What to do when you have found a true love, but there is a problem?

Question

I am in my early twenties now, I have found a girl who is my true love, a feeling comparable to nothing i've ever felt before, I had this feeling towards no other girl I was with. But the problem is we had a talk about this and she told me that, there can be nothing more than a friendship between us, everything else is impossible. (we had same conversation 2 times already, so she is pretty damn sure) Anyone has similar experiences? is there any chance of her changing her mind, what do you think? I am 100% sure that we are made for each other and she just doesnt see it yet =).


p.s. please don't post something like "don't worry you will find another one", "forget her there are many other girls around", "give it some time it will pass" i have anough experience of my own to say that this time everything is diffrent, she is The One! And thanks in advance for help.

Answer 1

Nothing is impossible. Unless you keep pressing the matter and she ends up not even wanting to be your friend. If you are meant to be together, you will be. In the mean time just be the best friend to her that you can be. I fell in love with someone whom I previously thought there was no possibility of it. But he became my best friend first, then i fell madly and more deeply in love with him than i have ever been with anyone. Good luck, but try not to get your hopes up too high, remember you can't make someone love you. And if you really love her, your main concern should be that she is happy.

Answer 2

Q. Why does a deer run away from a hunter?

A. Because he's chasing it. The deer stops running away as soon as it's no longer being chased.

If this girl is running away from you, then you need to stop chasing her. Right now, one of you is wrong, and there's a 50% chance it's you, not her. Probably, even worse odds than that. You feel that she's "the one" and would do anything to be with her, but if she's not even willing to go out with you then she obviosuly doesn't see you the same way or have the same feelings, so she's probably right that you aren't "the one" for her. In any case, the only hope you have is to stop chasing her away, but I wouldn't get my hopes up in any event.

Answer 3

I think you should believe her. I've been in the same situation (well telling guys to move on because nothing more than a friendship is possible and all the times I've said it it's been because I really can't see anything happening with them)

I know you love her and it's hard letting go but you should, before you get even more attached to her.

Good Luck

Answer 4

well i think that the best thing for you to do is (( and i am sorry for saying this)) but give her a little bit of time in that time show her that you do care alot about her and that there is nothing in this world that you would not do for her . try your best to show her that she is the one that you were meant to be with. then if u don't think it is doing you any good back down for a little bit. don't talk to her as much or go around. let her start to miss you and then maybe she will come around . i hope this will help you out some and i wish you the best on this ... good luck

Answer 5

I'm sorry for the situation you're experiencing. I'm also sorry to say that I can't say any of those in your "p.s.". If she doesn't have the same feelings it's called unrequited love. You can't fix it and time doesn't make it better. If you two are meant to be like you say...she'll come around to you. Don't rush it and don't continue with these "conversations" you have with her. It only further pushes her away. It reminds her of what she's told you in the past. So, just keep being friends. Try to date around, jealousy ALWAYS brings a girl around (trust me), Like I said, if it's meant to happen, IT WILL HAPPEN WITHOUT YOUR HELP!

Answer 6

Hi - I'm really sorry to say this, but if you've already had this discussion a couple of times, she's absolutely sure that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. You need to respect her wishes and you also need to appreciate the fact that this is probably quite an uncomfortable position for her to be in. It sounds like she's trying to be nice to you and letting you down gently. And I know it's hard and you don't want to hear it, especially when you feel so strongly about her. But you can't force her to fall in love with you, so do the respectable thing and give her her space and try to move on.

Answer 7

I think its the hardest feeling to have love without love back. I thought I loved a guy but he wasn't sure if he was ready for such a intense relationship. We never really hooked up for more than just friends, and we are still friends but I had to give myself space to get over the way I felt. I still have strong feelings for him, but now I know it could never be more because it was all one sided.

Answer 8

Well you can make her jealous. Stop going out with her for a while and meet some other girl BUT don't lose contact with her. Ask her where to go with your new "girlfriend", go out all together etc. If she finds out that she has feellings about you she will do everything to gain you back.
But if you see that she doesn't care move on. And i know that you don't want to read it but "don't worry you will find another one"!!!
Good luck!

Answer 9

i am like u im letting my bf wait till he 100% sure to take the relationship to the next level there are a few problems that we have talked about, and its hard to know where i stand but im happy just knowing he likes me for me. Hang in there but dont stress her she might run. But remind each other to be honest with each other in how yas feel.

Answer 10

I advice you to just keep being yourself and since she doesn't realize it SHOW her you're her better half. She'll get to see the true you and she'll accept it. There are times when girls are just afraid of falling in love no matter what past experiences. Give her time. Give yourself time. All can be done with time.