the parents? I have an issue where a grandparent asked to take her grandson to her home for several days which was 2 1/2 hours away from where he lives, he doesn't really know her well. Is this something that sounds strange to you or am I just being old fashioned?
2006-08-13 17:09:35 · 17 answers · asked by frr_ls 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No way would I let my baby go for a few days. At 5 years probably but not 5 months!! Related or not a baby should be with the mum or dad
2006-08-13 17:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No!! There is nothing wrong with that! Grandparents love to bond with there grandchildren. When I was born, my grandmother stayed with us for 3 weeks. I am now more close to my grandmother than a lot of people would be.
Besides, if he is only 5 months old, he doesn't really know anybody well. But, he will obviously have more time with mom and dad, so let baby go with grandma and grandpaw for a few days. They need to learn about the outside world and also get a chance to know the grandparents.
2006-08-13 17:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by blondie_879 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lots of kids at that age spend time away from parents while then take much need vacation time. Try spending some time at the location before you make the overnight stay so he/she can get familair with the sounds smells and people if possible. If not then be sure to send his bedding and anything else to make them feel at home. Sounds like you are afraid of being away more then concerned about the level of care, try to see this as a good break and mini vacation to get some rest for you. Grandparents wanting to spend extended periods of time with a grandchild is fantastic and shows they want to bond as well. To put your mind at ease make a list of the babies habits, schedule and favorite things as well as medical doctor contact information and by all means search online for a waiver of medical consent, in the very unlikely event your child gets sick or injured the grandparents can consent a doctor locally to care for teh child until you arrive otherwise they must wait for the parents to arrive which can be not such a good thing. I didn't know about medical consent until our 11 yr old was diagnosed as diabetic Type 1 and her doctor told us to make sure any babysitter we hired had one in the event of an emergency.
2006-08-13 17:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I plan to leave my baby and her grandmother. She is 6months old and I want to take a trip for a week or so.
I trust her and I have no problem.
So, why do you feel uncomfortable with this? I bet this is your mother in law. Unless there is a reason , I think it is offensive to say no.
Grandparents are part of the family. We have problems as a society because all the burden of raising the kids falls on the parent.
Other societies view child raising as a family bussiness, everybody has smthing to teach the child.
I say, let the baby go unless there is a reason ( violent, above 70 yr old, sick, forgetful, irresponsible) . at 5 months the baby doesnt have separation anxiety.
The grandmother has raised children too.
2006-08-13 21:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by IRA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there's nothing wrong with it a child spending time with it's Grandparent for a few days, if the person is a responsible, trustworthy, intelligent adult. I mean you are not talking about a total stranger! You're talking about a person that raised one of the child's parents. And anyone saying it's sounds strange for the child to go makes me fear "What Kind of a Parent Did They Have Themself, That would Create Such Fear Of A Child Spending Time With It's Own Grandmother and/or Grandfather?!"
Now that's what sounds weird!!!
2006-08-13 17:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by hope_help 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are sure that they are capable of taking care of a 5 month old, I would go ahead and let the child go. They need to bond with each other, although I would stay the first few hours to see how things are going and double check that they can handle this. It has been a LONG time since they have taken care of an infant probably and A LOT has changed since they were with an infant. Good Luck!
2006-08-13 17:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by JenJen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I let my son go to my parent's house when he was a year old but only for overnight and they only live an hour away. I think at 5 months it is too soon and they should not be away from the parents that long.
2006-08-13 17:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEITHER strange or unreasonable.
At that age, he's either going to be oblivious to the fact that no parent is around, or feel completely abandoned.
Try a weekend, or overnight WITH a parent first, to see how he does in a strange place. If that goes well, try one night alone, and work up to more.
Why not ask grand-ma to spend a night/weekend at your place first, so the baby (and you) can to get to know her in familiar surroundings?
2006-08-13 17:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by jagfanantic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't understand the wording... if this is YOUR child and one of his grandparents wants to take her and as the parent you don't trust them - then don't allow it! Find other ways for the child and grandparent to bond that you feel comfortable with... grandma stays with you for the weekend... grandma can take him to the zoo.... whatever you are comfortable with; you are in charge.
Otherwise....
If the parents of the child give grandma permission, why wouldn't it be okay? As long as the child is being cared for by a loving adult, what is the problem?
2006-08-13 17:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... I agree with you, I would feel awkward about that, too. Unless you are having surgery or something equally awful & debilitating and your spouse has to work nights or can't be there or you are a single mother and it is your parent that is offerring to help.... MAYBE. But then, why wouldn't they just stay with you? Nope, I agree with you. 5 months is far too young to be that far away from mom without major necessity. Invite her to stay with you or in a hotel in your town and visit with her grandson in your home.
Good luck.
2006-08-13 17:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋