If you had a one chance for TRUE LOVE, but had to make a serious decision to get that love would you do it, if it ment choising over your 3 year old daughter and your 2 year old son, or choising the love of your life and he made you make a decision. To be with him, but with out your kids, or to be with your kids but lose your chance at love?
Some people say I should be mad at my mom for leaving me and my little brother for a man. But the thing is I can't even remember her face let alone who she was. Do you think I should hate her or confront her?
2006-08-13 19:17:23 · 26 answers · asked by Crazy_Wanderer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And also I havent seen her in13 years and now she 's been trying to contact me what do I do?
2006-08-13 19:24:21 · update #1
re: But the thing is I can't even remember her face let alone who she was.
......that sounds like someone else raised you and that person would be your beloved (i assume) parent.
re: Do you think I should hate her or confront her?
......can't imagine how you'd hate someone you don't even know. I'd just be polite to her, like anyone else.
2006-08-13 20:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by jimrich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man made you choose between your kids and him, he's not much a of a man. Any woman who would make that choice without realizing that is entirely responsible for the choice she makes. He just asked the question, she's the one who came up with the answer. Don't hate her, don't confront her, just let it go. You have every right to hate her, but that won't help you any, so forget her, work on making yourself happy instead. Write her name on a piece of paper, jam it into a bottle, and throw it out into the ocean and be done with it. If you live in Indiana, it might be easier to just light it on fire and let it burn away!
2006-08-14 02:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither
If she left her children she did not love you, you never knew her, she was not and has not been in your life, and she never will be, she is nobody. you cannot hate someone who does not exist. Nor should you stoop or bother to confront her, what you think is a mother was just a vessel that served to bring you into this world, vessels have no feelings or care about what are carried in them. So in essence are not of any consequence.
Who ever brought you up is your mother if no one did your father was both. Get on with your life and care about the parent or parents that were there when you were growing up, forget the other thing it is of no consequence.
2006-08-14 02:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love, is a very humbling experience. When you are loved, you are blessed the most. But love should be true enough to make you more responsible and sensitive for your duties. If your love drives you away from your duties...it's a misguiding light.
In love when given a chance to chose from my love and my duties...I'll chose my duties...because it makes my love even more pure and superior. Sometimes love asks for sacrifices...and no sacrifice is high enough.
A love bargained at the cost of your duties and responsibilities is burden. Your mother may have got love but has also defied her responsibilities...she may have carried the burden for the whole of her life.
Your hating her or not will only bitter you up. love your life and look forward.
2006-08-14 02:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by sameer s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a story. To me thats real shitty, leaving you and your brother for a man!!!! And who the hell is this guy letting her do this? If I were in your shoes, I would confront her about it. I would want an answer. I think that the answer - no matter what it is, it doesnt even matter anymore - will let you close the door on that chapter in your life and let you move forward with your life.
Take care and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-14 02:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by maisie24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is a great thing..however if I had to choose a man over my kids..well my kids come first always!!!
Don't hate your mother, only because it's going to cause you more grief to just put in the effort to hate her. If it makes you feel better to confront her then go ahead and make your peace. But if she left you for a man. I wouldn't put my hopes up that you mother would care if you confronted her or not.
2006-08-14 02:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sydney 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone makes mistakes in their lives..she obviously realizes this now. She may be wanting to apologize and get to know you. Life is too short to hold grudges! Don't hate her for her decision, make the best of the rest of your lives. Be careful though..be honest about your feelings because this will help you grow. Good luck to you!
2006-08-14 02:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cija 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't love my kids, then he's out of my life. I want a man who would be a good father to them.
But you have to forgive your Mom. People just make stupid decisions when they're in love. We're all human, we all make mistakes in life, nobody's perfect, and everybody deserves a second chance.
2006-08-14 03:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by daniel29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was true love on both sides there would never of been a choice to make. True love would of had room for kids. Until your kids grow up you should be there for them, love them, protect them, and always share their life with them. You are the one who brought them into this life you are responsible to raise them. I think you should confront her what do you have to lose.
2006-08-14 02:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by hollie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well don't keep it inside you. Hate her or not it's the same thing. It was aw full what she did but you don't remember her.So...
Live your life and don't look back!
PS: You can find a lot of "TRUE LOVE" out there. The thing is what you want to find.....
2006-08-14 02:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by zoqafune 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋