Was I right?

Question

I'm married.
We have a little daughter.
Today was Children's Day here in my country.
Instead of buying a toy for my daughter, I decided to give her a bunch of teddy bears I had hidden that were given to me many years ago from an old girlfriend...
My wife didn't say anything... again... was I right?
Should I have thrown them away a long time ago?
Should I have not been a cheap f***** and buy something?
By the way, I don't feel absolutely anything for my old gf, I just remembered I had those things forgotten in the closet.

Answer 1

What you did was perfectly fine, especially if your daughter likes teddy bears. The teddy bears were from a time in your life that meant something to you or you wouldn't have kept them. So now they have once again created a measure of happiness in someone's life. The teddy bears were being wasted anyway by remaining packed away. Might as well be with someone who will enjoy them.

Answer 2

No, you were not right.

Even if you feel nothing for your girlfriend, your wife must certainly feel hurt that you kept the teddybears in the first place. They should have been given away to charity when the relationship with your gf was over. As for giving these teddybears to your daughter, this was only adding fuel to the fire. How can you expect your wife to be okay with your daughter growing attached to something given to you by an ex?

I suggest you quickly take the teddybears away from your daughter. Do this at night when she's sleeping and in the morning when she asks for them, tell her they had to go away to make other children happy BUT that you got a message that a new teddybear is looking for her. This is your chance now to go out and shop with your daughter for a brand, new, clean bear that is all her own.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If your wife dose not hurt you in your sleep you will be lucky. I can not believe you did such a mean thing. That was thoughtless of you. Dose not matter how you feel now about your old girlfriend the fact that you gave teddy bears to your Daughter that she gave you will break your wife's heart. You just do not do that.

Answer 4

I like it, sort of a memento thing passed on from you to your daughter. The cost of the gift you gave was far higher than buying a new toy as you gave something of yourself. Of course now if your wife knew who got em for yah, well your toast anyways for keeping em in the first place.

Answer 5

Sometimes silence is just silence - a person has nothing to say or doesn't wish to interfere. It doesn't seem like a big deal to me. Did you daughter like the bears? That is really all that matters. You have a nice daddy and me moment with your daughter - what should your wife say? I have old gifts from boyfriends that I still wear, have in the house, etc. - doesn't your wife?

Peace!

Answer 6

First of all, do you feel guilty? ? ? If your wife hasn't said anything why are you worrying about what you have done? ? ? Secondly how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your wife would of treated your child with a present from a past boyfriend? ? ? Only you can answer these questions. p.s. Do you feel like a cheap f***** ???????????

Answer 7

Sos un rata , regalarle un oso viejo a tu hija el dia del niño.. que asqueroso , la verdad podrias haberle comprado algo . Criticas mucho a los indios , a los ****** , pero no hay nada peor que un rata , tacaño , media pila hermano. No pensaste en comprarle una picana ? debes tener alguna por ahi vos.

Answer 8

I think u should just buy some present for ur daughter and if u want to buy the present just buy the cheap present or ur daughter favourite toy.

Answer 9

did your daughter like them? dont really care what you or your wife thought. my sis says you should have goten rid of them. how long? and did you live in the same place when you got them. or are you rely that callus? thats what my sis says. as far as cheap if thay where you animals from you parents or friends. thay would have sentimental value. it dosent have to be new to have value.

Answer 10

I have never heard of childrens day so I am not sure to what extent people usually go.

It seems inappropriate to me to have done this. It is "regifting" which is a practice I don't condone. Plus it is regifting of a gift that was given to you by an ex. It seems slightly sleazy and wrong.