She's mentioned things like hating her legs and says she knows which side of her face is her "better side". Even when she recieves compliments like "you're so pretty" she answers them with things like uhhhh no i don't think so, or ahhhh no i hate my nose. She always seems to notice things like mirrors or reflections that make her legs look long, and takes lots of pictures of herself and us when we go out for fun. It seems like all her poses are slightly fake and done so that she looks her best. How can I help her feel comfortable and be herself?
2006-08-13 16:10:19 · 12 answers · asked by ~*~ 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just tell he that she is beautiful and if she doesn't believe you...to take a picture of herself, hold on to it for 20 years or so and then look at herself in the mirror and then at the picture......LOL
She will believe you in 20 yrs .
There is not very many women at all that are satisfied with their looks. Every woman can find a fault with something about herself. And every woman unless they are conceited as hell are going to tell you that they are not pretty when you say they are.
That is just being a woman.
2006-08-17 15:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is either incredibly insecure or completely egocentric. Tell her the truth...ask her why she is so critical of herself. Let her know that it frustrates you when she is constantly insulting herself. Ask her why she has to do that to herself all the time. If she gives you another self deprecating answer just try to be patient. Tell her that she is beautiful and if she doesn't stop putting herself down now she will never be happy. Now if she answers your question by giggling and saying "I don't know" or something like that, she is probably just fishing for compliments from you. If that is the case try to be a good influence on her and show her that being totally confident about the way you look is possible. Being confident is always beautiful.
2006-08-13 16:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, she a woman she will always finds something about her body that she will now like.
Two, you must tell as much as possible that she look good and get other woman to tell her too.
Three, use lots of detail when complimenting her make sure she her you. Say it more that once.
Four, have her tell her self in a mirror that she is good looking.
You must get her to change her negative thinking in order to improve her self. Negative thinking can be hard thing to break, you must be there for your friend, it will take time to help her so she will not have problem later on in life. Be patience with her. Try check on-line for more information.
2006-08-13 16:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by RLC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!
dont worry! she is going to go through this phase, and it will be temporary. of course, beware of it as time progresses, and if continues to be a problem, talk to her about why she says she is ugly, and just try to reason with her, for example:
1.) Boost her self esteem by telling her that a guy was checking her out, and be creative!
2.) Always compliment her outfits and how they look on her.
3.) Self Esteem comes from her heart, and her popularity status which seems to be the case in a lot of young people, so bring her around some of the jocks and the cheerleaders!
4.) Talk to her about starting a relationship with a guy!
5.) If you need any more help, please message me!
-Justin
2006-08-13 16:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur perfect chum is the only little one or the youngest then which may well be a million reason. Or her mom and dad r undeniable strict. i think of sorry 4 her 2. i'm getting A's & B's and that i visit do what ever i decide for 2! it extremely is extremely unhappy how some mom and dad may well be.
2016-12-17 10:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
- try to find something good about her, that she also likes, and then compliment her on that
- help her to find things she likes about herself and forget what she doesn't like
- she can train her mind to look for things she likes about herself instead of constantly beating herself up.. it takes time, but it will work over time.
2006-08-13 16:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing that you can do. Your friend needs to realize that she is pretty on her own. Once she feels comfortable in her own skin, then she will stop making comments like that. This is something that comes with age.
2006-08-21 09:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by taniaderina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution is simple. She needs to get her mind off herself and onto others.
2006-08-13 16:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like all of the compliments have gone to her head. and she just can't get enough attention. ignore her when she starts that ****. if someone gives her a compliment like telling her she's pretty and she answers i don't think so, you should say, yeah, i think your right.
2006-08-19 08:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by keepingitreal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from her,it good be contagious. People like that strive on the attention and self pity they are getting.
2006-08-20 04:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋