my heads gonna blow and my heart gonna crack, dont know how much longer i can last , what should i do??

Question

I really like this chic, and i know she regards me more than a friend (im not saying she is 100% interested) but she shows signs of it, but she has a boyfriend, she is only young 18, 5 years younger than me, and i know chances that her relationship wont last forever are high (dont wanna sound bad)

its been 8 months since i met her, i think about her everyday. Before i was able to handle it cos i was able to talk to her a bit, but now at uni new timetable has meant i dont get chance to talk hardly at all, which is making it really hard.

The best i get is catching each others eye, or a small hey/hi

I want to just go up to her and say lets hang out, chat, talk anything, but just cant (her having a boyfriend means i wont make any advances) and i feel if i did (to releive this pressure i feel), she may lose respect or feel awkward when she cant.

what do i do??

i wont look elsewhere, cos i tried that, and months later back thinking of her again

Answer 1

Don't move on - go tell her! 18 is a changeable age - she might not be into her guy all that much, but be reluctant to be alone (or think she can't do better). You owe it to her and yourself to tell her that you want to get to know her better. Let her make a choice.

If I was you I would go for it and I would tell her that I want to get to know her better. If she says no I have a boyfriend - you say, "look me up if that changes" or "we can just be friends..." which could turn into something more down the road. Come on - college? What have you got to lose?

Peace!

PS - I don't think the age gap is all that much (and I sure don't know many 5 year old fathers!) lol

Answer 2

Well, most things are against this being a successful relationship, what are you going to do if you do get the courage to ask her out? And if you don't since you seldom see her she could already have done lost the bf and you would never know it...In the mean time she might hook up with someone else before you even realize she is available. Better to get off your moral high horse and risk it now and let her know how you feel, most likely she will reject the advance since she has a boyfriend but at least you will know if she really is interested should she ever leave the bf.
At the same time she might not receive this information well, and think you are a stalker, which by the way you almost sound like since you have this fixation on her. Then there is the thing of you not wanting to look elsewhere as has been suggested.

So you have left yourself and us answering your dilemma very few choices to give you valid advice. You know your choices now, what you do is up to you.

Answer 3

That's really sweet that you're really into her. What I think you should do is try to get close to her as much as possible, I know talking to her has become so limited for you but any chance you could get would really work. If you talk to her more often and you get a chance to really open up to her she would see what a great person you are and maybe even leave her dum boyfriend for you. The next time you talk to her invite her to go have some coffee that would be a great time for the two of you to really get to know each other. Being more friendly with her would make her care for you even more and she wouldnt lose respect for you that way she would gain more. After you being so sweet to her she would realize what a great person you are compared to the guy shes with now. Best wishes.

Answer 4

Well, you could always just wait until she get's married and then make your move. Oh wait, what am I saying? Then it would be too late forever, dude. Looks like your best shot is now. Don't treat her relationship with her boyfriend as if it's a marriage. It's not. She's supposed to be checking out all of her options right now so she won't wish she had after she's married one day. And I know for a fact that marrying your best friend is a smart move.

Answer 5

I've been there and its hard but the horrible truth is that if she was interested she would have made herself more available. To put this behind you though, you will probably have to make a complete idiot of yourself and ask her out to finally learn that the lady just ain't as keen as you are - I will hold thumbs for you that I am totally wrong and that she just about faints with relief when you chat her up.

Answer 6

My dear friend , you are very sincere in explaining your things in mind . This happen with lots people , you have ti take chance , just go and invite her for some refreshment , if she agree to come with you , she is also interested to continue , if she excused , it means she has nothing for you . You have to find another one & same time you will not feel guilty of rejection . Good luck .

Answer 7

Dude dealing with this stuff sucks trust me, but what i would do is if the time effects u talking to her then stay awake or free time to talk to her, she will notive those kinds of things. Also you seem very low, perk up a bit, your a young guy, live ur life to the fullest, if she doesnt work out man, theres plenty more fine women out there.

Answer 8

This has hapeened to me once too?...

I cried in pain, I couln't even sleep...but after a month I over came it and you know what...

I hapeened to have met another girl...that is 300.000 times better than the one I had a crush on... and look at me now...I've been going out with her for 3 years...

Be patient my friend...all is met to hapeen in certain ways --

Answer 9

Whatever you do, don't walk up to her and tell her very politely that you would like to take her out on a really great date which she can help plan if she likes. Don't assure her that you are a nice guy. Don't say "My name is ****, and what is your name?" Don't give her your cell phone number.

Answer 10

could it be love? Just be her friend and let her decide who she wants to be with. Give it a few weeks and if she is still with him then you should just move on, the longer you hold on, the more you are going to get hurt