I'm 24 and nowhere near to getting married, but I see all my friends from high school getting married and it freaks me out! Is it normal to be afraid of getting married, most women I meet can't wait to get married. I feel like I should be trying to settle down or something. Has anybody else experienced this??? Where everyone around them is settled with the house and wife and the kids and the dog - but you're not and it freaks you out. Please help I feel like such a freak of nature!
2006-08-13 19:50:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about this way, You are only 24 honey, you have a long time to enjoy yourself. You can get married anytime, have kids anytime, but your twenties only come once. Twenties are a time when you are responsible for yourself, you have the energy, health, and the attitude to do anything.. after that, its kinda hard. I say enjoy! Then who will be jealous? Besides, who says being a freak is freaky? Its the in thing now ;)
2006-08-13 19:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by epooji 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do whats right for you, in your own time. Just because many people in your life are getting married doesnt mean that you nessecarily need to do the same. You are not a freak of nature. It's actually good that you're waiting. It means that you're waiting for the perfect mate, and you wont settle for less. When people rush into marriages without being completely sure about it yet, bad things happen, such as divorce or abuse. I'm proud of you!
2006-08-13 19:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are far from a freak of nature. Where I'm living at everyone is doing that too. And its like the norm for them. But for me I'm like I don't even want to envision kids or a husband yet. I'm not per se freaked out about it either. But I just see it as I'm way to young to be tied down with that type of responsibility right now. And you aren't afraid of getting married, just don't want to lose your freedom at such a young age. And I totally agree with that, because there is so much to do at that early of an age, i say reserve marriage and babies for late 20's or even 30's and live life to the fullest now.
2006-08-13 20:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you lucky girl! I was you! I said "I'll never get married" and sure enough looks like I should have been looking for wood to knock on all those times I said that. You haven't met the 1. You might, you might not, but girl live it up while you can! I can't believe I am married and have a lil girl the 2 dogs and the house. What a different person/life from 5 years ago. But boy did I party hard back then. Phew! It wasn't that it was better back then it was just very different from now. My life is&was great!
2006-08-13 20:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by trix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm past that, but in the next step... everyone around me is having babies! I'm only 25, I don't want that yet! As for not being ready for marraige, it's great that you realize this now and not after you get married because everyone else is. You will know when you are ready, you will feel it when you are with the right guy, but there's nothing wrong with not getting married, either. Don't do it because everyone else is!
2006-08-13 19:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by lilmizzaniml 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont freak out. yes u are 24 and so am i. ur situation is similar to mine, except i learnt not to rush into it coz i noticed most of these married people aint really happy, they rush into it and end up marrying the wrong guy, then they divorce... lets take our time galfriend! marriage is FOR LIFE. we have more years to come so right now, how bout we concetrate on furthering our studies as we wait,and while we're at it, ENJOY LIFE...theres enough pressure in marriage.
Take it slow, u are 100 % normal.
2006-08-13 19:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is each and every physique getting married? definite O_O human beings ought to get this right this moment, they're thank you to many proposals going around, so, who's marrying who? 33 minutes in the past - 4 days left to respond to. extra information i'm a wifey O_O
2016-09-29 06:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by schnetter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's normal to be freaking out when you see all the people you knew have moved on with their lives
but you shouldn't be freaking out because people are getting married too young these days
and everyone's marriage has a set time, apparently it is not the time for you...(I don't think this helps..)
but just wait patiently and one day you'll feel that you're ready
2006-08-13 19:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by Rock 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whenever your feeling like a freak of nature, just think about having to spend the rest of your life with the same person!
2006-08-13 19:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by jrsygrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with your life you should do what it is that keeps YOU happy. If you don't want to get married, don't! I'm sure you'll regret rushing into something just to 'fit in' and ending up unhappy. Take your time, choose your own path and don't let what other people think for you :) Good luck x
2006-08-13 19:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋