There's this group of friends I hang out with, and one of the girls is my ex (we're on good terms though/friends). She has a bf now (the guy is kind of weird, but he treats her right....which is good because I wouldn't let him do otherwise). Anyway she has a bf now but I still kind of miss her (even she still gives me signs sometimes that she likes me...which is weird because she's not like that). I just want to hang out with my friends and be myself/have fun like I used to but instead I get anxious and don't talk/joke/flirt even half as much as I used to with these people! I guess it's just her presence that throws me off when she's around...how can I get over this? I get the urge to flirt with her sometimes but then I have to hold myself back and it feels very unnatural. What do I do?
2006-08-13 20:53:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
EXES FRIENDS? Nope. There is always that little something that connects you two. I say try to avoid the group when she's around and excuse yourself if she comes by when your hangin with the crew. In the end whose friends were these people yours or hers. They will have to figure it out. And if they are good enough friends explain to them that you still have feelings for her and you just don't want her to play games with you. Keep your distance you never know she may come back running open armed. :)
2006-08-13 21:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by trix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey man i feel u on this one...my last ex still wants to stay friends with me and she has a guy now but she wants to be able to fool around when we hangout w/o letting me hit it...its just a mind game for her...but basically u might have to take ur business somewhere else...try to hang out other places where u dont have ur past sittin across the room...no matter what hanging out w/ the ex will be awkward u just need to distant urself to get over it.
2006-08-14 04:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by wizzpack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her Then let it be so my friend.
you say that you miss her and, if you are true to your feelings you may miss her. but you giving the knowledge in which she has a new bf. Let her relationship with her new bf be. Only Hope that she is happy with her choices. Whatever she chooses be h appy for her be considerate towards her and if she decides to come back to you
then your choice is clear to you.
2006-08-14 04:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not unnatural that you feel this way,all quiet and serious,its coz when you feel that,you should be left alone,you feel like you're nothing,(sorry for the scrutinizing) and when you had her as your girfriend that period,you were so happy and so fun to be with around your group of friends.but now,you lost the one you love,although she is with you and her bf,you feel like its meaningless.coz her love is not with you,thats why you dont have all the fun,joy and laughter in you now.
when you said she still gives you signs sometimes that she likes you,but you know its wierd coz its not like that,its coz you are getting the wrong idea,you keep thinking that she still likes you....or maybe,just maybe shes trying to make you feel better,telling you that "hey,its ok,I'm still here".
you said you have the urge to flirt with her,but you held back.its coz you dont want to interrupt her and her bf's life,you want to see her happy,thats why you sacrifice yours for hers.and if thats really what you're doing,I respect you brother.
dont be too hard on yourself that she left you,and you dont have to change the way you act now if you feel that you're more comfortable like this.I'd say your heart is probably aching real bad when you see them together,and you feel like crying too.if you do,then let it out,let it all out you'll feel better.
what to do?I suggest that you try not to think on it too much,coz its gonna turn your heart inside out and it wont feel good.forget about it,bit by bit,its hard,but if you dont want to make yourself miserable,its the only way.when you see them walking together,and smiling so sweet and all that,just turn away,and pretend you didnt see anything.time will heal all wounds,just be stronger as each day goes by.I'm with you,brother
2006-08-14 04:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by sylvestercheese 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel or hang with a different group of ppl.
2006-08-14 03:59:10 · answer #5 · answered by ctwrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your life - completely.
2006-08-14 04:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let yourself go free, and do what feels natural and right to you.
2006-08-14 04:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get self-esteem training
2006-08-14 03:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋