I was the sole caretaker for my mother in law when she has Altzheimer's, and my dad when he had Parkinson's. Dad developed a brain tumor, so the last month was even harder. This was one after the other without much of a break in between. How long after they passed away did it take you to deal with it all emotionally?
2006-08-13 17:27:40 · 6 answers · asked by mightymite1957 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
well my dad pass away about 20 years a go and i have only seen him may be 2-3 times in my life.and my mom she had Alzheimer's she died her her sleep 2 years ago on Christmas nite
its was the hardest thing i have every been though in my life and i am still hurting i dont think it well every go away some day are better then other but the love we had was good my mom was one of the best but all mom are i am starting to cry as i write this so i better go
2006-08-13 17:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by little ace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mightymite, bless your heart. Being a caregiver for someone with Alzheimer's, Parkinson's and brain tumor require a lot of strength emotionally, physically, spiritually.
I suggest that you take at least one hour of break every eight hours, and at least a day off per week to take care of yourself too. Your experience will have changed you and made you into a person that can handle a lot of experiences.
Usually, if a person is active with the care, the grieving is already in process. So you may have handled and/or is handling your grief while you were/are looking after your mother-in-law and your father. After a long period of illness and once the person has passed on, there is relief with all concerned because the sick person is finally free of physical limitations and pain.
I wish you and your love ones well, mightymite.
2006-08-13 17:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by tranquil 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes the rest of your life to really get over things like this. My mom had altzheimers and I took care of her until the last few months when she had to move to my sister's house in Colorado because my dopehead brother was here and stealing her blind and she would let me throw him out of the house one day and move back in the next day.
Since then I have gotten custody of 2 of my grandkids that she had never even met and I think about her all the time.
Gosh, how I wish she were here to share them with me, how happy she would be with them, especially them being girls and how lucky they would be to know her.
It has been a bit over a year and half now, she died 3 days before Christmas and about 8 before her birthday.
It does get better. I do think she can see us and she is happy about what I am doing, but my girls cannot see her, or get to know her so it still is sad.
God Bless you and good luck.
2006-08-13 17:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by MrPurrfect 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. My Dad died of Parkinson's 5 months ago. Even though I help people deal with death, dying and depression, losing my Dad was the hardest I've ever had to deal with. I had to talk to myself and ask myself what would my Father want me to do. I will always miss him but I have to live in the present moment. I have to be strong for my Mom.
If you need help you can contact me. I understand.
2006-08-13 17:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took care of my grandmother for a year before she died. I was the one that found her and it devastated me. It still bothers me and it was 5 yrs ago. It was a very tramatic experience for me. It doesn't bother me like it use to but there are still moments. I hope you make it through your experience ok. Good luck
2006-08-13 17:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ange 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋