can a single mom with 4 kids find someone to love her and her kids and they be a decent person? or am i doomed to be single the rest of my life?
2006-08-13 19:00:27 · 19 answers · asked by concerned mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
was married first then kids... we have been divorced for a few years now.. he has remarried I have dated but nothing lasted
2006-08-13 19:06:28 · update #1
YES...YES...YES...! You can find a decent good man. I'll be honest, it may take awhile. It may even be years from now but it will be worth the wait when you finally find him. Hopefully he'll be the last one you ever have to wait for.
You may hear others say that it will be near impossible to find a decent man especially with four kids...ignore them! It's hard enough to find a decent man period...kids or no kids!
Focus on your kids for now. A good man will love your kids and you no questions asked if he's truly a good man. Do not settle for less. You deserve to find someone good enough for you and your kids just keep in mind it probably will take awhile not because you have kids but because it's hard to find a good man.
Don't settle for someone who doesn't treat you and your kids like gold! It's worth the wait. Forget your ex. That's the difference with men and women. Women want a good partner especially if they have kids. Men don't consider that a priority. Focus on you and your kids for now. Love will find you.
2006-08-13 19:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by AB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your attitude will determine what you get
no man like seeinfg a women who is bitter about her plight
who compares or nags about her ex
truth being told you odds are definbely stacked against you
as most men as you know prefer non encumbered women
but there are the rare few that do stand out that men do like to be with
and it's usally the attitude, how well you hold your head up, how well you speak, dress.. behave ,, how well you look... that will make a guy take notice of you and rethink what he thought were absolute no go areas...
it's happening to my best friend
he is seeing ( going on 2 years now ) a pretty divorced mother of 2
and he told me he'ld NEVER ever do that
she is indeed a very good women
and if you met her you would not think she was divorced
as she keep a upbeat outlook on life and is happy she has met my friend
she's not quite she she want to get remarried
but then that's typical of any women who's been in any long term marriage and then faces divorce...
but key to her sucess is that she was leading a healthy normal life, surrounded by married and single freinds alike
and that's what attracted my friend to her... she was not your bitter divorced women.. indeed she can compete with the single women quite well, and that's a good sign
2006-08-13 19:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there is someone out there for ya. Just keep looking and be careful because there are some creeps out there just targeting single moms with kids. Just to get to the kids.
2006-08-13 19:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by civicsea25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can, do not lose the hope but you have to find someone who is the right person for you, some one who can fit you and take care of your kids and love them like their own sons. I recommend that this guy has kids also like you. Do not worry you will find it but you have to wait and I wish you luck
2006-08-13 19:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taht all depends if u want to be with someone again. Dont rush into it. Im the same but i have only 2 daughters. My Bf isnt fully sure atm what he wants so we arent rushing anything. And its the best relationship to have yah i might get hurt if he decides that he doesnt want more then what we have atm but least i can say we can always remain friends as long as we possibly can. So good luck!! :o)-}-<
2006-08-13 19:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by -=á?¦ §êÃ?Ã¥ ?=- 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there, I have a friend who has three great kids and she just got married this past Fall and they are as happy as bugs in a rug.
I know it's easy to say but there is indeed someone out there for you. Don't lose hope...
2006-08-13 19:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by David D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! There is someone right now, I'm so positive of it, who thinks you're a wonderful person! For your personality and for your children. Love will find you! There shouldn't be any "good luck"s or "get out there and try"s because it'll find you!
2006-08-13 19:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by rebel_sweetheart_15_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not doomed. you will be able to find someone if you find the right guy. i can tell you that if you're looking for a young, rich, handsome guy - you're not gonna get him probably. but i am sure there are plenty of men out there willing to love you and your kids.
2006-08-13 19:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you..I have been divorced for 9yrs with 4 kids...I have to believe that there is someone out there for us.....
2006-08-13 19:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by wildleo129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you can find someone that loves you and your five kids, i have a friend with 7 kids and she just got married, but make sure he loves your package
2006-08-13 19:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋