talking about here (im mr smoothy smooth i work fast). my missus said to me as i was ready to leap out the window and make good my escape, she said i think i love you. just as i was making my way down the fire escape i felt this feeling i hadnt felt before, it was like guilt or something. i came back up and we've been together ever since nearly 2 years.

if he says he loves you he means it, ask yourself do you love him. there is no such thing as too early in a relationship. my woman told me she loved me the morning after i gave her some good loving on the 1st date!!.

Answer 6

I don't think it is too soon. Feelings can happen at any stage.
Don't worry about not saying it back - wait until you are ready. It is worse to say it without meaning it.
Also be happy that you have a man who is open and honest about his feelings :)

I wouldn't bring it up, but it is up to you and your relationship.
all the best!

Answer 7

I proposed my gal after dating for a month and we are going gr8
So 3 months are good . If he's being true to u its ok

Answer 8

on of my ex's said i love u after about a month...... yea not really the type that believe's u can love someone after a short period of time but in his case maybe he really likes u.... just dont say it back unless you do

Answer 9

my boyfriend tells me all the time,i never say it back.he doesnt question me, so hopefully yours wont either,dont metion anything untill he does.its easier this way,he probably knows deep down anyway that you dont love him and if hes one of the decent ones he will wait for you to say it in your own time.

Answer 10

just be honest with him.
no i dont think 3 mouths is to early but that my feeling anyway.
if he said i love u it because he means it. dont let this put u off just tell him u wanna take things slow. he sould be ok with it.
look at it in one way at least u know he cares and loves u!!!!!
goodluck
xxxx