love issues!!!?

Question

is it normal to get jealous if the person whom u love the most praises another person?
is it normal to feel offended if your lover lashes at you if you speak against his or her ex?
what one should do if its normal?? and if you feel its not normal then how to prevent this?

1.) If the girl whom you love calls other guy or male actor (whom you hate) as sexy or dreamy then is it normal to get jealous and feel offended?

2.) if the girl whom u love the most and as per her she loves you the most does not let go off her ex just because she cant hurt him and when he is there you feel offended then what you should do?

Answer 1

ask yourself wht u want.. u know better than these ppl

Answer 2

No, it's not exactly normal behavior but each couple is different.

Either you've got some issues with insecurity or being a little too possessive of another. Try to chill out a bit and not take it on such a personal level. It just all depends on what type of 'praise' is being mentioned here but complimenting others on honest accomplishments or just general warm fuzzies to others shouldn't be seen as a threat. Think of the last time you received some comments that made you feel better?? Everyone wants that and the same applies here.

But if she's making remarks about how 'sexy' or 'dreamy' this guy is, then I don't think that's over-reacting. Explain to her that she needs to keep her comments to herself. I doubt she would like it if you kept on talking about what a great rack a particular female has.

There's nothing wrong with feeling attractions for others when your in a relationship, that's human nature, just never act on them. And if your woman cares for you at all, she'll understand your feelings on this.

As for ex's - that's always a sensitive issue. As previously stated, you need to sit down and have a detailed talk about this. What it is exactly that upsets you?? Why is the other person so defensive about it?? Maybe she has some leftover feelings or maybe it's something else??

Once some communication lines have been opened, then you can probably both ask for some type of compromise to avoid these type of discussions if they just lead to upset feelings, but it's something you should decide on together.

If she's unwilling to at least repsect your feelings or work on a mutual goal where both of you make some compromises, then you need to reconsider if this woman is worth your time. If she will disrespect you this way, who knows how she may decide to do so later??

Try to keep your chin up and have a serious talk with her - I hope things work out for the best.

Answer 3

it depends on whom your love is praising. if they are praising a friend or family member, that is normal. those are people that they look up to and always will. but if it is another person like the guy/girl next door or their ex, then the praising is a problem it indicates that they haven't gotten over them yet and still harbor feelings for that person. your jealousy is normal. people get like that when they care very much for some one and you can't have them the exact way you want them but some one else can.
once again, if they lash out at you because you speak against the ex, that means that they still have deep feelings for that person and it is normal to feel offended because they really shouldn't be lashing out at you over their ex. all these things are normal even the deep feelings remaining for the ex. there is no way to prevent this, only ways to solve it. what you need to do is sit down and address the issue with your partner and ask them what the deal is. tell them that you can't be with some body that wants to be with some one else. it is not fair to you to be giving this person your undivided attention when you are getting only part of theirs. it takes two to make a relationship work, and right now they are only giving you half, making it one and a half, and the relationship can't work like that.

Answer 4

1) It's very normal to get jelous when your love praises another person. However if a person really loves you wouldn't praise another persons only to make you jealous...she will only do it at the cost of her love.
2) The same is the case about your speaking against his/her ex. Ex...is ex...and bringing the topic bet'n you and her is nothing but foolishness. who so ever is doing it...should'nt.
3) Feeling jealous or making remarks on each other's ex is not normal in love...if such a feeling has creeped in....love certainly has faded, in that case the relation will move forward on other realities...be realistic...and don't ever try to offend or be offended by your love.

Answer 5

depends on the way the person is being praised by your hunny. if it's because they admire them greatly or envy them it isn't so bad. But if they are saying they are so sexy they'd like to **** them then you might want to consider not being with them.
As far as feeling offended if your lover lashes out in defense of their ex.... I'd be extremely hurt. Being the new girlfriend I'd think that I should be chosen over any other girl exept for mom... unless she's evil. When they defend the ex it seems like they still have unresolved feelings with them. and if so... again... move on.

Answer 6

Yeah, right! It's normal to feel that way. Because it doesn't mean that your partner praises another person he/she fall with somebody. Maybe he/she found "something" with that person that perhaps you don't have. It's natural to attract to other people, but nothing change the fact that you guys have relationship, right! It's normal again to feel offended if your lover lashes at you if you speak against his/her ex, for simple reason: His/her ex is already a closed book and you are the current. You don't let to be compare yourself for anybody even to her/his ex, but of course please avoid to speak against that person because you don't know what kind of personality he/she is and you don't have the right to say something bad words against him/her so that, that person is not yet around to depend himself/herself.

Answer 7

I'll answer that. Yeah, it is normal to feel jealousy and maybe even some other feelings, like sadness or wonderment at your love's praisings...though depending on the context.

To speak against their ex...yeah, that will cause problems for you especially if you get in the way somehow and she makes you feel like that bad guy and you're only trying to make her feel good or defending her!

What should you do?? Are you married? If not...I'd move on. My kids were very young so as long as I kept my mouth shut I remained married, unhappily.

Speaking from experience...my ex did that to me....made me feel poorly and it only ate at my insides for years....everytime I tried to 'talk' to him about those things...it only made him go from me further...cuz he didnt want to hear that he was hurting me...he was a jerk..that's why he's my ex.

Answer 8

A little bit insecure aren't we?
Well,if it's driving you nutts and you are
willing to live a life without her in it,then
by all means get mad and rant and rave.
If you love her,then keep yourself busy and
do other things for awhile. If things improve
then thats great,if not,let her go because
she clearly has problems with her ex and
guys in general and may cause you lots
of trouble in the long run,but for now,try
giving her the benefit of the doubt and see
if it passes. It should if she's normal.
Do other things and go out more.

Answer 9

It sounds like you're a little insecure about your relationship.

If your partner praises someone else or defends their ex, it's not an insult to you. Your partner obviously cares for you if you're in a relationship together, so keep reminding yourself of that.

If you're not careful and your jealousy continues, you might end up driving her away, which would be an awful thing to have happen. Best of luck to you, enjoy what you have. :o)

Answer 10

You should not get jealous if she praises someone else.

She probably still has leftover feeling for er ex. Don't get mixed up with that. If she wanted to still be with him, she would. She has chosen to be with YOU. Focus on that and stop trying to create problems. Love her and enjoy the relationship. Don't muck it up with insanity. She has chosen to be with you. If you create problems, that might change. Life is in you today and you make your tomorrows. Love her and accept her, as it.

Answer 11

yes it is normal to get jealous over that...and if they lash out at u...mabey there not quite over that person..or love them and not u.these kind of situations happen more than u think,but if the person u love loves another..mabey ther not the person for u.u cant force someone to love u...so dont try.and it Will hurt..a lot..but u should try and let this person go.find someone that will love u in return just as much as u love them.