If you're over 30 and still single, do you feel embarrassed?

Question

I will never ever get married because I am downright ugly and girls don't like me because I am ugly. I am 33. But whenever I tell people that I am not married or when I have to check the "Single" box on a doctors form or other application, I feel embarrassed. Also, when you find out that other people are getting married, do you get jealous and depressed, especially if those people are in their 20s?

Answer 1

I am 32 and not married either, nor planning to get married anytime soon. I used to feel that way, but not anymore. All of my friends are already married and I still hang out with them, although not as much as before. Hang in there brother, you might meet someone someday, you never know, but don't feel embarassed about your singlehood.

Answer 2

Hey you. I had The same problem as you in life. I was looking, looking, looking and not having any luck. I would meet chicks and go out with them in person and that would be the last I hear from them. But I never gave up. I am 37 and I just got married June 20th. I thought that I would never find anyone and be alone all of my life. I was embarrased at all my family outings. I would feel like they were talking behind my back and people would always ask me when I was going to get married and it was hard to answer that when I found the right person. I started talking to a girl in January 2005 thru e-mail, we then started talking on the phone in March and actually did not meet in person until July 2005 and when I picked her up and first laid eyes on her I knew she was the one for me. My advise, don't try too hard and get depressed. I have been there and done that. The right one will come along out of the blue and when you least expect it. Keep your head up and thing will get better for you!!!!

Answer 3

I am NEVER embarrassed to fill out forms that I am single--actually, I rejoice over my singledom status! You should too. I think you are being too hard on yourself when you say that you are ugly. The guy that I am dating isn't exactly Prince Charming--he looks like a geek, but I don't care. Those girls who don't like you because you are ugly are shallow and don't see the good points that you have. Never feel jealous or depressed that others are getting married. I am pretty certain that it will happen to you one day. You will look back at this and chuckle to yourself how you said you will never get married!

Answer 4

Larrynottheloser-I am 39 and single. Am I embarrassed? Absolutely not! I would like to find a "soulmate" but I'm not obsessing over it. As far as you being "ugly," do you mean physically or otherwise? If you are a beautiful personality, you are not ugly! If one can't see that, perhaps that person should be the one to be "embarrassed." Love and accept yourself Larry. You will then excude the kind of attractiveness that will draw you a mate. Also, relish in the happiness of others who find love and then marriage. Jealousy is an emotion we can all do without. Looking at every situation in life as a positive will draw those kind of experiences towards us. Hang in there kiddo, you got a lot of life a head of you!!!

Answer 5

I'm 48 and yes. the problem is not the singles box its the one that say single and never married. I finally realize that (if there is one) God mad my life suck and made me to be alone for life. I know that people will say don't blame god then why would I give him credit if I found some tomorrow. No matter what anyone says there ins't always some one for everyone and give it time. I have. You still have some time. all we can do is hope and take each day one at a time.

Answer 6

You got to get some positive energy going in your life. Take a look around - are all married couples beautiful? H*ll no! So stop calling yourself "theLoser" and don't judge yourself based on what others are doing. Some of the married 20s may be divorced when they reach their 30s. So live your own life and make it the best one for yourself.

Answer 7

Its impossible to be so ugly that you cannot find a girl to marry or even to spend time with. That is the sadest thing iv ever heard. You just need to be your self and eventially the right girl will come along. Perhaps you need to work on your self esttem first though, honestly women can smell a bad self esteem from a mile away, its a huge turn off.

Answer 8

A lot of people who are 33 are single because they choose to be. It has nothing to do with being ugly. People are just getting married late (or remarried).

I'm 23, attractive, and unmarried. I plan on staying that way for quite a while longer.

Also, you say that you are ugly. Well, don't be hard on yourself; I'm not entirely sure that is true.

Answer 9

You are so lucky to have freedom and independence to do as you please. Relationships are NOT all they are cracked up to be. And most don't even last these days.
Why don't you think about doing some things in your life that you have dreamed of and don't let the fact that you think you are ugly ever get in your way.And check out daveroever.org.
You do for yourself in your life all that you can,and all that you dream. When you start to just live without barriers and feel better about yourself,that will shine through and maybe you'll find the girl of YOUR DREAMS..be at peace and good luck on your life journey.......

Answer 10

No, but if you want to married find someone who will like you for you. It doesn't matter how old you are. People get married all the time pretty people, ugly people, it doesn't really matter. Many of these marriages do not work. Be patient, if you really want to find someone, you will. Good Luck!