Very Much to my parents dissappointment, I was dismissed from college for lack of academic merits/production, only to be let back in under probationary rules (i.e. limited number of credits, maintain above average grades) In high school grades were never a big problem so this is the first time something like this has happened. Anyway, my parents havent told anyone about this, and neither have I. They want me to live at home next year, and take my classes at a branch campus of my school. which I absolutely do not want. I have never had character issues with my parents and I find it unfair for them to act like they cant trust me. I proposed to stay at school and come home every weekend. but they are not having any of it. I have alot of friends there, and alot of friends in the grade below me from my high school and neighborhood going there next year, and I would be way too embarassed to have to deal with that. Does anyone know how I can help convince my parents to let me have my freedom?
2006-08-13 18:15:23 · 13 answers · asked by d quon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am paying half tuition + books so I think I have some say
2006-08-13 18:25:39 · update #1
That is a tough one. Are your parents paying for your college tuition, books and etc? If so, they may feel that they have a right to make you live at home. What you must realize is that they feel that the reason for your grades is the fact that you may be concentrating more on socializing than academics. You lived at home and made good grades. You moved away and went to college where the subjects are not that much more difficult and you made bad grades. Does not take a rocket scientist to add 2 plus 2. They are interested in your future and that is their motivation. Just bear that in mind. You might work out some sort of deal with them such that you can try it your way for one half of a semester and it you are not doing well again, you will move back home and hopefully meet their expectations before the semester is up and you will not be dismissed again and can use the second half of the semester to come up to par.
2006-08-13 18:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tony T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, they are helping you, not punishing you. Evidently they feel they can't trust you after you blew your chance. They are rightly concerned that if out of sight, you would never be able to do better hence the short leash. Besides, with you at home, they can be sure you don't spend your time uselessly. About friends in the grade below you, I am sure you can come up with excuses to tell them like you just need one or two under-division classes and they are easier and cheaper at the local JC. That's normal. The only way you can convince your parents is to regain their trust and to regain their trust you must earn it. Don't listen to people telling you to move out to be on your own. They are doing you a disservice. Their advice is harmful. If you are on your own, you wouldn't be able to go to school because you'd have to work full-time to support yourself. School is everything you need. It is NOT your parents you need to deal with; it's you.
2006-08-14 01:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with answer # 2. If they are paying for your education then be stoked and live at home next year, maybe make a compromise like, if I'm here 6 months and make good grades we will renegotiate on the live at home thing. . . it's only a year and it will be worthwhile
2006-08-14 01:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you basically have two choices. one is you take what your parents are offering. maybe going to a bigger college was a bigger challenge than you thought. option 2 is tell your parents to give you one more chance. if you mess up your grades again, you will go to the branch campus and commute from home. this is what i would expect from my kids and this is what i would offer to them.
2006-08-14 01:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by nenarmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are they paying for your education? If they are, you might need to just accept being at home next year. Obviously you living on your own didn't work out so well for you this year.
2006-08-14 01:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your 18 or over pay for things on your own and dont worry about what they say.
2006-08-14 01:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you're paying for it, your parents will always have financial ruling over your education.
2006-08-14 02:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lyttle_Starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Menendez on them. 12 gauge shottie
2006-08-14 01:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Cops 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i disagree with u ur parents do have a reason not to trust u hello!!!! u were dismissed out of COLLEGE!!!
2006-08-14 01:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
juss accept it man. if their payin for ur school u really cant do to much about it. sry
2006-08-14 01:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by 123weed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋