I met this guy from matrimonials.all the peripheral issues are fine,so my parents arranged for our marriage.
But i am not able to connect to him emotionally.we started to chat from this april.Then he would wait for me online,he would call me if i m not online...send me romantic poems and was always ready for opening up,but i was taking my steps carefully since i was new to such things like chatting .....and he was a complete stranger then.now i got a bit friendly but he is backing out....he usually doesnt come online on his own,i need to call and remind.....he talks point blank...as though only i m interested and that he has nothing more......we chat once in a week and he never calls me like befor. did he lose interest in me?
2006-08-13 20:57:03 · 10 answers · asked by ssss_sss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I live in UK my fiancee is in India, I went India few months ago and she was family friend so got enaged. Came back after few days later.
It was difficult for me to open up but being guy i steeped up, same as your bloke, i called her now and then so that she dont feel weird, as engagement is a big thing, and sort of welcomed her. Gifts.cards, didnt wrote peoems though.
But now thing is whenever i call their home, its the same old things, What did you do? Seen any film etc. and I have to talk to her for an hour to get her talking a little. but then next time its back to square one.
So i still like her but dont feel like calling her same as your guy. Because its not going anywhere, indian guys generally dont want anything else before marriage just friendship. So you dont have to worry much so i say open up and talk to him, show that you are intertested, and his romantic poems and being nice is not a waste.
When he was nice to you, you didnt show intertest probably he is tryinmg to be evil to see whether you like him.
2006-08-14 05:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is pretty strange...
anyhow, i think there is a sudden twist of confusion on his end now...maybe he's just thinking things twice regarding your marriage, could be emotionally, financially and mentally.
but instead of putting yourself in grey area, i frankly suggest that you phone your fiance and open the matter to him, i mean marriage is not just about finding the perfect guy in this imperfect world, your compatibility with one another really matters a lot. but what makes it more important is that its a life-long relationship that has to be nurtured with loyalty and respect.
initially, if basic elements of relationship like transparency, loyalty and trust on both parties are not present there, then i think i think, you should think a hundred times... your marriage plans may not make sense at all...
2006-08-14 04:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by chem_femme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur "i got a bit friendly" part is ur problem.maybe it took u too long to get friendly that this guy thought u were playin around...it is very difficult for a person to judge ur intentions especially if u talk online to start w/... i think u might have puzzled him too much and now he is thinking he might take his business somewhere else.but be straight forward w/ him cause at this point he might just be shifting his attention elsewhere.
2006-08-14 04:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by wizzpack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He has lost interest in you. Most of the internet friends are time pass only. Take care.
2006-08-14 04:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Hardil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most honest relationship is not depend on distances but it all depend on your clear and honest mind one to another....Trust your heart than your mind will lead you to find your true love...
2006-08-14 04:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by j.ratumbuisang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These almost always fail.
2006-08-14 03:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication
2006-08-14 04:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by aeia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so are you still getting married? I don't get it.
2006-08-14 04:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dun u ask this to him ?
2006-08-14 04:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by eternalluv_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TONS OF PHONE SEX!!!
2006-08-14 03:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by ItalianKingofHearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋