Am I expecting too much?

Question

Whenver I'm tired and my girlfriend isn't, I always end up sucking it up and managing to still go out with her. But...whenever she is "too tired" and I want to do something, she NEVER makes an effort to still go out or even hang out (not even to stay in and watch a movie). Am I giving in too easily, or is it normal to expect her to make a sacrifice ONCE in a while to hang out when she's tired. (Mind you, I work everyday, seven days a week--i'm always exhausted after work. she doesn't work and always manages to be "too tired" whenever i manage to get a day off) *note--we don't live together

Answer 1

You need to dump her. She is too much into herself and not interested in your feelings and needs. Remember, if someday you marry her, it will only get worse. This is as good as it gets and it sounds pretty selfish.

Answer 2

remember all relationships are based on give and take.. You give she takes. You have to draw a line some where. You both can go to extremes and not go out when your tired but once in a while say not tonight. she has to give some times also. I have a feeling if you say something to her she will resent you and tell you if you don't like leave. The ocean is getting ruff how you handle it is how much the boat will rock. keep an even keel. You may have to ride this storm out though.

Answer 3

Talk to her. Tell her the situation and what you need, how you feel. Maybe she has a reason why she's tired (which you do not know as both of you are not staying together). Expect the worst - maybe she's not interested in the relationship! Good luck, my friend.

Answer 4

Geez. She sounds really selfish. It isn't too much for you to ask for her to go out when she is supposedly "too tired." If you can make that sacrifice then she should be able to also, especially if she doesn't work. A good relationship is about giving and receiving, I think you are giving but not getting.

Answer 5

Tell her exactly what you told us.See what the response is.Sounds like something is going on to make her so tired that she doesn't want to do anything.Whether you live together or not she should do the things you want to do as well.

Answer 6

You may need to check what makes her be tired so bad..Also She is not putting efforts to stay 'active' for you(she, not working).
May be you lost your place in her mind long ago. One on one talk is highly a necessity asap. Time to ask her where are you both heading with this..Good luck

Answer 7

Relationships need communication and a lot of give and take.
Seems like you need to talk to your girlfriend, and if that doesn't help maybe think about moving on.
If she is like that now, then you know how she would be if you two lived together.
good luck

Answer 8

I'd say that you aren't expecting too much from her, and it appears to me that she has you hooked to where she is comfortable doing whatever she wants. It sounds like you resent her somewhat for what she is doing, so I say look at your relationship as a whole, over all is it good? or bad? Have you talked with her about how this makes you feel, if not I suggest talking to her about it, and then wait and see what happens.

Answer 9

Have you tried talking to her about this? She sounds selfish. I would explain the importance of being there for each other and if she doesn't get it then maybe you should look at other aspects of the relationship and see if this problem is there too. If it is, maybe you should look for someone that wants to make you as happy as you want to make them. good luck.

Answer 10

no, not at all...you arent expecting too much...you deserve to spend time with your girlfriend because your the one that is hard at work.and plus she doesnt even work and so why would she get the saying to be "too tired"....well, this is just my opinion and i hope i dont offend you or anyone in any way...