I find it ridiculous when a man continuously phones until I answer personally, despite the fact that I have voice mail and It specifies that I will phone back as soon as I can.
2006-08-13 18:27:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also find their such acts puzzles, but they are so into you, so they can't wait for you to call back...
as for obssesive... guess its almost unexplainable, maybe its their character that they will allow themselves to get so obssessive.
2006-08-13 18:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by chicken pox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many different reasons but the word you use, obsessive, is a scary one. Sometimes the issues are domination and control and manipulation. Some people are able to tell rather easily what one wants to hear and so that’s what they say. They may lavish a lot of attention on someone in an attempt to win them over. Perhaps they think you will be flattered by their tons of attention. Often these people desire to eventually dominate the other person. If someone is having a hard time giving you proper space early on in the relationship, watch out. Jealousy and obsessive checking on you is not a good sign. It can feel good to have someone just crazy about you but the key word to pay attention to is “crazy.” See if they are reasonable people over time - go slow. Try just asking them to wait for a return call rather than calling repeatedly and see how they take the request. If they are reasonable they should easily go along with the request. If they get angry, that’s a big clue like an elephant’s footprints in the snow. If they go along with the request and seem agreeable about this small change in their behavior then maybe they were just trying to let you know they really liked you a lot and were thinking about you a lot. Maybe they were just trying to beat out the competition by showing extra interest. I wouldn’t necessarily cancel a guy for seeming highly interested, I’d just watch for any signs of him being controlling or manipulative. You do not want that.
2006-08-14 01:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're involved with this guy and he's acting this way it is because he is insecure about your relationship. Never mind that his constant calling is probably the #1 thing that's going to jeopardize the relationship, the important thing (if you don't want to be rid of him) is to find a way to give him some sense of security about your relationship. I don't know either of you so it's up to you to figure out how to do that, but bear in mind that what would give you security may not work at all for him, you've got to find something that addresses his concerns and resolves them for him.
Either way, the next time you pick up the phone, you should tell him in a very firm and straightforward way that he is to leave a message when you don't pick up and wait for you to return your call or else it will be the last time he ever talks to you again. He'll get the point! I don't know why, but I know a lot of people who think it is appropriate to call every ten minutes until you answer instead of leaving a m,essage as my outgoing requests. I guess some people are just built that way and need to learn better phone etiquette.
2006-08-14 01:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because most men feel that women play as many games as they do. if you give someone your number, at least be courteous and answer when they call. if someone calls your phone more than 3 times and you do not answer, he might feel as if you are playing a game or giving him the run around. best not give them your number at all until you are sure. if you are too busy, then change your voice mail to state that. if you give a guy your number and tell them that it is okay to call you anytime, then you cannot be mad when they call while you are busy. try telling them to call me after 5 or before 10 so that they get the real picture instead of seeming lead on.
2006-08-14 01:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Knuckles06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you keep hitting on the insecure creep who has no confidence in himself
and thus need constance reassurance from the oppsoite sex
unfortunately for you when you do give out your number ( why would you even do that.. ? ), they see that as acceptance of them and that you have genuine interest..
and they fear losing that contact.. so they keep at it, not realizing they are only driving the women in question away
next time get his number.. and then wait.... let him stew a while to hear his reaction when you call him.... or better yet keep it at his email...
2006-08-14 01:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I never do this (phone call thing) , I pity the fool who does.
Anyway, men get obsessive because they are stupid and their heart is in the right place, but the mind is a bit crazy or something.
2006-08-14 01:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Trey123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sumtimes men get more sweeter in ways u wont recognize...
2006-08-14 01:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by mich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we are worried that you may forget that we really are head over heels in love, WITH YOU.
2006-08-14 01:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe they´re jealous.
2006-08-14 01:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by bruce 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
might be worried about you.... but every situation is different...
2006-08-14 01:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Schmitz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋