What do you think?

Question

My son hit extremly hard my daughter. What will be a suitable enough punishment to make him not do it never again? He hit her in the past but this time was extra hard.

Answer 1

In the past a good butt whipping, today, you would go to jail.
So, what ever he likes, take it away. Put a circle on the wall. have him put his nose in it for a couple hours standing up. Every time he removes nose, take something else away.

You didn't mention age....so wide range of things to do.

Answer 2

All depends on how old your son is. If he's a teen.....take him on a trip to juvenile hall ( a field trip only)...Lecture him and tell him the next time any hitting happens a 911 call will be made and he'll be taken to juvenile hall for a real visit.

Domestic abuse is learned it just doesn't happen. Obviously the underlying answers lay beneath your household walls!!!!!....Who is abusing whom in your own household.

Maybe it's the father or maybe it's you MOM. Take a look and evaluate where the student is learning this awful act.

If your son is a child under age 10...even a toddler...and does the hitting.....I would time out the child for the # of minutes of the childs age. This child shouldn't be allowed to speak or move while in the time out place and should be told to think about what they've done and the consequence on them for doing the hitting. Consistant discipline is most important.

MOM...you really should look at your home structure it seems this hitting thing is an on going thing. You must confront the hitting issue with your children and be firm when you do it. HITTING is physical abuse....and must be addressed or CPS OR DCFS will be visiting you soon !!

Answer 3

You don't say how old your kids are, but siblings will fight. My boys were pretty bad for it. What I used to do, when they were little, was tape their arms and legs together so they had to go everywhere and do everything together. We'd all end up laughing. When they were older, I just separated them. It was a little freaky sometimes. (They still don't get along that great.) Maybe she hit him first. With two boys and two girls, the motto at our house was always, "Equal rights means equal fights" because often girls will hit a boy and think that they won't get hit back, which isn't fair at all. If he doesn't know why he hit her, then he's probably got a jealousy issue. Your son needs to realize that his sister is a special person in his life. Ask him why he hit his sister. Explain that boys are bigger and stronger than girls to take care of them. You can never guarantee that it will never happen again, but it doesn't mean that he's going to turn into a woman beater. Siblings are siblings. They get on your nerves. One of the biggest challenges in life can be learning to get along together.

Answer 4

You need to give him a good lecture on treating a girl with respect. Hopefully, your daughter doesn't cause him to be mad and teases him. Same goes for a girl. She should be taught not to tease the boys and be careful where she hits/kicks him.
Keep a good eye on the both of them and see what causes him to do this. There has got to be a reason. Depends also how old these kids are. Have his Father give him some lessons on how to treat a girl. His Dad can give him good info. Tell him that if he would hit her so hard that she would need medical attention, he could be charged with assult. That would be terrible and the beginning of a police record. Also tell him, he needs to keep his hands and fists at home and not lay a hand on anyone. By law , we are not allowed to lay a hand on anyone. Hopefully, he will listen. Or it is jail time for him.

Answer 5

I hope you punished him well every time he hit her. That is the key. Is there a man in the house? If there is a man in the house...dad or grandpa ...it would be better if harshly (no bad words) that he simply stated to him in a gruff voice. "Men, do not hit women; full stop."

For punishment he should have to stay in his room and write her a letter from the heart appologizing. Then he should do some hard labour. Some out of the ordinary chores for two days...ie mow lawn, clean the basement and inspected, paint the fence etc etc all day. Let him know that if it happens again; he will get 5 days of hard labour and a trip to the family doctor to discuss his anger problem that is endangering his sister. He must be shown by you that "hitting a woman" is a line he must never cross and that is the one behavior that is totally unacceptable to you. Explain he is supposed to protect his sister.

Answer 6

I would make it very clear to him that it was not acceptable behavior. There is no reason for hitting. Do not allow him to do this again. He sounds like he is turning into a bully.

The age of the children would help. A suitable punishment depends very much on the child's age and personality.

Answer 7

Arrange for him to sleep overnight in a psychiatric ward or some other protective but mentally scary place. He can't be hitting people. Or if you'd rather, take him to visit the people who are in jail for domestic violence. But tell him if he doesn't stop, there are other things besides "visits" that you can arrange for him, for his own benefit and your safety. You need never actually do it unless you feel you should of course. You didn't say he was psychotic, just angry.

Make sure no one else is hitting hard at home either.

Answer 8

How old is your son? He shouldn't have been allowed to hit your daughter in the first place. Teach him a lesson before something worse happens. You surely wouldn't want to be the proud mom of a male that beats women ? I feel horrible for your daughter. She should not have had to go through that at all.

Answer 9

how old are your son and daughter? if they are younger, like 3 to 5, put them in the corner.

if it continues, then the punishment should get harder. if he is older, take away what he really likes and keep it away from him for a time appropriate to his age.

if he continues, hit him as hard or harder than he hit his sister and ask him how he likes it.

make sure you tell him that real men do not hit girls.

Answer 10

How old are these children it would be easier to answer such a question with more background . My children do not hit each other but if they did I would make them explain in writing reasons that their behaviour is in appropriate . If they are younger , other than the obvious like time out . I would confiscate your sons favourite toy and leave it away until he kerbs his behaviour

Answer 11

It's depend on his maturity. If he is toddler or kid not more than 5 years old you can give any punishment or can tell him no more toys or superman movies if he will do it again to his daughter. And tell any stories about good boys or give him any example what will happen to bad boys . If he is teen you should ground him also warn him if he will do it again you will take him to a psychiatric doctor. If he is adult tell him to move out. That's all.