question about abortion for all the pro-lifers......?

Question

have you ever spent time with a woman after she has had an abortion? I have spent time with some very good friends of mine, this is what those 4 individual women felt.

They felt sick, horrified, and completely useless. They greived, were angry at themselves for getting into a situation that ultimately resulted in abortion. They cried, and wept, and screamed. They lay emotionally exhausted on their beds or couches while friends helped them through a very very difficult time with compassion and empathy. They judged themselves harshly. In the end they felt sadness and regret.

If you are a christian do you think that by shouting scripture at a woman as she goes into or out of an abortion clinic will really change their minds? Is it your perception that women have abortions simply for the fun of it, do you think they go out and celebrate afterwards? What makes your behavior acceptable? Of course not all woman feel that way after an abortion, but many do.

I understand when pro-lifers simply try to talk to these women rationally, i guess I am asking more about the ones who protest outside of abortion clinics and basically terrorize these women. I respect the ones that doing it sanely and reasonably.

all of the women i described went on to live full and productive lives, they have forgiven themselves. That doesn't mean that they have forgotten.

Answer 1

No.

But I think by letting her sit at the table. By being with her. By giving her a hug I make her feel better without passing judgement.

Jesus said ONLY JUDGE and THROW STONES if you are a SAINT.

I don't qualify to that defintion, how many do!

Answer 2

I am pro-life. However, the process of shouting at women on their way into a clinic is not my style. I don't know if that has ever been effective or not. It is possible it was effective a few times and that is why it is still done. Who knows. I guess the people who do it think more of the unborn baby than the woman. Is that right? I guess from a certian perspective it is. I mean they are potentially saving a life. Ok, that is not my opinion, only offering a possible reason for that behavior.

I don't think women have abortions for the fun of it. I think it must be a very difficult time and difficult decision for most. I have known a few girls in my time to have abortions took it no more seriously than getting their nails done. However, I don't think that is the norm. Since I am pro-life, I would like to see more counseling and help for women in such difficult situations. However, I am not going to bomb clinics or stand outside the clinics protesting. I think the whole procedure is horrific. The very idea of going inside a woman's body to rip out a baby is just crazy. Because I believe it is a baby, to me it is murder. However, don't mistake that point of view for not having sympathy. I realize these women may not share that opinion. I realize how many of these women suffer afterwards. I dont' wish any of them ill will. I don't think they deserve to suffer. However, the suffering you describe only lends more creedence that abortion is a terrible thing and should be advised against. I do not believe a woman has this right to choose. Of course, you will want to point your finger at me and say I don't understand. I understand all too well. I understand. I still think this is a horrific procedure that does not serve anyone involved well.

But that wasn't your question, was it? Basically, I am a Christian and no I don't think that shouting at women on their way into a clinic is effective. Like I stated, it may have been which is why it goes on. I don't really know. I also don't think the majority of the women enjoy having an abortion. I also don't think any of these women are evil.

Answer 3

I am a Christian, I would never protest or shout scriptures. There is no celebration afterwards. If the mothers life was in danger, there would be a choice / decision to make. Abortion is not the only answer otherwise.

I believe adoption is the best choice if you cannot possibly give the child a decent future. Every fetus deserves a chance. I know of a couple that would do anything to have a child, and can't after several attempts. Thousands of dollars later they wish to adopt, thousands of dollars later they don't have, so now its a puupy instead.
The fetus never asked to be, next time use PROTECTION. Theres enough choices out there to prevent an unwanted pregnancy!

Answer 4

I answered this question posted in another category, but for those who are only reading it here:

I have personally seen babies saved outside abortion mills on the very day that their deaths were scheduled, thanks to the presence of Christians offering information and help. If you think that the people selling abortions are going to provide unbiased information, you are sorely mistaken. I have seen abortion mills refuse to refund women's deposits when they changed their minds, while pro-lifers got out their wallets and checkbooks and freely offered financial assistance. I have seen women directed to places where they could receive free financial, medical, and legal aid, free maternity and baby supplies, emotional support and counseling, pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information, and anything else they might need.

The Christians helping women outside the abortion mills are not paid for their work. They go there because they care about the women and they care about the babies. Yes, they may share Scripture. Many (not all) women entering abortion mills do care what the Scripture says about their actions.

If you saw a woman carrying an infant into a building where you knew the little girl would be torn limb from limb, would you remain silent because her mind was "already made up?" Would you think, "Well, I know it was a difficult decision for her to come here. I won't make it harder for her to kill her child. After all, it's her choice, and the last thing I want to do is hurt her feelings." Of course not. You would do whatever you could to save the baby and save the mother from lifelong pain and regret. It is wrong to remain silent when injustice is occurring.

For more information, see http://Abort73.com

I recommend http://www.healinghearts.org for your friends.

Answer 5

this is a very controversial topic, and always will be, it is something that people feel very strongly about, like religion and politics there will always be argument on both sides. for many it depends on what morality means, and for many making a mistake and using abortion as an easy out is sinful. i too have known women who have had abortions and the majority of them did not feel remorse and did not learn their lesson. one woman i went to school with thought so Little of it she had four abortions in five years. there are a host of birth control methods that would prevent this problem to began with and should an accident happen the are alternatives rather than the easy way out. a girl i work with made the mistake, she continued her pregnancy and gave the baby up for adoption. please don't misunderstand me when i say 'easy way out', i realize that there is emotional trauma
that goes with this, however once it is done it is done, there is no nine long months, no adoption, no commitment of raising the child. i feel sorry for no one who cannot take responsibility for their mistakes

Answer 6

The present federal regulations specify that certain minimum distances must be maintained by demonstrators.

Unfortunately, that requires even the most sensitive individual to shout, rather than speak in normal tones, if they expect to be heard.

It makes nearly everyone sound threatening, and that's a shame.

But wouldn't you shout, if you had to, in order to stop a murder in progress?

I doubt those women feel nearly as bad as their dead children, who suffered chemical burns, had their little bodies hacked to pieces, or had their brains sucked out of their skulls, and then were thrown away, like common trash.

Next time, try to counsel your women friends to carry the child to term, and then give it up for adoption.

That's the only right way to handle things when they take an unexpected turn.

You should know better.

Answer 7

I'm a Christian and I don't believe this is effective at all. I can imagine the difficulty women who choose abortion feel and I have compassion for that. Babies change your life....getting to the place of having to make that decision is a tough road too. I don't think that any person has the right to tell another person what they can and cannot do with their body. Pregnancy effects a women's life in every way. Men can walk away, women cannot. Considering that, a women has every right to choose and I would never shout scripture at someone in hopes that they would change their mind. I would rather that person seek counsel so that they are aware of all their options and support networks.

Answer 8

And I have been with women who hve used abortion as a form of birth control.
If you want to have sex then be responsible about birth control. In this day and age there is no reason to have an unplanned pregnancy except rape. Even then the baby can go to full term and then be placed for adoption. Murder is murder. The fetus has no say in the matter. Why should that life be taken for a female being irresponsible???

Answer 9

Some do change their minds and they never regret having the baby.
One side effect of abortion is suicidal feelings. And even in the case of rape the women need counselling on the anniversary of the abortion.

Answer 10

why do things that you know you would regret it. we have hospitals where you can drop the baby off anonymously and adaption agencies and people dieing to have kids because they cant for medical reason.

And you would wont to kill an innocent child because of what?

that child did not ask to be there, the man and women that created did. if you is not in the condition to have kids then keep your legs close and your pants up.

and another thing there is no telling what that child is destine to do when he/she is older. that might be the next president that untangle all the crap that bush did or the person that make a vaccine to cure aids/HIV. by getting an abortion you are killing dreams and hope for the future.

KILLING IS KILLING AND DOING IT VOLUNTARY IS WRONG!

Answer 11

I grew up knowing my mother had an abortion when I was seven. It was the product of an affair and she was very ashamed of it. She had to put up with the critical gossip from my dad's family because of it. She had the abortion on her birthday without realizing it until after the fact. She was depressed for many years because of it, but it didn't stop her from being the best mother in the entire world. Every birthday she has, I know a little bit of her soul dies silently for her unborn baby. She always knows exactly how old the baby would've been. To hear people say that abortion is a sin makes me angry. They never met my mother. They would find that abortion is the hardest choice any maternal woman has to make for the benefit of those who depend on her.

Supermansgirl, why don't you try to have a family and make a mistake that can ruin your entire family's life. Then you call them murderers, ignorant b itch.