yesterday my 6 year old kid wasted syrup on the coffee table and droped crumbs on the floor I feel asleep bc I work 10 hour 3rd shifts and I didn't know she did that. Well my bf said I was nasty for leaving it. By the way I do clean every day. Then today I had a bottle of water in the corner for my iron in my bedroom, he said I was nasty for that, so I blew him out and sent him home bc I was tired of his insults, should we just break up or what bc I don't think we could live together any time soon, and I feel like I being picked on.
2006-08-13 17:10:14 · 22 answers · asked by single mami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I'm not sure this is something to break up over, but I do think you are in the right here. Maybe if this has been going on for a long time and he just cuts you down instead of telling you how beautiful you really are, then maybe you should.
Maybe if you tell him that you're trying to make things work, trying to keep house and at the same time work really long hours at work, and that it really sucks when he cuts you down like that because you really are trying very hard. If he just blows you off or is a jerk after that, then you might seriously consider breaking it off.
Just remember that you don't need to take insults from anybody and you DON'T need to stay in a bad relationship.
2006-08-13 17:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by mgrazus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should let him know what happened with the syrup and water bottle. That is good that he told you what was on his mind (being honest). I guess he could have offered to clean it up understanding your circumstance (that would have been a turn on), and if he does not understand that kids do things like that (by mistake of course) then maybe he isn't a could guy for you and your child.
2006-08-13 17:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that things are turning sour on you. He is becoming frustrated with things, and these are red flags. He is picking on you and your child, instead of trying to be supportive and loving. This will only get worse should you make a more permanent arrangement, such as living together or marriage. Look at things now, and be greatful that you are not already married. This will only cause you heartache, so my best advice is to think through things carefully, and respect yourself enough to not have anyone in your life that is not able to love and care for you, and your child. This is a package deal here, and he seems resentful for that. Find the strength to be able to move on, not only for your sake, but for that of your child. Best wishes.
2006-08-13 17:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Michael 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are single, and you have a child, you need to be very careful about who you date. I learned this the hard way. You don't want anyone around who is controlling and abusive. You work and take care of a child. That is hard, I know. I was a single mom for 3 years. You don't have to take just anything off of people. And you don't have to date just anyone. It is better to be alone than to put up with someone who annoys you.
2006-08-13 17:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by btrfly272001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think You answered Your own question. If he doesnt respect You now why would He respect you in the future. He sounds like a control freak to me. Would this be the type of person You want around Your 6 year old?
2006-08-13 17:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are just picky and spotless what can ya do? but i think you should move in together and let him do all the housework seens how hes so good at pointing out all your flaws , then you can go behind him and pick on him by saying things like that isn't how you clean the toilet , or man you don't know how to clean do you .
2006-08-13 17:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your child does not need the negative attitude this man is giving you.Go to work take care of your child and move on there are still some decent men in the world. Try too look in the right place.
2006-08-13 17:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by J J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an inconsiderate, disrespectful, and might I add...LAZY jerk?? Are both his arms broken, preventing him from doing the cleaning himself, since he finds this "nastiness" so disturbing?
You deserve a man who will help your exhausted single mom self out. Also, he is a pitiful role model for your 6-year-old regarding how to treat women respectfully.
Good luck to you! You can do better and you and your child deserve better :-)
2006-08-13 17:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true that you do clean then send him home and don't have him back. If you are b/f and g/f and he is treating you like this now then how is he going to treat you when he moves in? Good luck.
2006-08-13 17:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants to clean it up, then he should. If not, then he should not comment on it. When he has children and a full time job too, then the both of you can discuss cleaning habits. Until then, he should keep his big mouth shut!!
2006-08-13 17:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Camille 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋