What should you do if you courted someone who dont want to have a lovers relationship but only friendship? I told her my feelings and she said that shes already comfortable with that kind of a relationship. That she doesnt want that to be ruined what do you think is the reason please help girls! By the way shes my classmate and she always makes my day happy one time that she got sick for the whole week that im the first person that she told me that she had a very high fever! I asked permissions to his brothers and they said yes that i could court there sister. Where both 3rd year highschool. What should I do?
2006-08-13 22:52:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what ? the same thing just happened to me.... I told the Love of my life that I still loved him ( we were a couple 4 years ago) and he told me that he cares for me, and loves me, but he doesnt want to a have a relationship now. This hurts so bad and I am so sad about it, but i am realizing that I have to let him go. After all, it has been 4 long years, that I have spent thinking of him. I need to move on.
And that is my advice to you honey, you are still very young and there are many girls out there that will appreciate you and want to be with you. Trust me ;)
However if you really want this girl , Here is what you have to do:
1)Make yourself less available. if you dont talk to her all the time or if you dont see her all the time, she is going to miss you more !! ( even if she doesnt notice it consciously)
2)Still be friends with her , but also find other friends and make yourself look busy. When you guys are talking on the phone or at school, make sure you are the first person that ends the conversation , say something like: ohhh i forgot i have to do this, or say : ohhh I have to run , But I will talk to you later.
3) Always be nice to her of course, but not Too Much , I mean dont tell her you Like her anymore, or ask her how she feels about you. LET THAT TOPIC alone and just act like you dont care about being in a lovers relationship.
4) girls ALWAYS want what they CANT have, so you have to try to be that person , because as of now she is taking you for granted.
Trust me, these advice work .... I am a girl and when I cant get a guy, It makes me want him even more.
EVen i another guy is really nice to me and tells me that he likes me, it is much more exciting to see why the other guy for example is harder to get ;)
good luck
2006-08-13 23:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by Armenianchick1978 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she tells you that she only wants to be friend, then I think she really wants just to be friends. I am sorry to tell you this but having hopes with someone who is interested to be just your friend will hurt you more later if she really finds the guy she is interested with. She may cares a lot and like u also a lot but you may be the one. But anyway do try your best. If she accepts finally, that would be great. Bt dont keep too much hope please.
2006-08-14 06:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by samiaa25v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do. She has let you know very kindly, that she does not want a romantic relationship with you. It is her choice. Not her brothers'. Not yours. The best you can do is decide if you still want to be her friend, knowing she doesn't feel the same for you, or if you wish to just let go. In either case, you should look for another girl that will return your feelings.
2006-08-14 05:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't push her
try to be calm and easy
the time will come when she is ready
believe me we've all passed this stage
she's only afraid she may lose you as a good friend if she take you as a lover give her the time
2006-08-14 06:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She must really value your friendship. When couples split up they seldom remain friends and I don't think she would want to risk losing your friendships over it. Who knows, maybe someday her feelings for you will be more than just a "friend."
2006-08-14 06:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u care for her and she 2 trust u as a friend. give her time let her understand how imp r u for her if she feels that u r the only guy whom she can trust forever she will ask for more than a friend
Best wishes from me
2006-08-14 06:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep staying always at her side.. in time, she will be ready to settle with you in a romantic relationship.. don't get tired of wooing her.. she will soon give in
2006-08-14 05:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do keep going on for another four years , you will be rewarded.
2006-08-14 05:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋