How do you know when you're 'ready' to have children and to become a mother? Can you tell when it's the 'right' time?
2006-08-13 18:16:09 · 10 answers · asked by epiCure 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
There never is a right time. You'll always have one more goal to achieve. It's good to be through with school and financially stable, though. It's a double edged sword, however. Youth can enjoy the child in more physical activities but usually lacks the patience and wisdom that comes with age. Older results in not being able to enjoy the physical activities as much but can take more of a mentor role.
2006-08-13 18:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no right time no matter what anyone says. Sure you can wait until your graduate from college and find a job, but what if you become pregnant and your boss give you a hard time then will be thinking that maybe it was not the RIGHT TIME. What if you wait until you have a job your husband has a good job you become pregnant your husband loses his job once again you end up thinking it was not the RIGHT TIME.
You are ready after you get married. The baby will be new which means you and your spouse will have to make adjustments which will proably make you think that it was not the RIGHT TIME, but when you look at the bundle of joy you will know hey it was the RIGHT TIME. Live and enjoy life dont fret the small stuff there is no right or wrong time to conceive.
2006-08-14 04:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by ktilton13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the urge to have children or to have a baby, then I would say you are ready to have children.
The best time to have children is after you are out of school and have established a dependable income. Around the age of 23-25.
At this time you would not be uncertain as to how to financially raise children.
If you don't "feel" the urge to be a mother, then your not ready yet. Give it time and it will come to you.
You can safely have children up to the age of 35, then after that, the eggs become old and the ovaries are gearing up for menopause. After 35, the chances of Downs Syndrome is highly at risk. But you can have children all the way up to menopause, but it is risky.
Having children is a wonderful and tiring experience. Be ready for it, plan for it and save for it. But don't get discouraged if you "plan" to have children at a certain time, as conception can come quickly or take a long time.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-08-13 18:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Regina R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you've found a man that will not only make a good husband, but a good father. When you are not in debt, or in school, or too young. Too young is, to me, being under the age of 25. I say that because you need time to get through school, begin a career, get to know your husband and enjoy your new life for a while.
But here is the most important thing; ask yourself this...WHY do I want to be a mother? Make sure that answer will carry you through 3 am feedings, poophy diapers, giving up a good job, relationship issues with the hubby, etc.
2006-08-13 18:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a career and a really good job, and your at least 20 to 28 years of age (bone structure calcium is at its peek,) your good to go. Below that, not a good idea, kids are not a game you can't turn them off when they cry. No more life, parties, or going to the mall. Don't have sex 1 week after your periods or you could become pregnant. Good luck
2006-08-14 01:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by crafty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Be graduated from school
2. Be married
3. Have reliable transportation
4. Have a good place to live and raise a family
5. Have good health insurance for your family
6. Be financially stable, no struggles at all
7. Be emotionally there, you and your spouse for a new baby
These are the basics... maybe other things depending on your situation. Hope this helps.
2006-08-13 18:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you want them...when YOU'RE ready. If you wait for the right time...you may not have any. I had my daughter when I was 32 & I'm so happy I did because I couldn't have any more (due to my health). If I'd have known I was going to end up raising her on my own I'd have had her earlier when I had more energy.
2006-08-13 18:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always wanted to be a mom. Some people call it a biological clock ticking but I had a feeling of being incomplete and that I wanted to expand my family.
2006-08-13 18:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong time. Kids come when they come. Try to be financially set though. it helps. kids are expensive.
2006-08-13 18:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by igirl2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll know, cause you won't question it, and you'll be happy when you do.
2006-08-13 18:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by dreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋