me and my mom fight is it ok to talk to a friends parent about it?

Question

my best friends mom is like a second mom to me and it would make me feel alot better if i could talk to her about the problems i have been having with my mom i would talk to a relative but they side with my mom my mom told me not to tell anyone about our problems

what should i do?

Answer 1

finding someone to talk to is wonderful. If your mom is not receptive to talking to you then finding support elsewhere is great, especially if you are talking to someone else that is a mom. Remember your own mother is someone you should try to work on a relationship with but if you are currently on rocky ground with her try to chose your battles with her. As long as you are finding love and support it is not really a major issue where it comes from. My own mother never really liked that I discussed our family issues with other people, however sometimes I felt like I had to get it all off my chest. I would like to think I am a healthier person today because I didn't try to hide all of the things that were going on at home. I would caution that you not make a big deal about how you feel at ease with someone else's mom, it will make your own mom feel rejected and invalidated. Hopefully over time and with some work on both of your parts (you and your mom) the relationship will improve so that you aren't fighting all the time. Until that point enjoy having a support system outside of the house. Good Luck!

Answer 2

As long as you don't abuse your friendship with your friend or her mom, I think it's okay. Sometimes it's better to get an outsiders perspective on things. Maybe she can see a way for you two to resolve this that you or your mom haven't seen. You yourself have to be open to the idea that you could be in the wrong, though. The one problem that I can see is that when someone outside of your family takes the time to listen and give advice, when it's ignored, they get more annoyed than someone who is a relative.

Answer 3

We all fight with our parents when we are younger. One thing to consider, does your friend's mom know yours? Would she feel differently about your mom if you told her things about your mom?Then after you and your mom make up (it really will happen some day) she still has these bad thoughts towards your mother.However, if your mom is being abusive in some manner, your second mom would be a great person to tell. Good luck honey!

Answer 4

So long as your talking to an adult, it's OK to talk to your friends mom. I'd recomend whatever is is trying to talk to you mom first, THEN if that doesn't work, go to someone else.

I had the same situation growing up. However, I'm glad that I still made the effort no matter to al least try to talk to my mom. In rare cases where it didn't work, THEN I would go to my friends mom.

Answer 5

Why don't you try sitting down and talking to your mom? Talking to someone else isn't going to help solve what is going on at home. If you talk to another persons parent, you make make your mom upset or hurt that you feel you have to speak to someone else instead of her.

Try being an adult yourself and making time to sit down and discuss your feelings with your mom.

Answer 6

I think that you should talk to your friends mom. As long as you trust her you should go for it. If your questioning it then you could try talking to a brother or sister. if you don't have 1 then try talking to your mom. If that just causes another fight and still need to tlk then just follow your instincts.

Answer 7

It's cool to talk to your friend's mom. It's good to talk to someone you trust but do try to keep a relationship with your mom too even though it may be tough.

Answer 8

talk to your friends mom. just as long as you know what your friends mom would do for example call social workers or something like that.