Should I remain single as no one loves me and there seems hardly any scope for anyone loving me?

Question

I have read and heard that people should only marry when they get one of their liking..i.e., some one who loves you and you too love her/him. But in my case being an introvert i hardly find any scope of getting any girl liking me... well... i'm just clueless how these guys fall in love. I see couples hand in hand giggling and smiling and talking beautiful things with eachother... i wonder how they beging loving each other...is it all preordained i mean does really god send down couples and let them explore the world for each other... i don't know... it seems so wonderful seeing these lovebirds... i wish i cud ask one of them as what made them fall in love...may be some one too loved me... i tried a feew times but all fizzled out... do these guys have their own special charm to attract... what makes the other love you??? will anyone love me as well???? or just i shud sit back and remain single and let the life pass by...

Answer 1

You should get a gold star and 250 points for asking such an honest question.

I don't know the answer to this! But I have a guess.

1. Seek wisdom in your life at all costs. Don't seek money to impress someone into loving you, don't seek love to end your loneliness, seek wisdom and you will be provided with everything you need, most of all with perspective on yourself and your needs.

2. Learn how to shut down your on-going internal dialog (talking to yourself in words, which is "reductionism" or only recognizing as real that which can be "reduced" to words). When you are watching and thinking without words, you are now open to the influence of the nine Muses, who will sing to you (about how to pursue wisdom! About how to accept inspiration!)

3. Seek out art (especially movies, theater and novels) that affect you deeply. Use 1 and 2 to help you find good movies and plays. If you are diligent and lucky, you will find your own tragic flaw and have it burned out. This is called "catharsis," and it is life's greatest gift.

Answer 2

I asked a question somewhat like what you have a little earlier.... I asked would you rather remain single than to date someone that isn't right for you?

when I asked that, I feel like I know my answer... It is that I would rather be alone, or just date people as friends rather than being in a relationship that just doesn't work for me.

I feel that it is important to feel happy with yourself before dating someone can really make you happy. have you heard that line from the movie Jerry Maquire, "you complete me."? when she said it I was like ewwww gross, a stupid girly movie. it seemed soooo sappy. But really it is true, when you know who you are and what makes you happy sometimes you find someone else out there that "gets you" that understands what makes you tick, so to say.

I've wondered how people find that..... when they look like they are in love. And no, I dont think that there is anything magical to it like love only chooses the lucky ones or God decides who can have love. It looks desirable and some day I may have that, but until then I will do what I enjoy and maybe someone will happen my way when I least expect it. I hope they do for you too.

Answer 3

Well, I think that you should try searching for a potential soulmate out there. You will never find love, if you don't try. And I'm sure you are capable enough of finding someone out there to be with you, help you in your time of need, and to love you. I definitaly don't think you should go through the rest of your life single. Thats a lonely way to go.

I was goin with this one guy for a while, and I was crraazzzyy over him. I loved him soo much. But for me, like, i get the feeling that everytime I get close to somebody, I push them away, so I ended up dumping him so I could be "alone"
So now I guess I am kinda wonderin the same thing as you. I don't know if I should remain single, or try to fine someone.

Well Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

For every person who wishes to marry, there is much hope of finding someone to love who also loves you. Even that, however, is not a guarantee that the relationship will last. The smartest thing that anyone can do is to include God in everything they do. Associate with others who also put God first and then, when you find the right person, there will be a very good chance that you will remain together happily. The Bible says a threefold cord is much stronger than only 2 together. Pray to find someone who has already included God in their life and act now to include him in yours. Happiness is right around the corner.

Answer 5

First of all stop being so pathetic and feeling sorry for yourself. Girls are turned off by wussy guys who moan about how unfair life has been to them. You may get some sympathy occasionally but you won't get any respect or love. Know what you like in women and what you are looking for in a mate. Find out what women like about you. Find out what women don't like about you and work to improve yourself. You do this by learning how to communicate effectively with women- talk to them. Effective communication will help you build confidence. Do this for a while and date some women and you will get some experience and learn more about yourself and what you want in a mate. Eventually you will meet someone you care about and that cares about you. Then you begin a lifetime of compromises and negotiations. If you picked the right person things will go smoothly and you will be happy. If you picked wrong things will suck. Good luck.

Answer 6

Feelin Guilty is onto something. If you want a WOMAN to love you, first of all, you have to be a MAN. The kind of woman who would fall in love with a guy who comes across as weak and whiney would get real boring real fast. So my advice is to go out and do whatever it takes (nothing illegal, though) to give yourself the strength and self-confidence it takes. Introverted guys can be just as strong and loving as the extroverts, but you need to project those qualities. Then quit looking. When you're ready, she'll be there.

Answer 7

I don't think it's so much of life passing you by if you are single, but continueing to live a life for you instead of you finding someone to live for. It's hard to find someone who dreams of the same future as you and is willing to work just as hard as you to reach those goals. But even if you find someone...as you continue to live, change, adapt, grow together... your ideas and plans may change. It's a constant battle wiether you know it or not...some you win some you lose. Even at my worst moments... I can't help but think that this is what makes life exciting... it's just living and never knowing where you will end up.

Answer 8

There is another option : marry & then fall in love with the spouse.
I think that w'd be better for you because after marriage, you & your wife both will take sometime to "introduce" yourselves to each other & if you are intelligent enough, you will find the 'likings' & 'dislikings'........ALL THE BEST....

Answer 9

I got out of a 2 year relationship, and if there ain't no lovee dovey stuff, it won't work out, just relax, everyone will find their true love, promise.

Answer 10

well don't worry buddy your not alone by yourself well i am 21 years old and i am single and i just gave up on searching for love and i am tired of people saying just be yourself cause being yourself doesn't really work at all. well i try to be myself and it doesn't really work so i am just tired of it and don't need love in my life so i am just better off with it. well girl like guys who have looks and guys who are rich and they don't like guys who don't have looks and money...................