my last question was answered by a lady who made the assumption i was un educated an forced to stay at home with my chlid. could mothers or fathers that choose to stay at home to spend time with there kids tell us y you choose to do so??
2006-08-13 21:36:35 · 39 answers · asked by Twiggie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i never said i didnt admire those who work thats what u choose but a dont bevieve i shoud b put down 4 staying at home cause i choose to do so same as you choose to work
2006-08-13 21:46:11 · update #1
i never said i didnt admire those who work thats what u choose but a dont believe i should not b put down 4 staying at home cause i choose to do so same as you choose to work
2006-08-13 21:47:02 · update #2
sorry about my spelling, i was just so angry i love spending time with my baby its a special time i dont want to miss. i just wanted to hear other peoples views on staying at home.
2006-08-13 22:00:42 · update #3
Well, my husband and I both agreed that I should stay home with our baby. We are taking a huge pay-cut by me staying home and it's going to be very difficult to make ends meet. However, in our opinion, the benefits of me staying home outweigh the benefits of my pay check. That's just the way WE decided to do it. Each pair of parents has the right to decide what they want to do.
Don't let anyone make you feel that you are making the wrong decison. YOU are this child's parent and you are doing what YOU believe is right. I'm getting a lot of unwanted "opinions" on my choice because I have a higher education than my husband and I have the potential of making more money than he does, blah blah blah...but guess what? It's OUR child...and it's OUR decision.
You're doing the right thing for YOU, so be confident in your decison. Best of luck! ♥
2006-08-13 22:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I stay home with my child to better educate her . stats show that home schooled Children are better educated and score higher right across the board. Anyone wanting to challenge me on this better be prepared to have the tests for our children in French, English , Tamil, and Hindi . Our Children can take the test at the end of High school My daughter will be fluent in all those languages . I am a stay at home mom who has been not only formally educated but could not live without learning something new everyday. I also work at home. Painting Sewing childcare or whatever else will take my fancy. What "working mom" can say that they do that. I get to live in several areas of the world to be exposed to the languages that I want my daughter to pick up. I would not trade places with a run of the mill job for my lifestyle ever. It is a choice I made not something that is forced on me
2006-08-13 21:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by diane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stay home with my daughter because I feel that I should be the one raising her and teaching her things, not a day care worker. My mother works at a day care, but if I sent my daughter there it would be more like my mother raising her. I couldn't imagine not being around to raise me daughter. The time you get to spend with your kids is so limited if you work full time. As a stay at home mom, I see my daughter all the time and my husband gets to see her once or twice a week when we have lunch together.
I am well educated. I had a good job that I quit one week before I had my daughter and they knew all along I wasn't coming back. Because we live on one income, we had to cut certain things out of our life. We don't have cable TV. Both of our cars are more than 10 years old so we have no car payment because we can't afford it. We still have a dial-up modem and our internet access is free because I'm on my dad's AOL still. We buy mostly store brand stuff and we don't go out to eat as often as we used to. There are just some sacrifices that need to be made and I wouldn't change a thing!
2006-08-14 02:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by Amy Lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am working now but stayed at home until my daughter went to school .. i loved it and i didn't miss a thing i only work now because i left my partner and daughters father nearly two years ago , so i am the main bread winner in our house hold ..
i have the same problem people assume I'm un educated and probably work in a corner shop when actually earn a fair wage as I'm a playgroup manager with lots of qualifications in this career
, I'm still bettering my self every year .
if i have another child i would stay at home again and enjoy that special bond that only stay at home parents get with their children .
i can say from experience and seeing other children at the play group that this is the best thing , often children in some sort of child care have a lack of confidence and those who haven't usually have very good childminders and they are hard to find ..
no body replaces a parent weather its mum or dad ..
2006-08-13 21:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by j.j. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any field of life, people should avoid making assumptions about others but find out the facts first.
Congratulations on being able to stay at home, and avoiding the assumtion that people who don't are depriving their kids of something which some other people have said in their responses.
Nobody really knows what's going on in other peoples houses and shouldn't assume some professor knows either.
I did stay at home until mine were nearly 3 and only went part-time then so I think I got the best of both worlds - but that's my opinion of my life and I wouldn't tell anybody else what to do in their life.
2006-08-14 04:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to miss out on the best years. Every first is amazing. First step, first word. I have great satisfaction knowing that i can spend more time with them than any childminder would. i also feel my kids were faster at learning abc colours and numbers through my time with them. my kids are 3 and 1 and when they start school i will go back to my career. however i do find it amazing the women who can do all that and work a full time job i wish i knew how they did it. i would be working only to pay someone else to look after them so what would be the point.
2006-08-13 21:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by nicnic97365 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mother because I choose to be. I have three children from my first marriage, ages 21,19 and 15. I just turned 39 in july. I stayed home with all three of them until my youngest went to kindergarten then off to work I went. This wonderful person walked into my life and this past january we had a little boy together. Sept. 16th we are getting married. Well I chose to again stay at home to take care of my baby. My feeling on choose to be a stay at home mom was because I wanted to be the one to see him reach all of his milestones. I didn't want him in daycare for someone else to take care of him. If I wanted that I would have never of had another child. That was my choice. Everyone does what works for them.
2006-08-13 22:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to stop working due to post natal depression after my first child. I'm better now but really appreciate the chance of staying home and looking after them (3 in total) myself, even though as a family we have been limited on holidays ect due to finances it has been worth it.
Now seeing children at school being picked up by a different person each night because parents are working seems a shame for the parents.
However now that i am again looking for work i feel i have missed a large step in my career opportunities and that i have to start from scratch again which seems unfair.
2006-08-13 22:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by ben 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 kids. I have stayed home with everyone of them. Does that make me less educated? Hell no. Just because I stay home doesn't make me any less intelligent than the next person.
My husband and I don't trust day cares. Too much weird stuff going on in those places.
Don't listen to all these jerks that don't have anything better to do than talk down to you. You raise your kids how you see fit, don't ever let anyone (especially someone you don't know) tell you otherwise.
I can go back to school whenever I want to. Right now I choose to stay home with my kids.
2006-08-13 21:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i had my first child i went back to work part-time when she was 7 months old ( not the job i'd left as they made it very difficult). My sister, parents & in-laws took turns looking after her. Then we moved away from everybody so i stayed at home as i refused to work just to pay someone else to look after my child. Our 2nd child is due to start school soon so after a while i expect i will get a job but it will have to work around school times. Why have children if you're not going to see them grow up? We don't have tons of money and we only get the minimum Tax Credit so often it's a struggle but we prefer it this way.
2006-08-13 22:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by glitter girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋