all i can ever think about is this guy i have liked since him and his ex broke up. its been almost 8 months and i cant get over him. like with most guys i just find another one after about a month of liking them.....but this one is different. i've liked other guys but he's always been there at the back of my mind. and now i cant take it!!!!!!!!! im really about to burst because i like him so much.....and im way too shy to call him up because i dont want to sound like an idiot. i mean i would feel way better talking to him on AIM......its just he never gets on.....so what do i do? i really really REALLY want to tell him i like him.....love him.....but how can i when im too shy to call him up and i dont do good in person at all either.....especially with my major crushes. so what do i do???
2006-08-13 16:32:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're going to have to call him.
But don't let on that you like him TOO much, certainly don't let him know that you "love" him. Just call him up and then after some small talk ("how's it going? What've you been up to lately" etc.) tell him that you think that you should hang out sometime and suggest somewhere to go/something to do. If you go to parties or bars or whatever it is that your age group does, tell him that he should go. Otherwise maybe ask him to meet you at the local starbucks/other coffee/tea shop to hang out for a little bit. If that goes well, then maybe ask him to a real date to dinner or something.
You're going to have to put yourself into these situations at some point. I know its hard being shy (I was really shy too!) but it gets a lot easier after you do this sort of thing for a while. Your chat on the phone doesn't have to be very long, just small talk for a few minutes and then ask him to hang out. Phone call would only be 5-10 minutes MAX. I'm sure you do better in person than you think you do. You just need to relax and not scare him off by being too in to him. Try to let him think that he likes you more than you like him as a good general rule.
Good luck!
2006-08-13 16:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by mgrazus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLD UR HORSES!!!!!! dont rush in!!! he will only run away from u faster that way.. try the lovely invention of the email...it works for people like u...seriously. try emailing him and ask him out...but dont confess ur feelings for him too early on or u might come across as desperate for him. if he doesnt like u then he will refuse but if he says yes or somethin to that extent then gd for u...he has at least some interest in u. and when the 2 of u are out try not tobe so nervous, enjoy his company, talk to him...and listen - dont look at him and forget everything he says. at the end of that 1st date u should have a rough idea if anything can go on between the 2 of u
2006-08-13 23:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let the fear of rejection keep you from missing out. You cant deny your feelings for this guy. You should tell him how you feel, no matter what may happen. Its better than killing yourself over him and wondering what could be. If you dont make a love you'll regret it later.
2006-08-13 23:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the worst case scenario, he won't be interested and you won't be able to be with him. OK. That's not any worse that what's going on right now, except now you don't know how he feels and are agonizing over it. If you just talk to him at least you will know how he feels and if he doesn't like you then you can get on with the rest of your life.
2006-08-13 23:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah_Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him out. What do you have to lose? If you don't, you might spend the rest of your life thinking about what could have been. Besides, most guys like it when a girl makes the first move. I know I do.
2006-08-13 23:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK check this out .it was the same way for me and my now husband .i totally know how you feel the only good advice that i have for you is to try to put yourself in the same place hes gonna be if at all possible .try to be around where he hangs .from the sounds of it you guys got allot in common so it should not be hard.
2006-08-13 23:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by eliesmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the age old solution- have a friend ask him what he thinks of you. If he says, "I like her" then your friend can say, "well, you should ask her out- I think she's kinda got a crush on you". If he says, "Who?" then at least he'll be sure to check you out next time. If he says, "Uh- that chick, no...." then you can at least get on with finding somebody else. Good luck!
2006-08-13 23:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by W. Coastal Eddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink your favorite vodka get real tipsy then call a cab and go to his house and show up at the door. You can imagine the rest. He's probably shy too.......hahaha!!
2006-08-13 23:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by mytriggerfingergotcha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell him in person. Jessica or Carly can do it for you and then tell you what he says. That way, he knows how you feel without you having to go bright red in front of everybody. And, if he likes you, he can make his move without being afraid you'll reject him.
2006-08-13 23:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him most guys will be flattered no matter how bad of an idiot you seem. I like it when girls I don't even like call me. It is good for the ego, and men love their egos.
2006-08-13 23:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by tonycliftonhere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋