I met this guy a month ago in the context of playing chamber music together, and we really hit it off from the start. We have spent quite a bit of time together, and we seem really shy around each other but affectionate. I thought he was just being shy, but I am new to the area, so I didn't want to rush into anything either; he seemed a bit conflicted, but every time I see him, it is like this incredible feeling just staring me in the face. I keep learning more things about him that match my dreams, and this never happens. We have been learning more and more about each other, and we both seem to get very excited and happy whenever we see each other. We have been getting more and more personal, but he has never mentioned a word about a girlfriend. I just found out that he is in a committed relationship for 1 year. Why didn't he mention it? Where does this leave me? Nothing has happened, but it certainly feels between us like the early stages of a very serious relationship.
2006-08-13 20:29:51 · 5 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This could be something serious and that is why it is taking so long to be apparent to you both and also he will have to go over hes feelings again and again if hes in a relationship already as someone is going to get hurt no matter what dont you agree.
give this a little more time and carry on as friends if you can but try and turn up the heat a little because he might be waiting for that final push in dropping her for you he needs confirmation that what hes doing is the right thing to do otherwise he will remain with (the better the devil you know) so keep those feelings and time will tell if this is a match made in heaven and with what you tell me its one of those beginnings without an ending so good luck
2006-08-13 20:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by magnum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't a player -- but someone who found you interesting and perhaps attractive, and someone who enjoyed the connection between you two and didn't want it to end by announcing that he has a girlfriend. He likes how he feels right now. But of course you have to accept the fact that this is NOT the early stages of a serious relationship. It may be the beginning of a big mess!
1. He didn't tell you because he didn't want the "feelings" to end.
2. He was being immature/irresponsible
3. You need to leave him alone before your feelings grow any stronger
Much success!
-GirlShrink
2006-08-14 03:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by girlshrinkdotcom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with this situation based on what your heart desires, and you aren't using your head. Despite the feelings you think you have for eachother, he's dishonest and appears to be opportunistic. One of you should have some respect for the fact that he's in a committed relationship and since it obviously isn't going to be him you should back away from this pig.
2006-08-14 03:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend you don't know he has a girlfriend and ask him out, see what he does with that.
2006-08-14 03:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back away...Let him figure out what/who he wants...You being with him is unfair to the other girl who has never done anything to you.......
2006-08-14 03:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋