I need to help my friend?

Question

My best friend asked for my advice but I don’t have any experience in this subject.
He has a girlfriend they have been together for the past four years and he loves her very much. But he is attracted to a girl he just met, IT IS NOT SEXUAL, it is the sensation that you just have to love that person no matter what and he is confused. I just want him to do the right thing. Give me your advice
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Answer 1

You are a good friend.
Humble enough to ask for help to assist your friend in his time of need.
He should know the difference between love and attraction. If he really loves his girlfriend he should stay with her.
He has to take some time to think things trough, this kind of choices are very difficult because it involves the feelings of the people you care about.

Answer 2

I believe its possible to love more than one person and a person makes the decision whether it goes to a sexual level or not. The problem with most relationships dealing with having close friends of the opposite sex is jealousy. Its possible to have life long friends that you truly love and you would do anything for without wanting to have sex with them. Because life is unpredictable and feelings and people do change anything is possible. You don't make decisions on what might happen or what won't happen or you'd never be able to make any decisions at all.

Answer 3

First of all, I would like to bring to your attention that love should not be based on the emotions, but rather commitment. I will give you an example to help illustrate my point: when Jesus died on the cross, He did it out of love. But, do you think that mere emotions got Him through all that? I mean, He went through an intense amount of pain, lost touch with God, AND went to hell for three days and nights. Sure, the emotions played a part, but it was His commitment to the cause, and to us, which got Him through. He was determined to set us free because of His commitment to love us until the bitter end. The same is true for any relationship. You may feel your heart start to wander from time to time, but just keep in mind that you are committed to your partner. You may feel that your relationship to your own partner is running dry, that is, you are not feeling emotionally drawn to them, but if you stay strong and work it out together, you will be all the more stronger once you come out of it. Commitment is selfless. If you commit yourself to someone, you do so with their best interests in mind, not your own. You do it because you care for them, no matter how you feel at the time. Relying on your emotions is both selfish and foolish. If you dump your partner because you no longer feel "the love", you are thinking merely about your feelings, about your best interests. See where I'm going here? Another thing: if you find yourself drawn to someone else, it is likely infatuation, not love. Infatuation is selfish, and it relies solely on emotions. It usually lasts a couple of months, a year at most. DO NOT rely on your emotions! Stay committed to your partner no matter what! Hope this helps, God bless!

Answer 4

Tell him to make a choice and that is the right thing to do. Honestly, I feel he wants both of them at the same time and he is looking for justification. If he is truly in love with the new one so be it. The length of time being with his girlfriend should not be the measure of his choice. It really will hurt but it is better than living in lies all your life.

Answer 5

Tough one. In situations like that, it seems like even if something with this other girl never worked out, it would still be an indication that something is not quite right with his current relationship. Just thinking about another girl like that leads me to believe the relationship he is in is not completely satisfying. He should talk to his girlfriend about it, be completely honest. It may help him realize he is just being silly or it may help him see what is wrong where he is.

Answer 6

When you use the word "love", are you talking about a "feeling" or emotion?

If you are, then I have no answer for you.

Love (according to the marriage committment) is a decision a man commits himself to right there in front of his family, her family and all his friends. He promises in front of God and everybody to love that woman all the days of his life.

Love is a decision. It means he puts her needs in a higher priority bracket to his own. It involves "dying to self".

It also means that he "forsakes all others" (words from the marriage ceremony) "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, until death do us part"

Answer 7

he really needs to sit down and think about it calmly as this feeling may go away soon.

TRy doing some sports to stop thinking about the girl la.

Answer 8

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