ok, when i was 11 yrs old, me and my mom went to get a blood test, i am a very mature person, and was really wise when i was younger,meaning i watched ricky lake, maury, and stuff like that,so i knew what the blood test was all about. no 1 ever told me the results of this blood test, so therefore im left wonderin whether or not they are really my fam, he doesnt pay child support anymore,im 14 now, and my mom is a lier. i have this thing that i keep obsessin about, where my roots come from, and so i look for traits in my family that i might have, like hands, eyes, i always had this thing with my feet,n i noticed that no 1 has my feet. i looked at my dads feet today, when i was at his house, and i couldve swore they looked alike. im lost and i need some advice(im crying now)...
p.s.
my moms a bad lier,and i already tried talking to her,she says all that matters is they love u,true,but im so confused and i really wanna know,and her sayin that either means she doesnt kno or its true
2006-08-13 18:24:09 · 11 answers · asked by kiddo=\ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had the same obsession growing up. My mother never hid that I had a "sperm donor" that was different than my Daddy. Everytime i would get mad at Dad i would think about how there could be another man out there that would give me what i want. Well, turns out that this man who is my biological father lived 3 minutes from my house the entire time i was growing up..still lives there today. He never showed his face to me or my parents until the day..i kid you not..the day i turned 18 i was working at a gas station and he came in with the audacity to tell me that he is my daddy. those exact words. I honestly let into him. I told him that my daddy is at work right now and i don't know who the hell he thinks he is...i don't know where my story is actually leading too..its just my experience. I just hope you remember how much the parents who raised you love you and that they will be the ones who are there to the end. I believe your mom probably isn't telling you something b/c she doesn't want you to get hurt...Just take my advice and leave it alone...Your answers will come to you eventually without you hurting other people and having to deal with digging them out. good luck
2006-08-13 18:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy to figure out your particular situation, but I'd try to be accepting. Maybe you could think about all the really great, wonderful things your parents have done for you and write them a little note telling them how much you appreciate them both. Maybe you could even write how thankful you are that they cleaned up all your poopie diapers when you were a little baby. Tell them that no matter what any blood test says, you want them to be your parents and that they've earned the right to be your parents. Then you should tell them how much you love them and how when you get older, many, many years from now that you'll take good care of them when they're old and grey.
There are a lot of mythological stories where a child goes off to discover who their parent was. Maybe you could look these kinds of stories up in the library and find something in those stories that makes you feel better.
2006-08-14 01:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Good Times, Happy Times... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted at birth and my parents were very honest with me from the start. I met my biological mother about 9 years ago and although I love her she can't replace 18+ years of love and nurturing that my parents gave me. To be honest what she did was one of the most selfless things a person can do. As a mother of 3 children I know that it would take amazing strength to let your children go, even when you know that it is what is best for them. Yes it was fun to look at the picture albumns and see how much I looked like my grandma and all of that but it lasted for about 30 minutes and in the end it wasn't anything but a passing fancy. Depending on where you live and who ordered the blood test it could also be available in the Public Records. Just remember that though blood makes you who you are physically, love makes you who you are as a person. Best of luck.
2006-08-14 04:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by cptv8ing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First for your title, I'll say it won't change anything cos I already loved him like my father.. So he IS my father whether biological or not.. and that's the way you should feel it too..
Try not to think too much about it.. The most important thing is to appreciate the love that you get from them.. you are still so young and there are so many things ahead of you and you should think about your study and your future.. all the rest will resovle when time comes and there is Always the right time for everything.. when time comes, it will solve itself out and you DO NOT need to worry.. if you think you MUST make sure then just believe that the one with the Feet is your dad.. and love him like your dad.. Cheers up.. life shoudln't be so difficult, okay?
2006-08-14 01:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by Cool Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You little there . I don't understand why you are so keen , where as you are getting full attention and love / affection and support . Why you are so keen to get ruined your life . You must study well , grow up properly , when you will mature enough go and find what ever you have to , that time you will not loose anything and you will be your own without bothering any one's sentiments , so now just relax .
2006-08-14 01:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 14! bright, hurt, confused and maybe feeling betrayed by the most important person.(mom). i was in your shoes. try really hard to think about the type of person he is. did he really play the father figure?, because this is a high pointer!! i know that you need to know the truth, but maybe your mom has other emotional issues to deal with, give her time. if you do have a good relationship with dad, talk to him. i agree! its always better to know the truth, but also the truth might hurt and this is what your mom was trying to avoid.
give it time.
2006-08-14 01:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by teabliss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with u? Yr parents have clothed u and fed u and take care of u all these years in my book they r yr parents in every way. Who cares abt yr biological parents they r not the ones who took care of u. Wake up be4 u hurt the ones who love u most . Just be grateful they put up with yr nonsense.
2006-08-14 01:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your mom is probably just not wanting to hurt you and she loves you and, as long as you are really and truly loved, she is right, it makes no difference. But, if you are just dying to know, I would have a serious talk with her. what do you think. Want some of us to do it for you??? Have her jump on line for a national lecturing. that would be fun wouldn't it.
2006-08-14 01:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by Tony T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you've met your Dad.Or what you think is your DAD
I'm blonde and the rest of my fam is brunnette! Blue eyes and every1 else is brown,you get the point, right?.
2006-08-14 01:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the end love is all that matters.......
think about kids who live with there real parents and hate them....
some have drug addict mom's some have child molester dad's.
so sweety in the end only love ,matters.if they giv u mom and dads love thats IT.
2006-08-14 01:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by sanJose_Guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋