I recently realized that I'm sometimes condescending to my friends. I totally hate it when people do it to me, and I don't want to treat anyone that way especially those close to me, but I find myself getting frustrated with people sometimes. I don't do it on purpose though, I just don't think I realize my tone sometimes. Does anyone have any tips on how to avoid this, whether by lowering my frustration levels or by choosing my words more carefully?
2006-08-13 16:51:43 · 10 answers · asked by militantfairy 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You could ask your friends for help with pinpointing this part of yourself that you dislike. Ask them to pipe up when you seem condescending to them at the time that it comes up. But I think if you're writing this question you've already diagnosed the problem and that is half of the battle. I have faith, that you see this behavior as important enough to change and, that you will change it.
Good luck!
2006-08-13 17:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Polly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give yourself a few seconds to think before you speak it sounds like. I used to say ridiculous things all the time, and now I take sometime to think of the effect it might have, and I am much quieter than I once was. Just try it out for a bit... become a little introverted, and then when you've figured out how to find a way to be that suits you and doesn't hurt your friends, then you'll have hit that happy medium.
2006-08-13 23:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jus say hey sorry mayb u have anxiety jus tell them right then and there how u r feelin im sure they will understand if they r good friends. just treat ppl the way u want to b treated
2006-08-13 23:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by the_blue_martini_69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If these are truly your friends, tell them your problem and ask them to help you. If you don't know when you're being obnoxious, perhaps they'll tell you and you can begin to change for the better.
2006-08-14 00:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get what you mean.
Just mellow down or avoid friends that are frustrating you.
2006-08-14 02:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be nice to people, and if not apologize as soon as you realize what you did
2006-08-13 23:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONSTANT discipline. It's very hard to change old habits and takes constant attention. You can do it, it just takes time and lots of practice.
2006-08-13 23:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be there when your friend needs to talk
2006-08-14 00:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be suportive
2006-08-13 23:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by mrs. cookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
RELAX AND BE YOURSELF! KIND
2006-08-13 23:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋